Or is this rude?!

[doris9034]

So last night dp went out with his ds (adult) and 2 friends. All good - they had a great time then came back here for a few drinks etc.....
I got up this morning about 8ish - as far as I knew every one else was still asleep, so I used our ensuite. Heard a car so looked out of the window and friends are leaving! Not a word said - no bye or thanks or anything!!! Tbf one friend (the one who was driving) does have form for this but that was when camping and bad weather so more understandable. Is it just me or is it really weird - and actually a bit rude - to just bugger off like that?! although at least I did get to eat all the croissants

They thought you were asleep and were considerate enough not to wake you. How is that rude?

Perhaps you should read the whole thread.

They thought you were asleep and were considerate enough not to wake you. How is that rude?
If you read the OP's posts carefully you'll see that she says they had an arrangement to stay and knew she had bought stuff for breakfast. They didn't mention a change of plan to her DP the night before.

I don’t think it’s rude at all tbh.

They are your dh friends anyway and did you really want them hanging around all morning to say bye to you? people are free to leave my house whenever they are ready I don’t expect them to wait for me to get up to say bye especially if they are dh friends and not mine!

I’d be absolutely delighted with this scenario. It’s always so awkward the next day unless you’re all super duper morning people.

I don’t expect them to wait for me to get up to say bye especially if they are dh friends and not mine!

Yes but they didn’t even say bye or thanks to her DH!

Did they know you planned to make them breakfast?

Then he can come on here and complain. Who knows what was said between them last night? Maybe they made it clear they had somewhere to be but DH didn’t pick up on it. Maybe he gave the impression he wanted a nice long sleep? I’d hardly get upset over it unless there was a firm plan to have lunch or something.

Oh if it’s rude I do this always wake up early and am bored so leave

Have you checked their bedroom to see if one of them shat the bed or something? Just wondering if they left hurriedly out of embarrassment...

What sort of friends do you have that makes you even think of this?!

weird lost

They didn't say goodbye because everyone was asleep, ffs! I'd be far more pissed off to be woken up to be bid adieu!

When people get totally shitfaced they can feel very vulnerable and ashamed to face anyone. Maybe text them and ask if they are OK?

I hope they were fit to drive. Alcohol doesn't simply evaporate because of a kip...

Hope they didn’t leave your door unlocked!

They are my friends too - both female

Text and ask if everything is okay as they left without saying goodbye

I think men have their own social rules for this type of stuff. If DP is not bothered, which I don't imagine he will be, I wouldn't think it is rude.

We had an interesting debate once when the husbands in our group went on a night out. One felt rough and went home without telling anyone. All the women thought that was rude but none of the men saw a problem.

I'd say it was a bit odd. I'd assume something came up that meant they had to leave and they didn't want to wake anyone.

I don’t expect them to wait for me to get up to say bye

Did they know you planned to make them breakfast?

I’d hardly get upset over it unless there was a firm plan to have lunch or something.

They didn't say goodbye because everyone was asleep, ffs!

For fuck's sake. Are you all really hard of comprehension?

The OP says 'They were planned to stay - they knew I had bought stuff for breakfast and had said nothing to dp the night before - he was as hmm as me!'

Maybe they (or one of them) had a bad night for some reason and just want to get home? (Row, embarrassed themselves, got offended by something, did something out of line, had something out of line happen to them). Or had bad news/something cropped up to call them back sooner?

The thing is if this was my friends I'd call them or text and say everything ok why did you leave.

I wouldn't be posting about it first on mumsnet asking if they were rude. I find that odd.

yes, texting them seems the thing to do.

You wrote that they came over for a few drinks not to stay the night/breakfast. Better than having guests overstay their welcome on a Sunday.

I would also text them or call them (sorry assumed your partner had already done this when you got up and saw no text or note from them).

It’s more odd than rude but I’d be more concerned something was up. If they were my friends to I’d just ask them.

Not sure about it being rude, unless there’s no text before the end of today. Anything could have been the reason they needed to go.

I would be worried about their fitness to drive after a night of drinking and then leaving so early tho. But that’s their watch.