Every year, my parents (who are separated), make it seem like they aren't that bothered about us coming over for Christmas. We have two small children (their grandchildren!).
Both of mine and DH's parents live quite far away from us. We see them once every 2 or 3 months. We alternate Christmas between the families (as they live far apart). This year it was my family's turn.
So, true to form, both my parents are not fussed about inviting us. My Dad and partner have told me he can't accommodate us because he will have my Gran and his brother round. My Mum has not made up her mind because they are having her partners parents over, and his son.....oh.....but she might want us round so that we can use their spare room, because she does not want her step-son to sleep over (long story). So basically, she may want us over to fill a bed, not because she actually wants to see us. She has his family over every year.
Last year my Mum announced that she was going away for the whole xmas period to stay in a Premier Inn in a random UK town.
I've tried to inviting them to our house in previous years but they never take up the offer.
My Dad finds xmas stressful, but I feel like my Mum has to act as if she's really not that fussed about seeing us every year. WHY??
I've told her politely to make up her mind, or we will change our plans and go and see my DHs family again this year. She will probably still invite us, but it's as if she has to make it clear it's not convenient or she's not bothered.