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Is this dress ok for a wedding?

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Magmatic80 · 27/09/2018 05:00

Reading another thread, and now in a worry. Going to a wedding shortly, and planning on wearing dress in similiar pattern to this. Knee length, high neckline, cap sleeves. Is it too white? Wedding in USA and will be hot if that makes a difference. I do have an alternative that is dark colours, but I feel ‘nicer’ in this one!

Is this dress ok for a wedding?
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HeyNumber2 · 27/09/2018 05:05

I think it’s lovely... but I don’t know US ettiquette for weddings, only thing I understood was they’re often black tie affairs?

Hopefully someone else will advise soon!

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 27/09/2018 05:10

I tend to go by the rule that I don't wear anything white, ivory or cream-based for weddings, purely because of the thread you're talking about!

It's a beautiful dress and if you're comfortable in it, wear it. It doesn't look bridal at all, so in real life I very much doubt anyone would bat an eyelid at it.

TrudeauGirl · 27/09/2018 05:12

Go for it, it looks beautiful.

Bodear · 27/09/2018 05:14

Hmm I probably wouldn’t. It might be ok but if the bride chooses a tea-length dress or if the wedding colours are white & blue then it might look a bit odd.
I’m quite conservative on this issue so I’m sure you’ll get loads of people saying it’s fine but why risk causing offence if you don’t have to. Its not about whether you’ll be confused for the bride, it’s a social convention that is more important to some than others. If you have other options I’d choose one of those.

MrsEfff · 27/09/2018 05:18

It’s lovely and you feel good in it - wear it!

I don’t understand this thing where brides ‘ban’ dresses with white backgrounds - I got married this year and if someone had turned up in a long white dress I wouldn’t have cared; people don’t generally get confused about who the bride is, and anyone who might try to upstage a bride wouldn’t be endearing themselves to any sane person regardless.

bellabasset · 27/09/2018 05:18

I think the light coloured chiffon dresses with pale flowers are the ones that might be wirn by a bride or bridesmaids. Yours looks summery and cool. With navy/dark blue accessories of a small straw hat, a shrug you will be very elegant.

Original poster
Magmatic80 · 27/09/2018 05:19

Thanks all! It’s not black tie, and the bridesmaid colour isn’t blue.

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icklekid · 27/09/2018 05:19

Wear it. It's clearly pattern not white. using pp logic you couldn't wear anything incase the bride had Chosen it. Looks like a lovely dress.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 27/09/2018 05:20

Absolutely gorgeous!

Rainbunny · 27/09/2018 05:23

It's lovely and perfectly fine for a USA wedding - just don't wear a fascinator with it since that is not a thing here in the USA, you'd definitely stand out if you did!

NotAgainYoda · 27/09/2018 05:28

It's lovely

I think this white thing is ridiculous (and irrelevant here because the dress isn't white)

NotAgainYoda · 27/09/2018 05:29

And IMO no one should ever wear a fascinator. They look ridiculous - like someone wants to wear a hat, doesn't have the courage of their convictions so opts for a Clare's Accessories headband instead

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Magmatic80 · 27/09/2018 06:00

Ah thanks everyone! I do have navy bag/shoes and shrug, so hoped that would be alright. No fascinator, a friend went to a wedding in USA this year and was amazed at how casually lots were dressed. She was only one with headgear!

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Winegumaddict · 27/09/2018 06:13

Wear it. I'd never wear white , cream or ivory. But that is a blue and white dress so completely different. I wore something similar with pink flowers to a wedding and didn't give it a second thought as it was a pink dress (on a white background) not a white dress. I did wear a fascinator to the US wedding I went to as the groom was British. All the British guests wore them.

PrivateDoor · 27/09/2018 06:27

Lovely dress. Wear it, have a great day!

Bodear · 27/09/2018 06:34

I sometimes think I’m looking at different dresses to other people on these threads. I’d have been miffed if you’d worn that to my wedding. Oh well, I guess we’re all different.
I hope the wedding goes brilliantly and you have a great time whatever you wear OP.

verite · 27/09/2018 06:38

I seriously cannot see how that is any way inappropriate. The predominate colour is clearly blue.

WerewolfNumber1 · 27/09/2018 06:40

I’m conservative about this issue but even I think that’s fine so long as the accessories are blue.

Janleverton · 27/09/2018 06:44

But why would you have been miffed bodear? It doesn’t look anything like a wedding dress to my eyes (but I haven’t actually been to that many weddings to be fair).

Foodylicious · 27/09/2018 06:44

Absolutely fine.
I would wear it with a blue shawl/wrap and dark shoes

BangingOn · 27/09/2018 06:49

It's lovely and perfectly fine for a USA wedding - just don't wear a fascinator with it since that is not a thing here in the USA, you'd definitely stand out if you did!

I attended an international wedding with lots of American guests recently and they were most put out that none of the Brits were dressed like the guests at Harry and Meghan’s wedding Grin

Mummyoflittledragon · 27/09/2018 07:05

YABU. You should wear this dress - yes I read that thread.

Your dress is lovely btw and will look great.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/09/2018 07:13

It's fine and very lovely. Have a great time!

Dontbuymesocks · 27/09/2018 07:17

@Bodear
Why would you be miffed? It isn’t white, it isn’t long..... it’s nothing like a wedding dress. I genuinely don’t understand.

Churchillian · 27/09/2018 07:24

I still don’t get why anyone would be upset by someone wearing a light coloured dress to their wedding. I am recently married and I was just happy to see everyone - didn’t care what they wore tbh and would have to refer to photos to remember. Even if someone had turned up in a long white dress, I knew everyone at the wedding (c100 guests) and they had seen me exchange vows with my OH, so I was clearly the bride. Wear it, it doesn’t look remotely bridal to me.