MIL dropped a pill by baby's playmat and didn't tell me

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More of a WWYD. Let's start by being clear that everyone is lovely and I get along well with all of them.

We had people here at the weekend and there are two crawling babies; ours and BIL/SILs. I've just found a pill on the floor next to the playmat for the babies; nobody told either of us that they had dropped a pill. The only people with pills they take in the day are MIL and AIL.

If it was AIL, then she sees the babies rarely and it's better to say nothing because she just got back on good terms with PIL, who would both be angry if they thought AIL wasn't taking enough care around the babies.

Given the seat the pill was next to, it was more likely MIL however, who does see the babies a lot. DH thinks she must have not realised or would have told us, but she carries daily pills so I don't see how she wouldn't have noticed. She has the babies visit at her house, she might get them on her own at some points and she's around them an awful lot; so I feel like it would be useful to remind her to be super careful with the pills. However nicely I put it, I know it'll upset her that she'll know she's done something very wrong, and as above if it actually isn't her pill then unfortunately it's likely to cause big issues with AIL. But I'm not happy that there was a pill on the floor where my baby plays and nobody gave me a chance to look for it.

As a side point, should I tell SIL so she can remember to be careful with the baby on their floor? That could cause issues with her taking their baby round less and if I was telling MIL I think is unnecessary.

So, who would you tell (if anyone)?

There are lots of pill identification websites like www.webmd.com/pill-identification/default.htm that you could try...

Can you post a pic of the pill on here?

I can't seem to post images. Any idea why, what size do I need to downgrade resolution to? The back has a cross, they're round and about 0.5cm diameter. I can't read the letters or numbers on the back; perhaps 5-7 (depending if there is a gap), the first might be a B or an 8. I might just take it to the pharmacy.

Find out what it is and then you’ll know who to confront.

PP poster is right, it could have been more than one. Scour your home.

Really tissue? You'd "confront" someone about this? What's wrong with "talking" to them, or "raising" it with them.

A pic with your ‘phone should be clear enough I would think .

BarbarianMum

Wrong side of the bed today?!

It’s far more likely that they didn’t notice that it was dropped rather then deliberately leaving it on the floor and no mentioning it.
Accidents happen so no need to go in all barrels blazing, just a hey we found a tablet on the floor, I know accidents happen but can people be super careful next time as we’re at the everything going in the mouth stage.

say something..... even as the babies get older, children do the most unexpected things. My DD and her friend on a play date in my house, climbed up onto windowsill in my bathroom and got down box with plasters in it to play doctors and nurses. Unknown to me there was an old packet of lemsip in teh very bottom. I literally let them play for 5 minutes and when I went back in with some biscuits they had this packet open and were pretending to give it to the teddies! I am hyper vigilant with medicine but this happened to me in a very short space of time.

So its not just something she needs to be mindful of with the babies, its young toddlers, and younger children (DD was about 5) as well. Thankfully they did not take any lemsip themselves but just highlights that unless you ant to keep an eagle eye out until they are 8-9 you need to talk to her gently about this.

So no unsupervised is the way forward

Massive over reaction

OP,

Exactly the same thing happened to me once with DM and once again with DF. I agree you should say something and it doesn't really matter what tablet it is, as even an adult vitamin could be harmful to a young child.

I just picked it up, checked there were no others and asked if it was one of their tablets. Both said yes and I politely reminded them they looked like sweets to the kids. Both had not noticed they had dropped a tablet, they took it well and it has never happened since. DM was a bit and now takes them in the bathroom with the door locked.

Just had a quick google based on your description and there is a possibility it is a pet medication. Could that be the case?

I think you do absolutely need to mention it.

I'm only guessing, because you haven't given enough detail, but I suggest you google brown warfarin tablets to see if any of them match. If they do, and it is a warfarin tablet, then it will likely be your MIL who dropped it. She may not have noticed if she was getting them out of the bottle.
Warfarin is a blood thinner, and although it's not the worst medication that a baby could accidentally swallow, it's not one I'd want them to swallow either as the dose would be quite high for such a little body, even if it's only a 1mg tablet.

You need to bring it to their attention, all of them, that this has happened because, God forbid, if it happens again and one of the babies does take it the outcome could be far more serious and they'd never forgive themselves.

If the relatives are flippant about meds are they going to be vigilant about others safety measures?
Exmil put a stool next to the bed so dc could get on and jump on it!
Bathroom window fully open also!
It's like she laughed at safety matters tbh!

take it to the chemist & ask what it is.
You must mention this to the family

Clonazepam is one I found that looks like you describe, yellow with a cross on it. It also comes in blue. Its to control seizures if its that one

This happened in my house in my ds bedroom as a baby. It was my mum she had taken her meds in the spare room she takes a lot as a transplant patient and one had slipped onto her jumper and fell off when she went into his bedroom. Fortunately I found it it was an accident and accidents happen. I told her and gave it her back and now she's extremely careful when around the kids

What do you think to the advice OP?

Amitriptyline also comes in a yellow pill in 25mg. That has a cross on it too.

It could easily have been dropped by accident. Likely the person taking them takes a few and had sorted them out in advance so wouldn’t realise. Some people need to carry meds if they need to take them through the day.

I would just mention you found one and could they be careful in future because of DC. No need to identify whose it is unless they ask to see.

My mum came to live with us when DS was almost 3. Right from the off I warned him and warned him about grandma’s tablets as she used to drop them on the floor or down the sofa (in her room). If she knew she dropped one she would search for it or ask for help but I think lots of times she didn’t realise. She’d had a stroke, had Parkinsonism and later dementia so it was easy to see how it happened. My DS knew from very small that the tablets she took to make her feel better could make him very poorly. He was very responsible about it.

I think you are overreacting based on zero evidence of who dropped the pill.

You don't know it was either of these relatives - I take pills I don't advertise. And if you MIL had known she'd dropped it, she'd have picked it up. I would say to both relatives that you've found a pill on the floor by the mat, is it one of theirs? You don't need to do anything else and may well discover it came from another source.

I think you should definitely mention it so they can be more careful in future. I would be furious if Maybe just send a group text not accusing anyone specific so they don’t get upset.

That's so stressful for your, OP. I've had similar- My PILs have a habit of taking a pill out and leaving it on a table for later for some fucking reason. I don't think they'd notice if they dropped one.

Sounds like Bisoprolol to me, I take it for blood pressure