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Is this dress ok for a wedding?

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Magmatic80 · 27/09/2018 05:00

Reading another thread, and now in a worry. Going to a wedding shortly, and planning on wearing dress in similiar pattern to this. Knee length, high neckline, cap sleeves. Is it too white? Wedding in USA and will be hot if that makes a difference. I do have an alternative that is dark colours, but I feel ‘nicer’ in this one!

OP posts:

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 27/09/2018 07:29

Not bridal, perfectly appropriate.

MrMeSeeks · 27/09/2018 07:36

It’s fine. Don't know how anyone could have a problem with it!

villainousbroodmare · 27/09/2018 07:41

It's perfect wedding wear imo.
Bodear, there must be a great deal of miff in your life if this is the sort of thing that would occasion dissatisfaction.

mogwaigremlin · 27/09/2018 07:41

Oh gosh, I wore this dress to a wedding recently, did I make a big faux pas? It didn't even occur to my baby brain mind at the time, was just a dress I felt nice in!!

PiperPublickOccurrences · 27/09/2018 07:46

And IMO no one should ever wear a fascinator. They look ridiculous - like someone wants to wear a hat, doesn't have the courage of their convictions so opts for a Clare's Accessories headband instead

Problem is that some of us have heads so massive that hats don't fit. The only hats which fit my misshapen head are wooly beanies - not ideal for a wedding. So i generally don't bother but if it was a very formal occasion I;d have to go for the fascinator.

PiperPublickOccurrences · 27/09/2018 07:47

Oh and OP - lovely dress. I had something similar for a wedding a couple of years ago and as suggested wore it with a navy wrap thing.

shearwater · 27/09/2018 07:47

It's only a faux-pas in the minds of some socially awkward types on Mumsnet. If you go to a wedding dressed like this, people will probably assume you are the bride. In a pretty floral dress, not so much.

Ikeasucks · 27/09/2018 08:10

Op - it’s perfect. Folk are nuts about this.

Mog - why would anyone have an issue with that dress unless the wedfing was at the top of Ben Nevis?

Bodear · 27/09/2018 08:14

Jan I’ve always understood the rule to be that one shouldn’t wear white/ cream to a wedding, not in case one is mistaken for the bride but to allow the bride to stand out and as a mark of respect. I personally, as a guest of the bride and groom, would rather err on the side of caution and not risk being rude. In the same way as I wouldn’t wear red to a funeral; some people may not mind but why risk it?
The OP’s dress, whilst really lovely, is a white dress with a blue pattern on it.
I’d be miffed that someone hadn’t cared enough to find an outfit that fitted with the social conventions.
However, each to their own.

because the background and predominate colour is white

MaryShelley1818 · 27/09/2018 08:17

It’s gorgeous...perfect dress for a Wedding guest imo.
I’m getting married in a couple of months and honestly don’t mind what anyone wears as long as it’s not an actual Wedding dress!
My DM keeps asking me if her outfit is ok (not traditionally a MOB outfit) and I keep telling her to wear whatever she feels comfortable in - that’ll make me happy!

Bodear · 27/09/2018 08:17

no there’s not a great deal of miff in my life. I think we all just have different ideas and that’s fine. I’m sure there are other things that would bother some but not me.

gamerwidow · 27/09/2018 08:18

I agree you shouldn’t wear all white dresses to a wedding but that dress isn’t bridal at all especially with blue accessories.

gamerwidow · 27/09/2018 08:19

How well do you know the bride perhaps you could run it past her just in case she doesn’t have enough miff in her life like bodear

MaryShelley1818 · 27/09/2018 08:19

You see the difference is Bodear that most people would just rather their guests be happy and comfortable than worry about outdated ‘social conventions’.
Depends on your priorities I guess.

Rachie1973 · 27/09/2018 08:25

Lol. I wore this dress to my sons wedding last year. After a great deal of angst over finding something suitable my lovely DIL sent me a link to this one! I flinched at the colour but she was clear on anything but plain white was acceptable.

Bodear · 27/09/2018 08:29

That’s one way to look at it Mary. I would tip that on its head and say that my priority as a guest would be making sure the bride and groom are happy and comfortable. Anyway, I always end up in the minority in these threads but I think if the OPs feel the need to question the colour in the first place then there’s enough doubt to warrant playing it safe.
I’m getting the message that I’m old fashioned though so have a wonderful time OP. It is a gorgeous dress.

DaphneDiligaf · 27/09/2018 08:33

I love that dress and I would wear blue shoes have a blue bag and wear a blue fascinator. And yes I have been to a wedding in the US and most of the women (British and American) wore fascinators.

Lauren0rder · 27/09/2018 08:41

I love it.

villainousbroodmare · 27/09/2018 08:50

I meant my post in a teasing tone, Bodear, so hope you don't take it as harsh criticism. I do think that it's really not appropriate to wear plain white or cream, or even mostly white, but I and probably most people would have a more lenient view of colour on a light background! Especially for a summer daytime event.

Bodear · 27/09/2018 08:59

Hi villainous, I understood your tone and thought it was quite a funny comment. It made me laugh. Sorry if my reply didn’t come across in the same way.

LaurieMarlow · 27/09/2018 09:03

id have been miffed if you’d worn that to my wedding

Because it has a bit of white on it?

I don't get this at all. It's clearly not a bridal dress. There's no chance the guest would be mistaken for the bride. So why on earth would it 'miff' you?

Nanny0gg · 27/09/2018 09:05

The OP’s dress, whilst really lovely, is a white dress with a blue pattern on it.

That will contrast the bride's dress.

It's really pretty, can't be mistaken for a wedding dress or bridesmaid's dress (if the bride is choosing conventional frocks) and absolutely suitable for a guest.

Paddley · 27/09/2018 09:05

My DM wore top to toe white for my wedding, I never gave it a thought until reading these threads and digging out the photos. She's very prominent and a bit tipsy, made me laugh just looking at the pictures.

Do I care? Do I heck.

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 27/09/2018 09:12

Dress is cute. You should wear a little 50s style hat

diddl · 27/09/2018 09:14

Ooh-my MIL wore white with an orange pattern.

I missed a chance to be pissed off there didn't I?

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