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Original poster

To tell a child off for removing her jumper by pulling it from the neck over her head

106 replies

Candymay · 23/09/2018 21:54

She’s 13. Am I wrong to feel shocked at seeing her pull her clothes off like this? She was trying on an expensive knitted jumper. It was meant for her smaller sister but she didn’t realise. She then took one hand and grabbed the neckline and dragged it off over her head with me standing shocked and appalled. Am I wrong to make a fuss? It hadn’t occurred to me that she didn’t know how to undress properly. In my opinion this is ‘wrong’.

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NonaGrey · 23/09/2018 22:31

I’m assuming this isn’t your child, otherwise you’d have corrected her previously?

“Shocked and appalled” is an overreaction. A quiet suggestion of how to do it without damaging the item would have been more appropriate.

If the child is 13 and the jumper was for her younger sister I’m a bit Hmm about you buying her “expensive knitwear”. Expensive wooden items aren’t a great combination wth preteens. My own D.C. careful with their things but lots of their friends and cousin’s aren’t.

Also given the rate at which pre-teens and young teens grow expensive knitwear seems rather wasteful.

Shop more wisely and maintain a little perspective in future.

Original poster
Candymay · 23/09/2018 22:31

Yes she is mine. She’s wonderful. Just a bit heavy handed with clothes. And shoes. And I find it hard not to say anything about it. The jumper thing was just something that made me feel like it was wrong - and of course I realise my way is not the only way. I just wondered whether anyone else would think this was even something to mention or to be cross about.

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ChardonnaysPrettySister · 23/09/2018 22:32

I do the way Mrs Strawman described.

I think.

BitOutOfPractice · 23/09/2018 22:33

Appalled?

Crikey you lead a sheltered life.

Teenagers eh? Forget about drugs, teenage pregnancy, a mental healthy epidemic and the fact that they face a broken economic future. All that pales beside their inability to take a jumper off correctly.

Aintnothingbutaheartache · 23/09/2018 22:34

You are being completely over the top about this.
I would suggest you take a look at the rest of your life if someone removing a jumper like this causes you such distress

NonaGrey · 23/09/2018 22:34

She’s yours? Confused

Well then I’m entirely confused. Surely you taught her how to dress/undress?

And if it’s your own daughter why on earth are you second guessing telling her off for being tough with her clothes?

Genuinely mystified as to the impetus for the thread.

Newyoiker · 23/09/2018 22:35
Biscuit
Nightwatch999 · 23/09/2018 22:36

Wow get a grip OPHmm

Sugarplumfairy65 · 23/09/2018 22:36

You are a fruit loop

clairedelalune · 23/09/2018 22:36

Am I the only person who has no idea how they take a jumper off as they just do it without thinking? Confused
Must focus more next time.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 23/09/2018 22:37

And I find it hard not to say anything about it.

Why?

Do you often complain at her for things like this?

IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan · 23/09/2018 22:39

How have you gotten your daughter to 13 without showing her your approved method of jumper removal? It’s seems quite an important life skill to you. How did you overlook it?

spinabifidamom · 23/09/2018 22:39

I’m sorry what? Stop overreacting it’s not healthy.

NTitled · 23/09/2018 22:40

Um... I was almost tempted to give this a serious response, but others have done it for me ("fruit loop" is the one that comes to mind).

If a jumper causes such distress, I wonder how other teenage transgressions might be received.

Marriedwithchildren5 · 23/09/2018 22:41

Someone's beaten me to the comment i was going to make! Gutted. On another note to the op. Chill. Just tell her. Don't be angry Grin it's really not worth it.

BackforGood · 23/09/2018 22:43

Men do it this way. Women cross their arms in front of them and then pull it up from the hem. I don't know why.

Speak for yourself, I put my hand into the sleeve at the armpit (up from the hem, IYSWIM), down to the elbow and slide that arm out, then the other arm, then lift over my head.

Grin
MrMeSeeks · 23/09/2018 22:47

Men do it this way. Women cross their arms in front of them and then pull it up from the hem. I don't know why.
Really? Do they?
Didn’t know i was a man...Hmm

Womaningreen · 23/09/2018 22:48

Is this is a joke? I don't get it.

Cel982 · 23/09/2018 22:48

I do it the same way, BackForGood; was trying to teach my 4yo to undress this way today but she's struggling to get the hang of it...

wrenika · 23/09/2018 22:49

I go sleeves first but I've always considered that the 'wrong' way...I just find it easiest but I feel it stretches the sleeves and the seams around the sleeves. If I was flexible enough to do it any other way I would!

Dollymixture22 · 23/09/2018 22:53

Loads of men take their jumpers off like this. I am not sure it actually does any damage to ththe garments. My dad has done this for as long as I can remember and the uptight mother never batted an eyelid.

If you think her clothes are getting stretched ask her to lift the sweaters by the waist band.

But yes you are bien unreasonable -and more uptight than my mother

SneakyGremlins · 23/09/2018 22:54

Men do it this way

I don't Grin

bluetrampolines · 23/09/2018 22:56

Shocked?
Wow. You should come and stay here for 10 minutes. Shocked you say?

NamelessNannar · 23/09/2018 23:01

I might be mildly irritated by it but shocked and appalled? Hmm

LemonysSnicket · 23/09/2018 23:02

'Appalled'? That's how some people take their jumpers off