Moving in with partner

[Mardybum18]

Hi there

Within the foreseeable future the partner wants to move in together but doesn't want to do a joint mortgage application, and would rather they be the only party registering for the mortgage and home ownership, however has said that I could contribute to the utility bills

Now hypothetically speaking, if things broke down I wouldn't have a leg to stand on financially?

I do want us to both live together eventually but not sure this is the right way to go about it?

Thanks

Don’t do it.
I’d have a frank discussion as to your concerns about him going about it alone.,.if you can’t even voice that and he can’t even understand your fears if he fucks off....this relationship shan’t work long term.
Protect yourself op

I'd call it quits tbh, you're both not suitable for each other. This relationship is very one sided and isn't really a partnership of equals. There's a lot of game playing and talk of turning the tables and one upmanship. That's not really how life partners should be treating each other. Move on and find someone worthy of your love and money.

I guess I can understand the behaviour when I think about it, if there is a massive deposit being laid down or bank of mum and dad contributing...

When we are together there is no one upmanship.

Why don't you buy your own investment property? Rent it out.
Live with him if you want to, but discuss details beforehand - that you'll pay half utility bills and half shopping only.
You can't lose this way. Why mix your finances if you don't have to?
You didn't answer if you plan to have children together. In which case I wouldn't continue the relationship as he clearly doesn't have your financial security in mind.

I don't know about children, what happens happens.

OP the more you post the more I get the impression this is a non committed relationship and you don't have open communication about some big issues. I don't mean to be rude but are you very young or is this your first significant relationship or his?

What happens happens? When it comes to children.
Now that is a dangerous way to think.
That is how women end up getting fucked. Financially, she pays for everything child related, still expected to contribute at the same level as well, when going back to work paying for all childcare, taking all illness time off, and doing everything around the home. She's in debt and he's laughing all the way to the bank with his thousands in savings.
She is the one that does everything for the child and he does nothing.

Have a good look at the threads on the relationships board. There are plenty of posts of financial, emotional and physical abuse on there by woman who wouldn't have thought they'd end up in the position they find themselves. You need to protect yourself and any future children you have by choosing the right partner beforehand. This man sounds like he has the potential to be properly financially abusive. Pick up on the little red flags and take notice before it's too late.

Excellent point theworldistoosmall