To expect my daughters teacher to know her name by now?

[Winchester89]

My daughter started reception 3 weeks ago, and I have a bad vibe from her teacher. Can't really put my finger on it. But after 3 weeks she still doesn't know my daughters name and doesn't know me or husband are her parents (at pick up)
Aibu to expect this?

My daughter has been in kindergarten and now in reception - 1 year in and they still don’t know her name and they spell it wrong - we tell them frequently.

She should absolutely know your daughter's name by now. I would always aim to have at least 3/4 of the class by the end of day 1 and 100% by the end of day 2. Are you sure it's that she doesn't know it not that she just made a slip of the tongue? (Easy to do, especially if there are several with similar names). As for parents, I've always been rubbish at that but I know it's poor and I should know who they are.

Wonder does she have face blindness or something as that is very unusual. I would definitely want to know them all by day 2. Actually l know all of them in our school since day 2 and l don't even teach them.

Depends if your DD is called Alice, Sarah etc YANBU if she's Qur'stylle (pronounced Crystal obviously) give her time

I've come on here to say that I've got to learn about 500 names and will absolutely not know them all yet. But in a reception class of a mere 30 or so she should definitely know your child by now.

My daughter is the only one with her name in her year group.
I asked a friend who's a primary teacher and she said similar to a pp that she would normally know by day 1 if not day 2.
She walked in with another friend today and the teacher got her name correct.
I'll give it time, I'm definitely someone who annoys easy so kept it to myself, until my husband said he didn't like something about her and he's normally the rational one

She should definitely know her name by now but I have to admit, I'm useless at parents. It takes me months to recognise them and they all look bloody different every day

It would concern me about your DDs name though.

I'm a teacher and was going to defend your daughter's teacher as I teach about 330 pupils and haven't learnt them all yet. I'm awful with names.
But a reception teacher should definitely know them all by now in a class of approx 30.

My daughter started reception this year and in her first day the teacher stood at the door and geeeted every child by name. She’d obviously done her homework and I really loved it.

Was it possibly a brain freeze? I occasionally have to simply point at my own DC.

@ProfessorMoody
Yeah the knowing us doesn't bother me as much, though we pick up and drop off at the classroom door each day so I feel she should be starting to recognise.

It makes me sad she doesn't know her name. I feel like if I had to ask her a question about dd she wouldn't have a clue who I was talking about

Agree, she should know by now. I remember ours put name tags on their backs for the first few days, which I thought was quite clever of them.

Maybe put a name tag on the back of her uniform tomorrow so the teacher gets the hint that you’ve noticed.

What kind of name is it?

An ordinary British name?

One that one may consider would normally be given to someone from outside the UK?

A yoooneeek name?

What?

@ektomarie
I like that haha!
I would have corrected her this morning had I been stood close enough.

Being a bit flippant, but if your DD's teacher isn't 100% with her name, I would also take that as a sign that she is really well-behaved at school/maybe a bit quiet.

@shinycat
It's a standard British name, 3 letters long.
I think it's more popular now than when I had her, it's in the top 50 of the baby names list this year.

Not knowing your daughter's name after three weeks in unacceptable. At DD's school the teacher learned the reception children's names before they started, from photographs and from meeting them.

Yes of course!! I have hundreds of names to learn each year as I do music sessions in many reception and year 1 classes. I'm almost there with all my names now so with only 30 to learn he/she should have them all down by now!

+@op-am not hijaking post.well slightly..but is a disclaimer..i seem to come across badly on here(its a set task to learn social integration)apparently im brutal. so. am .to try to dance round it....
i cant hear music.
maybe stick a namebadge on her?

A bit unusual however to be fair my dd called her year 5 teacher Mrs Table all year although that was not her name .

Is it a three letter name which might have a couple of different pronunciations eg. Eva as Eeeeeeeva or Aaaaayva IYSWIM?
She might be unsure and there avoiding saying it in case she gets it wrong.
I used to teach primary and usually had all the names in my head by the end of the first day. It is very unusual for a teacher not to know her name after three weeks.

BTW how do you know she doesn't know her name? Is it that she doesn't greet her with her name and just says "Good morning" instead of "Good morning Eva"?

I'd have to say something to the teacher I think. Not sure how I'd phrase it though.

I work in reception and have learnt 60 children's names in three weeks, but it is hard.

I admit I still don't know all the parents, there are 120 parents, plus grandparents, childminders, aunts etc. that might collect, I actually find it really hard as I have an appalling memory for faces. It is embarrassing having to ask as I'm aware it looks bad, but not sure what else I can do.

I think that’s very strange and as someone else said maybe if your daughter is really quiet she is going under the radar. Still no excuse.

I get really confused with Mee-a, my-a, may-a, had one of each at one point and just couldn’t get my head around it.

Well if it's a fairly regular British name, then that's weird.

@Winchester89 Have you asked her why she keeps forgetting your daughter's name?

@veggiethrower
Nope- only one possible way to pronounce it and spell it (well- I'm sure someone trying too hard could come up with a random spelling if they really wanted to)

Because she called her another name this morning. Just a random name, nothing like her name.