I’ve been with my new partner for three months, we had the exclusive chat a month in. He initiated this. We agreed we’d take things slowly but only see each other. I stay the night and see him a few rimes a week.
The last fortnight he’s been cancelling arrangements last minute. I had a gut suspicion that he was looking elsewhere/seeing other women after a friend mentioned she’d spotted him on Tinder.
So stupidly I joined tinder with a different name, age and photo (borrowed from a friend with her agreement). Lo and behold within a day of joining, he’s swiped on “me” (him first) and we’ve matched. I’ve sent an introductory message.
I know that I need to dump him and walk away. I feel gutted because I’ve missed the signs of players before. I feel totally taken in by him and feel that I need to see for myself if he’d reply to the message, how far he’d take it, if he’d send rude pics, mainly because I can’t quite believe his actions as they’re so different now to who I thought he was. I feel that I need facts about him being a lying scumbag so I can walk away knowing he isn’t who I thought he is.
Assuming he responds to my hello, what do I do next? I obviously can’t add him to messenger or WhatsApp as it is my phone number and I can’t chat to him on the phone. And how do I get him chatting and opening up in terms of finding out how secret he keeps me. I have got an old phone but I’m not sure if I can get a short term sim only card.