To feel like I'm not wanted?

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Badwifey · 30/09/2018 11:50

H is bringing our dd somewhere today. I asked him what time we were going at (I assumed I was going). He has told me numerous times over the last few day that "you don't have to come if you don't want to".

I feel like He doesn't want me there but won't actually tell me he doesn't want me there.
So now I'm feeling shitty and pissed off.
Am I reading too much into it?

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Celebelly · 30/09/2018 11:52

Maybe he's just looking forward to some time alone with DD? Maybe he genuinely thinks you don't want to come and is trying to give you an out?

daffodillament · 30/09/2018 11:54

Where are they going ? Is it that he wants some Dad and dd time ? Weird way of going about it though. Ask him outright if he would mind if you went too.

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Badwifey · 30/09/2018 12:01

He's going to see a member of his family (not immediate). I don't think he wants dad/ daughter time.

Some of his immediate family really don't like me and I think he's afraid it will all come out to extended family. It's either that or he's ashamed of me. (I'm not as attractive as when we met)

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ApolloandDaphne · 30/09/2018 12:05

Or maybe he thinks it will be dull for you and that you might like some time to yourself?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 30/09/2018 12:06

Ask him... buntly!

NorthEndGal · 30/09/2018 12:11

Just say, " actually I would like to come"

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Badwifey · 30/09/2018 12:30

If I ask him we'll end up fighting. He always jumps straight into defensive mode.

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Gardenpicnic · 30/09/2018 12:33

Love it when DH says this and I always take him up on the offer

sahknowme · 30/09/2018 12:39

Sounds like a good opportunity to have some relaxing time to yourself. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 30/09/2018 12:40

If I ask him we'll end up fighting. He always jumps straight into defensive mode. Oh! You do have a problem then!

stripeszebra · 30/09/2018 12:41

is it that you don't like them too?

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