AIBU in believing that *generally*, men commit infidelity at a higher percentage than women?

[WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat]

I'm arguing with DH about this. Every single survey/paper etc that I can find, except for one possibly slightly unreliable one state that men are statistically considerably more likely to commit adultery/be unfaithful than women.

DH states that this is untrue in the current digital climate. He says in his experience, women are every bit as likely to cheat in this day and age.

I just can't agree with this. Anecdotally (which I know doesn't count statistically), men are hugely more likely to stray, from what I've seen.

Am I wrong? This is causing ructions between DH and I.

Well I've never cheated and neither has my husband AFAIK.

That's all that matters, what the rest of the world does is no concern.

Ask him what his reasons are. Anyone can make a statement. If he cannot back it up then you can just say that’s his opinion and in your opinion it is not true (list the studies to back it up). Just be objective. Ask him if he think he is being like climate change deniers.

I think it’s probably 50:50, but women are more discerning, more discrete and make more considered decisions

Its an interesting discussion, and I was going to say I have heard of far more men cheating.

Then I thought that amongst female friends I've had, quite a few had a one night stand or something, and were able to almost convince themselves it didn't happen...

I think married women are just as likely to cheat but much less likely to admit it. Possibly better at hiding it / getting away with it and less likely to leave due to kids / lower independent income / shame etc.

I think if you asked 20 of your female friends if they had ever cheated, you still wouldn't get true answers from a couple of them.
Are men more likely to break under pressure and confess?

Zombie thread...

Anecdotally, men are FAR more likely to cheat.
The only women I have ever known to cheat are ones who were treated like shit for many years in their relationship/marriage and the cheating resulted in the ending of the shit relationship/marriage.
Men however will randomly cheat when the opportunity arises. They seek it out online or on nights out etc. They do it repeatedly and stay in their relationship/marriage. Having their cake and eating it, so to speak.

This is just my personal experience. Women cheat if they are treated badly. Men cheat just because they want to, even if their partner treats them like a king.