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To have been annoyed in the hairdressers?

235 replies

LargeGlassOfPepsi · 29/09/2018 19:59

I had a hair appointment today. I turned up at 12 really looking forward to having my hair done and reading while my colour was put on. My hair takes 4 hours to do and I enjoy having a few coffees, reading and chatting to the hairdresser. I turned up and noticed the pram then the toddler running around while the hairdressers were trying their best to dodge her.

After being sat next to the parent I asked to be moved to another chair. The baby was 5 months old (mum repeated this numerous times), then there was the "Do you need your lunch, can you remove my gown otherwise he'll suffocate when I feed him and we don't want that do we?" "Oh look here's Sophie giraffe" then fucking Sophie giraffe was squeaked."My nipples must be elastic as you're just chewing on them." Then to the toddler "oh look at what that lady is having done, look over there that lady is having her hair washed, oh look that lady is having purple in her hair"

She was there 3 and a half hours. The above went on for the whole time mum was there then a hairdresser was asked to hold the baby while she had her hair rinsed.

I appreciate people need their hair done but FFS some of us want to relax and have our hair done in peace.

OP posts:
HelenaDove · 30/09/2018 20:08

My appointment takes two and a half hours from me walking into the salon to me leaving.

Ameliarose16 · 30/09/2018 20:14

I'd be so annoyed as well. It's not a crèche it's a hairdressers

HelenaDove · 30/09/2018 20:21

Yep adaline im soooooooooooooo ridiculous.

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Thatstheendofmytether · 30/09/2018 20:31

Children shouldn't really be in the hairdressers. It's a dangerous place with straighteners, bleach, scissors etc and the stylists shouldn't be having to think about not being able to leave these things around because there is a child running about. I'm surprised they allowed it tbh. If you can't get someone to look after your kids don't have a 3 and a half hour hair appointment.

Thevicarsknickers · 30/09/2018 20:34

I go to a adults only salon that's open until 11pm and they serve wine. Costs £10 more than my local standard salon. WORTH EVERY PENNY Wink

sprinklesandsauce · 30/09/2018 20:36

largeglass I agree, I’d never attempt foils myself. It does take ages to paint it on, fold it up, alternating the colours. A bog standard all over wouldn’t take so long but that’s not what I’m there for!

I’ve done my own hair over the years, £5 dyes from Avon or whatever, but that’s a totally different thing to the four colour highlights that I like and treat myself to a few times a year.

HelenaDove · 30/09/2018 20:42

Blimey vicar i bet they are popular

Thevicarsknickers · 30/09/2018 20:48

HelenaDove they are banged out. Such a good idea being open so late, and very relaxed atmosphere. It's heavenly. And they are strict about their policy as well, no exceptions.

NoParticularPattern · 30/09/2018 20:54

I’ve not had my hair done in 8 months. I look fucking hideous with some bloody awful postpartum regrown to boot. I was just thinking of booking an appointment but thanks to horrid posts like this I won’t. Cheers for that sneery attitude. Parents are people too you know (since you’ve got children I’m guessing you DO know this OP). I have no child care and my baby is a bottle refuser so it wouldn’t work anyway. And even if she wasn’t it would be a case of choosing either childcare or the appointment, sadly not all of us can afford both. The way you’ve talked about a woman for having the audacity to want her hair done as well as look after the children has made me feel really shit, thankyou.

ApproachingATunnel · 30/09/2018 21:03

You sound like an entitled princess. Get over youself, the woman sounds fine to me.

Thevicarsknickers · 30/09/2018 21:06

NoParticularPattern don't get uppity! My sister is struggling for childcare with a 2 month old and a 2 year old. Having a hairdresser come to her house has been a game changer and she's so happy not to have to deal with a salon now. Some people want to have a bit of pampering without children about and that is not outrageous or unkind, untwist your knickers and find a hairdresser that does house visits.

HelenaDove · 30/09/2018 21:07

Vicar I bet theres a waiting list And that Xmas and New Year appointments are already booked.

I go to a seperate salon for lip + chin waxes as the hair place i go to does hair and nails

The wax place i go gets booked up quickly so last time the beautician booked mine right up until the week before Christmas.

AuntBeastie · 30/09/2018 21:11

YANBU. Children in public - fine. Children in public inadequately supervised and running around - not fine. And performance parenting is always annoying no matter where it takes place.

To those saying what is the mother supposed to do - she could find a hairdresser to come to her house so it’s only her own home her kids are wrecking?

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LargeGlassOfPepsi · 30/09/2018 21:22

@NoParticularPattern there are lots of hairdressers who come to your home to do your hair! Yes, I'm a parent and no I didn't take my children to a hairdresser to avoid annoying other people who were there to relax. I wouldn't have unleashed my 4 children on unsuspecting customers nor would I have felt entitled enough to sit there while my children caused havoc!

As I said, I'm a parent but have never felt that having children impeded on anyone else's time to relax. Perhaps I'm not just a selfish person though?

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reallyanotherone · 30/09/2018 21:26

3.5 hours is far too long for very small children to be in a hair salon. The risk of them getting hold of something - hair dye, bleach, hot straighteners, hairdryers is pretty big.

There are plently of options if no childcare and she is “desperate”. Home visit, or split the appointments into two or three shorter ones. Her own home would probably be most suitable as it will be childproofed and there is likely to be a playpen or similar where the children can be put for a while if necessary.

I didn’t get my hair cut for 5 years after my kids were born. Mine are, umm, spirited, and there was no way i was taking them to a hair salon where I wasn’t able to physically supervise.

Micah · 30/09/2018 21:35

The way you’ve talked about a woman for having the audacity to want her hair done as well as look after the children has made me feel really shit

I think the point is she isn’t managing to look after her children while she has her hair done. She is confined to a chair and other people are having to hold a child as she can’t.

There is no way I could effectively supervise my toddlers at home without getting up to deal with them every 5 mins. If you can honestly sit down for 3.5 hours and your children will behave themselves without you having to move then hats off.

As others have said, if you can’t afford a babysitter and a long appt either get a home hairdresser, or have your dye one day and cut and style another.

AvoidingDM · 30/09/2018 23:15

Why is nobody else considering that her babysitter might have let her down?? Surely nobody would plan to cart 2 tiny kids to the hairdressers!

GeneandFred · 01/10/2018 00:32

This would annoy me to be honest.

But I'm sick to death of kids being everywhere if I'm being truthful. And especially when the parents don't look after them and they get in everybody else's way.

Valerievalerie · 01/10/2018 06:24

Salem, what on Earth are you talking about
“ it’s impossibke “
I’m a hairdresser and it takes 1 - 11/2 hours for full head foil, extra 30 mins if colour on between to cover grey, 45 minutes developing time, removing fouls, 2 shampoos, toner applied and then conditioner and massage, . Cut and blow dry and often ten minutes to comb out knots.
It’s not impossible.
Just because you are happy with a quick home dye doesn’t mean others are.
It’s not impossible. You are ignorant and dismissive and it’s really boring

Valerievalerie · 01/10/2018 06:25

Apologies for phone spelling fails . Too early 😬

4yearsnosleep · 01/10/2018 06:41

@RibbonAurora A. I didn't know it was going to take 5 hours, I thought it would be an hour tops B. Not everyone can magic up additional childcare; my husband works away and we have no family nearby. C. My daughter was fine, I had entertainment and snacks for her. D. My hair was so awful that it had to be fixed ASAP. E I warned them that I had no childcare so they could have offered a home visit but didn't. Salon's fault, not mine. No way I wanted to take her and I at least tried my best to keep her quiet and entertained, I didn't let her run amok

AltheaorDonna · 01/10/2018 06:50

I hate going to the hairdresser, and I'd really hate it even more if there were noisy disruptive children there too. In fact I've long wished for hairdressers to have a quiet chair where you don't have to chit chat with the hairdresser about where you are going on holiday, and are you going out anywhere tonight etc etc. I would happily pay extra to be able to read my magazine in peace!

Frouby · 01/10/2018 06:54

I hate small kids at hairdressers unless they are there for an actual haircut. A babe in arms is ok, especially if breastfed.

But toddlers shouldn't be in salons while mum is having anything other than a quick, dry trim. Salons are dangerous places. Hot tools, sharp (very sharp!) scissors, chemicals and bleach etc.

When ds was bf I had a very basic cut twice in 12 months. And I dragged dh with me to take him for a walk and only return if ds was absolutely desperate for a feed. If I couldn't have done this I would have had a mobile hairdresser and actually did when dd was small, as I had no childcare.

And I don't care what anyone says. No one needs a 3.5 hour hair cut and colour. They might want one but they don't need one. The mother was incredibly selfish. She put her desire for a hairstyle above what anyone else desired.

My hairdresser would have told her she couldn't stay with the toddler, that she should rebook. Upsetting 1 client is better than upsetting a salon full of clients. And potentially dealing with an accident if little Jessica gets a chemical burn or snips her fingers off.

Squarepeg29 · 01/10/2018 06:59

I’ve always assumed that bringing children to the hairdressers is simply rude, unless they have an appointment. If the situation is unavoidable then the kids should behave....but actually, taking badly behaved kids anywhere is rude. Teach them some manners from the start, and that includes laying off the bloody performance parenting.

Loud and disruptive people of whatever age in any environment are a PITA.

SalemBlackCat · 01/10/2018 11:34

@Valerievalerie I feel hairdressers like yourself are taking advantage of people with more money than sense, willing to throw good money away. There is no need for foils, toners, no need for any of that fuss and nonsense and you know it. Cut as well? Massage? What a load of rot. There is very little difference between the dyes hairdressers use and store bought ones. And I know this, and if your customers knew that as well, they might think differently. All one needs to do tie up the part that doesn't need doing in a pony tail or similar, and apply dye to the part you want. Wash out after 45 mins max, then conditioner in for 2 minutes. Wash out. It is THAT simple. Don't get angry with me because I am exposing money-thieving hairdressers' practices. Because you and I both know most of all that bs is absolutely unnecessary.