Girl sat in blood soaked clothes after being told she couldnt go to the toilet and would require a £15 toilet pass.

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metro.co.uk/2018/09/27/girl-sat-in-blood-soaked-clothes-after-teacher-said-she-couldnt-go-to-the-toilet-7984731/

FFS! What is wrong with some people And a £15 toilet pass. Misogyny and sex discrimination.

Two staff members also asked her what action the doctor was going to take to lighten her doctors flow.

Im absolutely furious reading this Im sorry if there already is a thread. I couldnt see one.

That poor girl. It’s bad enough dealing with flooding as an adult, for a young girl it’s shocking she was treated that way. And wrenika, go boil your head.

kirstybabe Disgrace to your profession, and when a child in your class ends up with cystitis, I hope you’ll be appropriately dealt with.

kirtsy- wondering if you get some sort of kick out of making children wait to use the loo? Disgraceful.

An absolute disgrace to the profession is right, Kirsty. If the only kick you get is bullying young children.. that's really sad. Deep issues.

I read this news article on Twitter last night and my initial response was "what? That's so unreasonable of the school that there's surely another side to this that's not being reported".

And then along comes Kirsty to show you that there really are teachers who would happily make a girl sit in blood or urine soaked clothes for 2 hours.

@kirstybabe
Your attitude is worrying for parents and people, who’ve had teachers acting in the same way as you. Can you not see that?

Just because your body hasn’t been damaged by holding in a wee for 2 hours or more, it doesn’t mean another child’s body won’t. Because of teachers like you, dd actively tries to hold it in all day. Thanks for that.

And kirsty I meant to add. A young girl is supposed to have the confidence and awareness she has her period. Are you really that dense? Ffs.

The point I was making was teachers can tell if it is a true emergency.
Well obviously not in this case! The girl clearly needed to go to the loo and wasn't allowed. Many kids won't have the confidence (and quite frankly why should they) to say "it's an emergency I think I've got diarrhoea/a UTI/a heavy period". If you go to the cinema lots of adults find they need to go to the loo within a film which is less than 2 hours.

Kirstybabe appears to have joined MN just to contribute to this thread. There is a long running toilet troll who posts as a year 6 teacher and takes great delight in telling how they never let the children go to the toilet. I've reported because I'm pretty sure Kirstybabe is that particular perve.

Oh fuck off MacosieAsunter with your name snobbery and your pointless anecdotes.

Plenty of Jaidens and Braydens wouldn’t dream of messing up the toilet

I really hope its the toilet troll and not a real teacher being that cruel.

I taught secondary double lessons and of course Id let a child go to the loo if thwy needed it.

With all the gratuitous detail such as the girl pestering for hours because she was so desperate, and still they said no, I'd put money on it being the troll.

Thanks for the heads up about the troll.

Obviously the OP is a well recognised MNer so this is a genuine thread - but yes, there really is a troll who posts about just this issue regularly (most posters probably won't spot the threads as they get reported and deleted quickly). Sadly there really is at least one perve out there who is loving reading all these personal anecdotes. Such a shame as it is an important issue that does need wider discussion.

FWIW, I've always told my children that if you've gotta go, you've gotta go. I am happy to deal with it if they get into trouble for leaving the classroom, as I know they'd only do this if absolutely desperate. So far they've never had this issue thank goodness.

When I was 18 I was at a party at my DF and DSM's house. I was sitting on the carpet, flooded and was too embarrassed to move. Can you imagine how an 11yo must feel?

I have not once said a girl in my class on her period wouldn't be allowed out

Yes you have

I teach year 6 and never let kids out to the loo

It's teachers like you who led to me wearing san pro a week before I was due just in case and not drinking anything until I got home. Why should a girl have to humiliate herself in front of her classmates like that?

I feel so sorry for that poor child.
Mine started at 14, were utterly horrendous, totally irregular and the cramps so bad that I would vomit. I had PCOS but it wasn't diagnosed for many years after until I had DD at 25.
I was put on the pill to try and regulate them, but that made me ill.
I'm dreading DD starting hers as there are PCOS issues on both sides of her family. I'm considering buying her some of those period pants that help with leaks and as she has a locker I'll make sure she has spare underwear and trousers in case.
To think any school would want to waste a Doctors time or to pass comment on how heavy her periods are is shocking.
I've told both mine though that if any teacher ever bans them and they will have an accident, just walk out. DS has medications that make him pee lots and luckily school are great.

Never unless a girl tells me she is on her period or a child has a note.

And you really expect a 10/11 yo to tell you that.

My dd is yr6.

She has a medical condition, with potentially major repercussions if triggered. She knows this. Her heart stops beating. It can be triggered by very bad pain and has been triggered by stomach ache. She knows this. Yet my dd sat at her desk and didn’t tell the teacher she had a bad stomach ache. Thus putting herself at potential risk. I imagine it’s stomach migraines. Because dd can’t handle the situation herself being only 10, I’ve written to the teacher and we are going to come up with a plan.

I imagine you’re not a parent and are looking this very much from an adult POV. How the hell can you honestly expect a little girl to put her hand up or come up to you to explain she’s bled all over her chair? It’s just not happening.

This is fucking ludicrous!

How much shit have we seen in the media in the last month or so about children as young as 11 sadly taking their own lives due to bullying?! I know I’ve seen a fair few on social media for a start.

A child sitting in a class full of other children and ending up being covered in blood from a menstrual cycle would most likely lead to some other children making fun of them, which could easily spiral on to something else. Not to mention how embarrassing it would be for the child!

It’s absolutely shocking that this has been allowed to happen, imagine the uproar of this happened in a workplace?! Does the same apply to female teachers who have their period while teaching a class?! Doubt it.

If this was any of my 2 daughters, heads would roll!