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To wonder how mums cope breastfeeding for so long

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Gizzygizmo · 30/09/2018 19:46

My little man is 9 months old (10 months on 7th October)
We are now at the biting, scratching, nipping stage... back flips, kicking around Confused
I feel awful but I’m so fed up and feel so ready to wean him.
I’m on some breastfeeding groups and wonder how the hell some make it so far, maybe it’s the sleepless nights and wanting me for comfort making me feel this way.
I am feeling so incredibly guilty.
Guess my unreasonable question would be is it selfish of me to want to wean him to regain some normality, get my body back and maybe have a decent sleep.
No idea how to wean and I’m bored of feelIng sorry for myself lol

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UnaOfStormhold · 02/10/2018 07:40

The biting phase is hell, but it passes - there's a great article on "when baby bites" which has some useful tips. And there are positives about keeping going if that works for you - instant comfort and calm down, being able to feed when they had a stomach upset etc.

It's also worth knowing that stopping BF may not improve sleep. 2 years after night weaning (we used the Jay Gordon method) and 18 months after complete weaning DS (now 4) still wakes a lot at night. In fact he got worse at first because it took me longer to settle him without milk.

At the end of the day do what works for you both but this was my experience.


Boobiewoobie · 02/10/2018 07:52

IME 9 months was the hardest age. My ff baby slept no more than half an hour at a time at 9 months and my bf one was better, but not much. It was crap. It DOES get better but I appreciate that doesn't help much right now!

If you want to keep feeding then my advice would be don't quit on a bad day and find a local breastfeeding support group. It's a wonderful thing to do for your child to give them breast milk for as long as possible.

If you don't want to continue then you don't have to, choice is a powerful thing and we are privileged to have options.

You're doing great, and everyone finds it hard at some point XX


dustarr73 · 02/10/2018 20:42

If the baby wont take a bottle,just use a sippy cup.
I bf 5 of mine and i think if you have hit the wall,thats it game over.

My last baby i fed him till he was 15 months and at that stage i had been feeding for nearly 5 years on and off.I had enough.

So i broke the habit,dad brought him to bed,and in the morning he used to get in to bed with me.I just got up instead.After a few days he just didnt bother looking for it.


CheesyMother · 02/10/2018 22:10

Do you have a dp who can do the night wakings for a bit? If your ds can't physically be fed at night that might be enough to break the habit.

Alternatively, wear a proper top at night that is hard for him to get into. And don't give in when he cries! That's what I did (at a similar age - 11 months) when I'd also reached the point you are at. I also offered a dummy (for pretty much the first time) whilst I was cuddling him - that seemed to help. After about a week he didn't seem to want night feeds any more - just to be comforted with a cuddle.


CheesyMother · 02/10/2018 22:11

Also, it's not selfish!


steppemum · 02/10/2018 22:16

I fed until about 14 months for 3 kids
They all stopped night feeds at 6 months
They didn't feed/I didn';t feed for comfort, so it was at pretty regular food times, and not really in between

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