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Boyfriends hair

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chattyemma · 20/09/2018 17:23

I’m so angry right now it’s unbeliveable My partner works from home and he has long hair shoulder length which is usually tied up (but looks better down). Today he said to me before I went to work that he was gonna go to the barbers and get a tiny bit chopped off about 2cms just to tidy it up when he called his mother this morning to say he’s He’s going out and if he’s needed he’s on his mobile and he’s going to town to go to barbers she said come down mine and I’ll take you with your father speaking to his cut at the same time. His mother has never been happy with it with him having long hair and as always said for him to cut it short but he has always said no and me 2 when she has tried to get me involved.

So this morning when he went with his mother and father the barbers he thinks (and me) that they got the barber to cut it shorter than what he wanted I think it looks about 6 inches it’s now just under his ears and now he can just about to tie up and he is really annoyed about it.

He refused to pay the barber because of how short they cut it and just walked out (strange he didn’t hit him) and his mum txt me in work saying how embarrassed she was of his behaviour and that she paid his bill. I wanna text her back and say about you blame him because of what happened.

Need some advice what would you do

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 20/09/2018 17:40

Thanks for the abuse. Remind me never to come here again

Ok, how can we contact you to send the reminder?

Aeroflotgirl · 20/09/2018 17:40

Wow how old is he to need to take his mum to the barber. His hair, his choice, next time go by himself.

Mulberry72 · 20/09/2018 17:41

Mahoosive overreaction!

Are you both 12?

Playdayswasthebest · 20/09/2018 17:41

My boyfriend once went shopping for a new shirt. I told him he could only buy a blue shirt, the retail assistant told him that the red looked great on him so he bought it.

I put him on the naughty step and didn't give him any pudding.

fc301 · 20/09/2018 17:41

Words 🤣

fc301 · 20/09/2018 17:41

Worra 🤣

RtHonLady · 20/09/2018 17:43

What do you actually want advice on?

CatboySpeed · 20/09/2018 17:43

You know you can’t go around hitting people just because they gave you a bad hair cut.

GlassSuppers · 20/09/2018 17:43

Is he a mute OP?

Why didn't he tell the barber how much to cut it by?

I'm imagining in my mind a 40year old going in to the barbers with his elderly parents telling the barber how much to cut their little darlings hair and sitting him on the booster seat while he sucks a lolly.
Hahahahahahaha

Have a biscuit the pair of you. BiscuitBiscuit

CookPassBabtridge · 20/09/2018 17:44

I wouldn't advocate hitting Hmm not paying is fine if it is completely different to what he asked for. But I get you being upset, I cried when my other half had his long hair cut short (barber did same as your bf's) BUT it grew quickly and now he's had hair nearly to his bum for the last decade Grin

Ellisandra · 20/09/2018 17:44

Genuinely, wish OP would return with ages.

It is actually REALLY out of order if his mum went in and said to the barber “husband will have a short back and sides, and son wants to go short - just below the ears please”.

There’s some odd dynamic going on that he even rang her before going. And odd that he didn’t speak to the barber. Really odd.

It sounds like he could do with counselling tbh. Not to get over the trauma of short hair, but to set boundaries and feel OK going into town without phoning his mum first.

LagunaBubbles · 20/09/2018 17:44

I hate when some posters see people that disagree with them immediately jump into "you are all bullies".

LagunaBubbles · 20/09/2018 17:45

Didn't your boyfriend notice more hair was getting cut off than he wanted to?

Twotailed · 20/09/2018 17:45

Not strange that he didn’t hit the barber, surely?!? If it’s normal for him to hit people you have bigger problems.

Also don’t know why you’re angry at his mother, she didn’t cut his hair.

Your partner sounds like a sulky child, you sound overly dramatic, everyone needs to calm down and grow up.

SelinaMyers · 20/09/2018 17:46

I think BF maybe wanted his hair cut short and parents are getting the blame. I can’t believe a barber would ask a grown man’s mother about a hair cut.

Original poster
chattyemma · 20/09/2018 17:50

It’s a family members barbers

OP posts:
SerendipityFelix · 20/09/2018 17:51

Love AIBU

OP: AIBU?
MN: Yes!
OP: OMG abuse!

OP, you asked what you should do - I presume about the text from your boyfriend’s mother telling on him for his rude behaviour at the barbers. My answer is: realise that this is not your responsibility or problem. His parent’s alleged coercion of the barber - not your problem or responsibility. His apparent dysfunctional relationship with his parents - not your problem or responsibility. His aggression and anger management issues throwing a strop in public about a hair cut - not your problem or responsibility.

Personally I wouldn’t reply to the mother or would send a non-reply as in oh, sounds like an eventful afternoon or something. DO NOT either excuse his behaviour or be drawn into parenting him. He’s a grown ass man, expect better of him. And of yourself for that matter for thinking any of this is in any way normal.

Hair grows. He’ll get over it.

Playdayswasthebest · 20/09/2018 17:52

A family members barbers and you're surprised he didn't punch him?? What a bunch of donuts.

You can choose your friends........

GlassSuppers · 20/09/2018 17:52

A family member is the barber?

You're surprised he didn't punch family??

Wow. He sounds a real catch. You've got a gooden there OP!

showmeahero · 20/09/2018 17:53

What on earth are you going on about OP, His hair will grow back. #Firstworldproblems

PorkFlute · 20/09/2018 17:56

It’s all a bit odd. Starting with the family trip to the barbers????
I think it would be pretty odd for a barber to take instructions from an adults parents about their haircut. More likely they just messed it up? He was well within his rights to refuse to pay if it was much shorter than he wanted though. If the mum wanted to pay that was up to her. Still not sure why she was even there though 😂

florenceheadache · 20/09/2018 17:56

Dysfunctional immature relationship OP, between your overreaction and his propensity to hit someone I suggest you part ways over this. Please don’t procreate.

Poodles1980 · 20/09/2018 17:56

I’m confused. Are we talking about your adult boyfriend or your child. Why was someone taking him into town for a haircut, does he need special assistance or have I totally missed something here?

giveyourselfashiny3 · 20/09/2018 17:57

What on earth is this all about??

starryeyed19 · 20/09/2018 17:57

OP, I can kind of see where you are coming from. I'm guessing the parents pressured him and got the barber onside? For some parents, their kids are always kids, no matter how old they are.

It will grow back. And maybe he should find another barber.

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