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Boyfriends hair

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chattyemma · 20/09/2018 17:23

I’m so angry right now it’s unbeliveable My partner works from home and he has long hair shoulder length which is usually tied up (but looks better down). Today he said to me before I went to work that he was gonna go to the barbers and get a tiny bit chopped off about 2cms just to tidy it up when he called his mother this morning to say he’s He’s going out and if he’s needed he’s on his mobile and he’s going to town to go to barbers she said come down mine and I’ll take you with your father speaking to his cut at the same time. His mother has never been happy with it with him having long hair and as always said for him to cut it short but he has always said no and me 2 when she has tried to get me involved.

So this morning when he went with his mother and father the barbers he thinks (and me) that they got the barber to cut it shorter than what he wanted I think it looks about 6 inches it’s now just under his ears and now he can just about to tie up and he is really annoyed about it.

He refused to pay the barber because of how short they cut it and just walked out (strange he didn’t hit him) and his mum txt me in work saying how embarrassed she was of his behaviour and that she paid his bill. I wanna text her back and say about you blame him because of what happened.

Need some advice what would you do

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Aintnothingbutaheartache · 21/09/2018 01:41

It’s hair. It grows. You really need to look at the bigger picture here

TheFluffyHippo · 21/09/2018 01:56

So he said “Hi barber, just a couple of centimetres off the bottom please”, and mum took the barber to one side to say “ignore him. He wants it below the ears really”? And the barber was totally cool with ignoring his client’s wishes?

Sounds to me like he wanted it cut short but was afraid you’d react like, well, this so he’s blaming it on his mum.

(And anyway, shoulder length to ear length is hardly a massive change unless he’s a giraffe)

TheClaws · 21/09/2018 01:57

Make sure you go with him next time, OP, not Mum and Dad, so you be sure that no trimming devices, sharp or not, are used in the range of his hair at all. Grin

murraythedog · 21/09/2018 04:23

Maybe he could spend some of that 125KHmm on a course/therapist to learn that wanting to punch someone is not the default way of handling trivial upsets.

Anastassiabeaverhausen · 21/09/2018 05:46

Punctuation is your friend or not

SoupDragon · 21/09/2018 06:38

He is a grown adult. Did he not notice the amount that was being cut and say something? Seriously?

PurpleFlower1983 · 21/09/2018 06:51

Hair grows.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 21/09/2018 06:52

You and your boyfriend have a lot of growing up to do if any of this is real.

BlueJava · 21/09/2018 06:54

All sounds a bit drama llama to me, I assume he could speak for himself? Whoever would let their parents speak to a hairdresser after the ago of about 13 is asking for what's coming.

WakeUpFromYourDreamAndScream · 21/09/2018 07:00

£125k yeah right Hmm

I'm struggling to imagine a supposedly grown man sitting in a barbers chair and saying nothing while his mother tells the barber what he wants. Bizarre

LizTaylorsFabulousTurban · 21/09/2018 07:01

Gosh OP this is terrible. Your poor boyfriend is stuck with this awful uneven haircut for the rest of his life. I'm so sorry. It would be perfect if he could grow it out or go to another barbers to get it evened up. But no, alas neither solution exists. Up with it he will have to put. Forever.

whatshappenednow · 21/09/2018 07:03

I understand why he’s upset, it’s awful when we get a bad haircut, but he needs to use this as a lesson not to listen to his mother. He’s a grown man, not a child. He shouldn’t even be telling his mother when he’s getting a haircut. Even if he needs to tell her to ring his mobile rather than his landline, he doesn’t have to tell her where he’s going.

Lesson learned. Plus he must have notic d how much the barber was cutting off surely? He should have spoken up.

CaptainCorrigan · 21/09/2018 07:04

YABU. Your boyfriend also needs to grow a backbone and maybe get a wig if he's so devastated.

Still trying to imagine a bloke that earns 125k but doesn't have the sense to say stop to a barber when he sees he's cutting 6 inches off his hair.

BobbyBanana · 21/09/2018 07:21

Haha this is hilarious

Petalflowers · 21/09/2018 07:26

If it’s uneven and looks a mess, go to another hairdressers and get it neatened up.

PecanPastry · 21/09/2018 07:32

@chattyemma your bf should have had the nous to see it coming if it was a family barbers.

It's only hair, it will grow back, he's lucky he has some.

I'm quite taken aback at his age, and whilst I think it's really crass that you've thrown how much he earns into the post (it really is crass when people talk about money like that - please do take note so at least you'll have gleaned a real life lesson from your post) perhaps he could have put some of that money towards lining the pocket of a barber that he chose himself, being a 32 year old, and all that.

RoxyStella · 21/09/2018 07:34

Well, if it happened like you said, it sounds to me like they manipulated the situation to get the barber to cut his hair shorter than he wanted.

If I said to one of my family members ‘oh I’m going to the barbers’ and they said they were also going so we might as well go together I would just agree that it was a good idea.

If I suspected my mother had tricked me into getting a haircut she wanted me to get when I was an adult, I wouldn’t think ‘oh well, it’s only hair. It will grow back’. The issue is bigger than that surely!

If he has an existing relationship with the barber, could he go and speak to him about it now when he is calmer? I wouldn’t get it cut again there though. But I would want to know why he had cut it in a different way from how I asked.

If this was me, I’d communicate calmly with my mother and tell her I was having my hair how I wanted for the rest of my life and that would be the last ever discussion I was going to have with her about hair forever.

I’d possibly wear a bejewelled JoJo now whilst telling her though.

MmeButtox · 21/09/2018 07:41

This guy's Mum sounds like a nightmare and if the barber's her buddy i could see it happening

Gersemi · 21/09/2018 07:47

Didn't your boyfriend notice what was going on whilst they were cutting?

Happygummibear · 21/09/2018 07:48

My mum stopped getting involved with our haircuts when we decided how to have them. Brother has had long scraggly hair for as long as I can remember... mum might not like it but it isn't her hair...

Tell you db to grow some balls and use £50 of his 125k to pay a proper salon to do his hair..... if it's a good one he'll get a head massage and drink thrown in.

Also.... his hair will grow back.... if he is that upset get some extensions put in.....

HmmConfused

MmeButtox · 21/09/2018 07:58

If true, his parents are more worrisome than the haircfut by far

whatalifethisis · 21/09/2018 08:03

My hairdresser cut my hair too short about 6 years ago......do you think it's too late to go back and thump her?

ChangerChangerson · 21/09/2018 08:03

Thanks for the laughs, OP.

giveyourselfashiny3 · 21/09/2018 08:09

I think it looks lovely.

Boyfriends hair
arethereanyleftatall · 21/09/2018 08:14

Sorry you're getting these responses op, but please understand this situation is all so very very odd.