To expect my daughters teacher to know her name by now?

[Winchester89]

My daughter started reception 3 weeks ago, and I have a bad vibe from her teacher. Can't really put my finger on it. But after 3 weeks she still doesn't know my daughters name and doesn't know me or husband are her parents (at pick up)
Aibu to expect this?

I'm secondary and have over 200 students so definitely don't know all of them yet... Most but not all! I imagine, like others have said, it may just have been a mix up. Does your DD think there's an issue?

@Fireba11
Oh no she's fine- she talks about the TA and the teacher from the other class more than she does her own teacher tho

Hang on, calling her once by the wrong name at pick up time is not the same as not knowing her name.

Have you seriously reached this conclusion based on just one incident?

I often call my children and am surprised they don’t respond. Then realise I’m calling the cats’ names. Doesn’t mean I don’t know my children’s names.

I kind of sympathise with not knowing what to do and whether to say anything. You don't want to burden the teacher but it's difficult to know if it's a one off.

DS has an unusual name, not English, with spelling that is totally unlike the pronunciation. Nursery keep getting the spelling consistently wrong and I'm also a bit anxious about raising it with them but I don't want DS to go all year with the wrong spelling on his tray and his work.

I think in your case, I might just speak to the teacher just to ask how [DD name] is getting along. Just keep repeating her name in the conversation and see if that helps. I'm doing a school placement and I have a bit of face blindness so I really struggle to remember names and faces. But I do apologise when I get names wrong and then repeat their name lots to try to remember. The quiet, unassuming children take the longest because I don't need to say their names very often although I do try to do so because it does help.

I think it's reasonable for a reception teacher to know 25 kids names after 3 weeks.
5 days a week
8 hours a day
-1 hour lunch break
That's 105 hours (give or take)

She should really know their names.

8 classes, up to 32 kids per group and I know the vast majority now.

Hang on, calling her once by the wrong name at pick up time is not the same as not knowing her name

I agree. A slip of the tongue is one thing. Not actually knowing her name is a total other issue. I find it hard to believe that after a few weeks she actually doesn't know your DDs name. How is that even possible?

You're presuming because she called your daughter by the wrong name once that she doesn't know it. Of course she knows your child's name. She is a reception teacher and will know all her pupils' names by now. I'm 100% certain of that. It was a slip of the tongue. I can run through three or four different names sometimes before I get to the right one. It's not that I don't know who they are! And I'm sentencing the next person to call a reception teacher lazy to spend a week teaching a reception class.

That doesn’t mean she doesn’t know her name though

had this at ds school, a little girl came in and the teacher said “oh hello amelia” .. “whoops I mean aisha” found it abit awkward tbh, should definitely know the names by now.

It's so tricky - everyone knows that memory slips happen all the time, but names are really emotive.

I went through school with teachers constantly getting my (unusual, but not difficult) name wrong. When I started teaching secondary I promised myself I'd never let a kid feel like that.

18 years later and I can still memorise the names of a class of 30 by the end of the first 50 minute lesson, and remember them the next day after doing the same thing with 4 other classes forgive the boasting, it's literally my only super skill

So yes, she should know your DD's name! But she may know it and the wrong name came out. She might be kicking herself right now. I worked with a teacher once who needed the Year 7 photographs in front of her on the table at Parents' Evening because she didn't know their names. In February! (Not face blindness- she didn't care sadly.) If it gets to that point I'd get miffed!

I suspect she does know her name. I'm a teacher and would know all names of one class within a day but sometimes two kids seem to look the same for a while and I might muddle them (then wonder why I ever could have done so once I do know them). There's also this thing where the wrong name comes out even when you know who the child is. I especially do that if I've known their sibling and keep wanting to call them by the sibling's name. TBH that happens with my own 2 kids whose names are have similar endings. Course I know who they are bit often stumble over their names!

Do you not think she just made a mistake? This can happen when 30 kids are milling around at home time. You have your eyes everywhere and you see another child and then you send the kid out standing next to you while saying the name of the other child.
Or is this happening every home time?

So I've dropped her off again this morning and walked right up with her and the teacher said, 'oh hi random name' again!
I said, 'her name is Gertrude' (it's not) and she said
'Oh yes! Sorry'
So nope, she doesn't know her name

Oh no! That’s upsetting isn’t it! But again, is she a ‘good’ quiet girl who disappears into the background?( Not a bad thing, I was one of those and swear my teachers only knew who I was cos my mum was such a pushy cow).

Well done for correcting her, I imagine she will remember that.

Ds had a teacher once who was awful. By the end of the whole year he just used one of a random set of names of the brown haired boys in his class, so it could be Josh, Oliver, Jack, Jo... All the kids were scared of him. However I’m sure your teacher is better than this.

Keep using your DDs name in front of her,the penny will drop.

So instead of correcting her, you told her a fabricated name? Why on earth would you do that? How is that going to help?

Put a name badge on her tomorrow.

Keeptrudging I don’t think OP gave a random name - just that she doesn’t want to put the actual name on here.

My DD has this for her whole reception year. Another girl, completely unrelated, looked like DD's twin. They were always getting mixed up. I struggled to see which was mine in the class photo!
But the teacher knew DD's character, learning needs, likes, friendships etc. She just kept muddling the name (as did many others).
Is this possible?

Madison, thanks for clarification, I'd misunderstood the post . I was picturing a very confused child being called Gertrude all day.

I would send her in with a name tag, passive aggressive - yes but I would be seriously pissed off. I used to run training courses for up to 20 people that would run for a few days. Name tags were for day one only, after that I would remember their names (and my memory is shit but I used various memory techniques to get it right).