To think this was a shit comment to make to someone with no children

[Clothrabbit]

Someone in work was commenting earlier today on how tired she felt because her elderly mother hasn't been well and she's been looking after her in the evenings and taking it in turn with her sister to stay the night.

A colleague with a small child said 'oh you don't know what tired is until you've had to entertain a toddler at 2 in the morning'.

The first woman has no children, and I just thought it was a rude and self centred comment. Of course it's tiring being woken up every night by small kids, but that doesn't mean other people don't get exhausted either.

AIBU to think it was a shit thing to say?

Absolutely stupid comment to make, and is rude and completely insensitive.

Personally I've had a baby and had an awful first month of very little sleep but I've definitely been more tired from just work on some occasions of doing four nights in a row especially in the summer when daytime sleeping is impossible. Also at work I don't get to stay in my pjs and eat biscuits!

Oh yes..... the ‘my feelings, experience, and life in general are more challenging/harder/more important than yours - because you can’t know/feel until you’ve got a child.’

I suffer chronic pain (and don’t really sleep much because of it) but it’s a phrase that pain is not competitive - but neither should tiredness or busyness be. It’s ones experience that matters, and though I may privately think that it’s taking the piss that my colleague with a broken collar bone is in so much pain she’s so far had 10 weeks off work, I shan’t ever say that out loud. If it affects you to a certain extent, then that’s your experience; and that experience is valid.

Now.... if only I could get comfy and get some sleep... otherwise I’ll be the tiredest winner tomorrow. 🤣🤣🤣

You just don't get it do you Leopard? No one's piling on mothers feeling tired, they're piling on the type of mother who can't conceive of the fact that someone else could be as tired as her and sees fit to make insensitive comments to a woman who not only doesn't have children, but is caring for her sick and elderly mother.

So take your pity party somewhere else.

Really stupid comment. But sadly all too common.