To tell a child off for removing her jumper by pulling it from the neck over her head

[Candymay]

She’s 13. Am I wrong to feel shocked at seeing her pull her clothes off like this? She was trying on an expensive knitted jumper. It was meant for her smaller sister but she didn’t realise. She then took one hand and grabbed the neckline and dragged it off over her head with me standing shocked and appalled. Am I wrong to make a fuss? It hadn’t occurred to me that she didn’t know how to undress properly. In my opinion this is ‘wrong’.

I would remove the jumper from the bottom hem up over my head, turning it inside out in the process, stops the neck getting stretched, not sure why people think the only way to do it is to pull it by the neck. OP YABU however, if she's wearing makeup and does it the way I do she would get makeup around the neck of the jumper. Also, appalled , bit of an overreaction

Huh? Mother taught me to take a jumper off like that, less likely to make it misshapen than the other way with elbows in the front (or is there a third way)

Either way, I've always felt children shouldn't be in clothes you need to worry about. If this can make you appalled, then you should buy younger DD a cheaper jumper

I wish i had time to get shocked and appalled about how people take off their jumpers!

Is she your daughter OP?

I've taken my clothes off like that since I was 2.
The world is still turning on its axis.

"shocked and appalled"

"told off"

the You tube video !!

MN gets funnier day by day

I'm not shock or appalled but I'm surprised how many people take jumpers off this way, does it not mess your hair up?

I pull off tahirts/jumpers by the neck, your making an absolute drama out of nothing “shocked and appalled” get a grip!

Blimey if this makes you shocked and appalled I bet you don’t watch the news often, that would definitely push you over the edge!

Such an ott reaction....

Shocked and appalled might be a slight/total overreaction...

Calm down ffs. I honestly couldn't work myself up about this at all. Poor kid.

I do it this way. No having to turn them the right way round afterwards. Necklines haven't gone weird. Have a couple of jumpers from years ago and still fine.

A child or your child?

Jesus - the child is out of control - does she take her trousers off over her feet as well ???

I’m going to guess, just a hunch, this is a step child.

Ok so maybe shocked and appalled is a bit strong but yes it’s about the neck being out of shape and it looks like a rough way to treat clothes. In my mind the ‘correct’ way is sleeves first and then over the head. Not over the head by pulling at the neck to drag the sleeves off. Yes I’m sure it’s an overreaction. That’s why I posted here. I’m aware that not everyone would be bothered by the same things as me.

In the title you say 'a child' is she not yours then OP?

Men do it this way. Women cross their arms in front of them and then pull it up from the hem. I don't know why.

Candymay I'm with you. I do it exactly as you do, and taught my sons this way. Much less stretching of the neck.

This has made me giggle.

I wouldn't tell my DD off but I'd ask her to do it a different way as yes it stretches the neck line. When I was breastfeeding I found it took very little to ruin a neckline entirely by pulling at it too much!

I would be fumming, I would.

Sleeves first? That just stretches the sleeves. First world problem

Sleeves first But that's wrong - you get sleeves stretching to the floor that way.

Wear cardigans.