Or is this rude?!

[doris9034]

So last night dp went out with his ds (adult) and 2 friends. All good - they had a great time then came back here for a few drinks etc.....
I got up this morning about 8ish - as far as I knew every one else was still asleep, so I used our ensuite. Heard a car so looked out of the window and friends are leaving! Not a word said - no bye or thanks or anything!!! Tbf one friend (the one who was driving) does have form for this but that was when camping and bad weather so more understandable. Is it just me or is it really weird - and actually a bit rude - to just bugger off like that?! although at least I did get to eat all the croissants

I would think that very rude unless they had told your DH beforehand (e.g. "we need to get off early to do whatever"). Evenso I would have left a note saying thanks. Enjoy the croissants though!

Not really rude, if they are close enough to stay they are close enough to leave when they want if everyone is still asleep. Would you rather they had woke you up to say goodbye (if you had still been asleep)? I am sure they will/can text later & say 'Had a goodnight, cheers for having us stay etc'.

Why is that an issue? You said you were in the shower so did you expect them to wait until you had come down to say they were off? Maybe they already thanked your DH/DS last night for letting them stay?
Maybe they had places to be, maybe they wanted to go home & continue to sleep. Maybe they knew if they had waited they couldn't 'just leave' so quickly without seeming rude because you had croissants!

Tbh how do you not know that was discussed with your DP & his DS last night "Feel free to stay & don't worry about rushing off first thing if you have to in the morning we'll see you whenever.. as I sure as hell won't be up early!" And how do you know they knew you were even up?

If I'm honest I always hated staying & still do at anyone else's house. Much rather a longer/more expensive journey home but can relax in the morning.

They probably just didn't want to wake you, I don't think it's a big deal.

I've had friends disappear early when they've not wanted to wake us but they've text to say that and thanked us etc.

It's definitely rude if you are up and they've just left!

I've left a friend's house at that time in the morning. No point me hanging around waiting for her to wake up, only to say goodbye. If they were meant to be with you for the weekend, though, that is bad.

I'd be glad and welcome my house back without beery hungover men around!

If it’s not a planned stay it’s different to just crashing after a night out because they were too tired to go home.

They probably just wanted to get out of your hair.

They were planned to stay - they knew I had bought stuff for breakfast and had said nothing to dp the night before - he was as as me!

Oh and there has been no text since they left either!

Ok if that was in the original OP I would have said it seems quite rude. Obviously don't have them stay again if it bothers you & they have form.
Why not text yourself "Oh, you've left.... hope there's nothing wrong? Croissants were nice by the way!"

OK then, I think rude.

Have you checked their bedroom to see if one of them shat the bed or something? Just wondering if they left hurriedly out of embarrassment...

Yeah that is rude.

Maybe they had an argument or felt rough and just wanted to get home. I cba yo get upset about this sort of thing.

Yes that’s rude! They knew you had spent money to feed them! Never mind leaving you to wash their sheets without even a thank you.

Or text "Do I need to put a wash on, cos I'm guessing you pissed the bed this morning to have left so early??!!"

lemontart

Rude

Rude. I would text and say is everything ok as you left without speaking to us this morning. Ps we are enjoying the nice brekkie we got in for you!

Depends, if they needed to get off and thought everyone else was asleep then leavit quietly was the polite thing to do.

Think I would be slightly relieved that I didn't have to entertain. You can still eat the food.i am sure it will keep for a bit.

I don't think it's rude. It's actually my preferred scenario. Don't have to deal with DH's hungover mates.

They thought you were asleep and were considerate enough not to wake you. How is that rude?

I would just be glad they were gone and I didn't have to face people at 8 on a Sunday morning. I think I would be quite grateful they had left withought waking us or hanging around so I felt obliged to make good or tea and coffee for them 😂 but then I'm quite anti social and I hate people staying in my house.