To expect my daughters teacher to know her name by now?

[Winchester89]

My daughter started reception 3 weeks ago, and I have a bad vibe from her teacher. Can't really put my finger on it. But after 3 weeks she still doesn't know my daughters name and doesn't know me or husband are her parents (at pick up)
Aibu to expect this?

I should add I only work three days and don't always do the end of day sending out, so probably also take longer to learn parents because of that (making excuses now).

@Imustbemad00
Yeah I imagine this is it, she's not quiet be she's not loud either probably doesn't seek out the teacher much for anything I imagine.

@shinycat
No- it was only this morning that I knew she didn't know her name. Then her dad picked her up.
How would you approach it? Wouldn't really know what to say.

She should know your daughter's name by the end of the first day! I always do. As for recognising you at pick up, that's different. When i tuaght KS1 last year, it took me a good few weeks to match the adult with the child.

I taught

Ex teacher here. I could name all the kids in my class within a couple of days but often said the wrong name while I was trying to juggle a million thoughts especially at home time. Don't read too much into it.

I would hope to know all the names by the end of day 1, certainly by day 2. You have the class list way in advance so you're just matching the faces to the names you're already familiar with. Parents take a little bit longer, but I would definitely hope to know them before now.

Definitely put a name label on her jumper tomorrow.

I used to have a couple of children in each class that I would confuse with one and other.
It was guaranteed. They wouldn't even have to look alike, although mostly they did. I would always muddle them up.
I would also call them random names at busy times like home time. It didn't mean that I didn't know them or notice them them in the class room, it just meant that I was thinking of a million things at once.

I always have a few sets of kids in my class that, in the first few weeks, look so alike I can not remember their correct names. By w4 I'm like wtf was I thinking, they're nothing alike! I'm even getting twins names correct by week 5.
Give her some more time.

No, YANBU. It's a Freudian slip, for whatever reason - whether she has a personal issue with remembering names (I do, because I was never called by my own name by a parent), or whether the school itself doesn't value the individual children in it as much as another school might.

I’m guessing her name is Ava... she should know her name by now.
I agree with a PP that it’s likely your DD is well behaved and quiet (and probably doing ok but not outstanding with her work?) so the teacher hasn’t had much of a reason to get stuck in with her yet as she’s not had any need to.
It is lazy of the teacher though.
I’d get her one of those headbands with get name on... and a lunchbox, school bag, pencil case 😂😂😂

her name on*

I learn all 30 names within the first day or so and parents soon after but I'm awful for jumbling names up when talking and calling people/children by each other's names, particularly when thinking of two things at once. Could it have been a one off like that?

She should know DDs name by now I think. 30 names when she’s with them all day is reasonable for most people, especially when they’re so little, you want them to feel comfortable and that teacher knows them. Slip ups do happen of course, and Sod’s law says you’ll get a name right 99 times when the parent isn’t there and get it wrong the 1 time they are.

But I wouldn’t be bothered that she doesn’t know you or DH yet. Each of the 30 children will most likely have 2 parents, plus the assorted other people who might do pick up sometimes like grandparents, childminders, nannies, other relatives etc. And she only sees you briefly during the busiest most chaotic parts of the day.

How would I approach it? Just ask if there is a reason why she keeps forgetting her name. Not sure what else to suggest, sorry...

@InstagramPork
Haha nope not her name

@ninnypoo
Maybe it could have been yes- I think I've read more into it and it's miffed me as I just feel something off about her. She just seems so uninterested and I find it odd.

Is not knowing who should be picking her up a safeguarding issue though? I know it's different but I manage a care home where we also provide day care for over 65s. I expect all my staff to know who should be picking our service users up. And if they don't recognise them to check with them/another member of staff.

I'm a teacher (secondary) and I'm definitely still struggling at this stage... I have 13 classes of 30+ though. Presumably as a reception/y1 teacher she only has 25 kids max to get to know? YANBU.

I regularly mess up childrens names. As in I know the correct name, but the name of other child will come out. Think Lily and Lucy. Usually it's the same two as well...very annoying but I think it's something to do with classroom dynamics.

I usually know all 30 names by the end of day 2-3.Parents, grandparents, other relatives and child's minders can take weeks and I have a good memory. You ever tried it OP?

Child minders

Was it just a slip though? I have had moments of calling children the wrong name even though I know them and would certainly know who you were talking about. I've even called my own daughters by each other's names and it's fair to say I know who they are.

I'm split across 3 classes and have learned all 90 names now, but there are a few I get muddled with as there are similar looking children and a couple of younger siblings of children in previous classes who must be sick of me getting it wrong by now.