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MIL has stolen my shoes!

469 replies

ratherbeshowjumping · 26/09/2018 11:43

This is not a joke...!

Historically I've had a very difficult relationship with Satan my MIL. DH pops his head in once a week on his way home from work but we otherwise have little to do with the witch. We get on OK when we do see her.

Last week I had to work away and she did massively help us out by popping in and checking on the puppy.... and since then I cannot find my very, very naice pair of wellies that my lovely DM treated me to.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, DH went in to say hi yesterday eve and my wellies were there, neat by my backdoor. He immediately said "are they showjumpers wellies?", she laughed and said "no, of course they're not." DH then said "oh showjumper has lost hers, exactly the same."
She then laughed and commented how absentminded I am!!

(I am but that's not the point!)

With risk of sounding awful, I do not think she would be familiar with the brand and even if she was, she would have the money to spend £300+ on a pair of wellies.

WWYD? All suggestions appreciated Grin

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Gemini69 · 26/09/2018 23:42

please tell us you got them back OP Hmm

CSIblonde · 26/09/2018 23:53

Satan has many forms OP. Nick something of hers then if she goes nuclear, tinkly laugh about how 'absent minded' you both are & say ill drop the m round when I come get the wellies I 'left' at yours.

Furx · 27/09/2018 00:02

The thing is, £300 is not a lot to spend on boots if you are outdoors a lot.

I was thinking of the Vimes theory of economic hardship when I read all the incredulous 'you paid three hundred quid' posts.

If you are out all day in all weathers, you want warm comfortable waterproof boots. And if you have £300 upfront to buy said boots it is a bloody good investment. I've worked outdoors for years, and been in both the skint and the comfortably off categories. Life is much nicer when you can buy good boots.

Otherwise you spend a tenner and have sore or wet feet.

Lalliella · 27/09/2018 00:10

Can we call MIL Wellyzilla?

Scrowy · 27/09/2018 00:26

I was going to say pretty much what furx already has.

£300 is not a lot of money to spend on decent boots if you wear them all the time in all weathers.

I have a pair of Dubarrys that cost about £250 8 years ago that have been worn virtually every day since as they are so warm and comfortable. I would be heartbroken if anything happened to them.

Tinklewinkle · 27/09/2018 00:42

I’d get my DH to go and nick them back

As for £300 wellies, I’ve got a pair of Dubarry I bought when we first got our dog.

He’s nearly 12.

They’ve been worn pretty much twice a day every day except summer to walk the dog through muddy woods and fields, on the beach, etc, etc.

For the last 2 years they’ve been worn a further twice a day to muck out a horse, catch said horse when she’s acting like a twat in a very muddy field, traipsing up and down a muddy lane to get to the muddy field and to-ing and fro-ing across a puddly, muddy, pretty mucky livery yard

I’ve treated them like absolute shit, rarely remembering to clean and treat them - they’ve started looking a bit worse for wear this year but they’re warm and still keep my feet dry

Worth every penny I’d say

VerbeenaBeeks · 27/09/2018 01:35

300 QUID ON A PAIR OF WELLIES?! Shock

Blondebakingmumma · 27/09/2018 05:24

Do you have your boots back yet?

Housecoatdiva · 27/09/2018 05:48

CalonGlas

"Totally off the point but I've got a pair of £270 (I think) neoprene Le Chameau wellies that I've worn every day for 5 years to walk the dogs and they look exactly the same as the day I got them"

So do mine except they only cost £15 😁

GirlFliesHome · 27/09/2018 06:26

I freely admit that I am now lusting over a pair of Wellies.

GoatYoga · 27/09/2018 06:27

The longer you leave getting them back, the more opportunity she has to hide or get rid of them.

You need to act fast.

BeautifulPossibilities · 27/09/2018 06:52

When will the great retrieval be?

ArtemisWeatherwax · 27/09/2018 07:10
TheSerenDipitY · 27/09/2018 07:31

you need to go there and stand just outside the door , so she can overhear you both, and you need to discuss about how worried he is and how stealing and lying is so out of character for her and how hes read that he thinks it is a sign of her developing dementia and how hes going to have to look into a power of attorney etc and gather info on care homes as hes going to need to have her placed in one as he just wont be able to take care of her.... maybe he can sob a little as he says it

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ratherbeshowjumping · 27/09/2018 07:33

Sorry - it all kicked off a bit last night...!

So, DH went over about 8 on his way home.

MIL/Satan/Wellyzillas immediate response was, "oh you're here again, have you and showjumper broken up?!"

DH said no he was here to get my boots. MIL said she was sure that they were hers but if I wanted them she would give them to me as I'd make better use HmmConfused

DH said he gave her every chance to say "oh I wore them home by accident" or "it was a mistake"... then she finally said that I told her she could have them!!!!!
A pair of £300 wellies from my DM that I wear outside with the horses/dogs/chickens everyday.... to the lady who, due to her awful behaviour, I nn Satan.....

DH said that was the final straw & went to grab them.

She sent him quite a few abusive messages last night, why does she always side with me etc Hmm when questioned where she bought them & for how much, she said she couldn't remember & why was it relevant.

Also on the underside of the boot is what looks like horsepoo - MIL lives in the middle of town and hates horses.

Anyway, my babies are home, I wore them to put the horses out this morning & I'm happy as Larry.

Waiting patiently for her Facebook status as that's what usually happens......

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ratherbeshowjumping · 27/09/2018 07:34

Thank you to every who supported me in my quest to get my wellies back, I'm going to read all the messages from overnight later on

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EndeavourVoyage · 27/09/2018 07:35

I am so happy your boots are safe and back where they belong. Well done to your DH.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 27/09/2018 07:40

Uay, your boots are back home!

So she said they were not your boots then said you gave them her? 🙄

I call my MIL the dragon. DP and I are NC though. But this is something she would have done before contact stopped.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 27/09/2018 07:41

*yay

GoldenKelpie · 27/09/2018 07:41

Oh OP, I do like a happy ending Smile. Sadly, it looks like it won't be a happy ending having to deal with your MIL. Thank heavens your DH has your back!

SwanConvoy · 27/09/2018 07:43

Glad you got them back. Your DH should have said "Showjumper left her wellies outside as the puppy had accidentally shit in them and she wanted to get them professionally cleaned. They have gone missing, have you seen them?"

What a nightmare she sounds. You kind have to hope it is dementia as the alternative is that she is just plain nasty.

Thebluedog · 27/09/2018 07:47

Wow I seriously can’t believe she is that deranged she thinks she can just take something of yours and happily display it for all to see. She’s off her rocker Confused

Aprilshowersnowastorm · 27/09/2018 07:49

Hopefully she didn't have a key cut......

PickledChutney · 27/09/2018 07:54

£300+ for a pair of wellies?? They saw you coming didn’t they?!

cranberryx · 27/09/2018 07:55

Lying wench.
Your MIL did this to cause drama.

If she sends another message, get your DH to send a product page back with the price of the wellies and tell her that she's lucky you didn't call the police!!