A couple of months ago, DH informed me that MIL had asked him if we would be spending Christmas at theirs this year, and that he without consulting me said yes. The issue here is that they live in Ireland, a flight or long drive plus ferry ride away, and we will have to go for most of the Christmas period. We'd pretty much decided since DS was born nearly 3 years ago that Christmases would be spent at home, but family were welcome to come to us if they like (my family also live far away).
This is the first year that DS actually has much understanding of Christmas and I was really excited about starting our own traditions. Also, I'm pg so this is our last Christmas with just him and I wanted it to be special (although having a young baby does present a good excuse for not going away next Christmas).
I do get on with my ILs but they can be overbearing at times. They also, by my standards, don't really 'do' Christmas, as in they don't really have any traditions or rituals other than mass in the morning followed by lunch doesn't even involve everyone sitting at the table together - they just sort of casually pop in and get some when they feel like it. Present giving isn't even done together as a family, they just help themselves whenever they get up in the morning, regardless of whether anyone else is there.
Am I entitled to feel upset about this, or do I need a kick up the bum?