Partner filmed me without my consent

[positivityiskey]

As the title suggests, I have recently discovered my partner has been secretly filming me on his phone without my knowledge. To explain further, we have recently had a baby and have been arguing a lot. He has been treating me quite badly tbh. I called him out on his behaviour a month or so ago and rather than accept responsibility he blamed me for 'driving' him to it as all my focus is now on our newborn baby and that it's not right. I thought things were getting better as he stopped the aggression (he shouts a lot) and started spending more time with us. Recently he has started saying some quite horrible things about me (claiming I have PND and claiming that my mental health is deteriorating which I admit I have previously struggled with). He is claiming I can't cope and that I am struggling. He is calling me a bad Mum. He has accused me of drinking/taking drugs whilst at home with the baby (I am t-total - have been for years).
For the record I feel like super woman since having my baby and my mental health has never been better! I know (and my family and friends have assured me) that I am doing a fab job!
It turns out he has been secretly filming me during these horrible conversations and whilst I remain calm during the first hour or so of accusations/questioning, after hours of this verbal torture I do occasionally snap and tell him to fuck off/leave me alone/cry etc. I also have reason to believe he has filmed me during certain night feeds when I go to his to his room (we sleep separately because he works and needs his sleep) and ask him for help. When I have been up all night/exhausted I may not come across as the best Mum in world and I can be emotional.
He recently told me these negative videos of me exist and showed me certain clips to prove it. He has threatened to use them against me to show the world what a bad Mum I am.
I am so upset. I feel absolutely violated. I can't believe the man I love/father of my child has deceived me in such a way to try and portray me in a negative light. AIBU to end the relationship and leave him over this? Am I correct in thinking this is illegal? I need some advice as I don't know what to do moving forward? Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance x

Another person saying please be careful. He has spent all these years building a gilded cage for you to live in so he can control you. He’s not going to let you get away easily and he will try to stop you and then, if that doesn’t work, to punish you.

So my guess is that he will try some of the folllowing tactics

1. Extravagant fake “apologies “ ( I’m sorry you feel that way ) and promises that all it will be different , to get you to return

1. Threats that he will get residence of the baby because you are mentally ill

1. Suicide threats .

You say that you have previously had mental health problems and that your partner has used that against you. Please see your health visitor and your GP and tell them this , and the other threats he has made.

They will be able to see and record that you are well and baby is well cared for.

Screen shot all the abusive texts he sends you and copy to someone else who will keep them for you. Delete from the phone ( assuming you are still using his ).

Have you got another phone yet?

You say you will be leaving this morning . DO NOT go back alone, even if he says he is away. DO NOT take baby with you, leave him with your mother .

Go back with a couple of big lads and a couple of cars ( a van if you can hire one ) and remove everything you can that belongs to you and baby. Don’t assume that you will get the chance to go back and get it .

Don’t forget bottles, milk, sterilisers, baby clothes and equipment.

If you are not sure if an item belongs to you or your partner ( if it’s a shared thing ) then take it, you can always return it if you want to.

Don’t forget any legal and financial documents . Photos.

Take a photo of every room before you leave ( so he can’t say you trashed the place and call the police ).

If anyone showed me secret recordings of their partner, I would know for sure the filmer is a twat.

Talk to the health visitor and get your history noted so that any future abuse will be in context.

@positivityiskey I don't know you but I'm proud of you and your bravery. Get out of there and don't look back, you're amazing x

@positivityiskey I'm in awe of your decisiveness, your strength, your resolve to build a future and your positivity! I'm sure you have tough times ahead in the near future, but you and your mum sound like w great team and you'll come through the other side in a much happier, safer place.
Only one comment though - you are not stupid for allowing this to happen. If he'd done stuff like this on your first date, there wouldn't have been a second. To be in a situation like this takes time, gradual changes, clever manipulation and so forth. He has used your vulnerability to his advantage. It's no reflection on you whatsoever. Your positive actions to move forwards, however, are and I hope you are proud.

Film that motherfucker right back. Catch him swearing, shouting and being the abusive prick he is then pack his bags and sling him out.

Sorry I didn’t see the updates before posting that

Stay strong OP you will be so much happier and your son will not grow up learning how to mistreat women once you leave.