Probably being over sensitive and prepared to be told IBU here but here goes.....
I am 38 weeks pregnant and been struggling the entire pregnancy, hyperemesis until 30 weeks, but still vomiting daily, crippling SPD and antenatal anxiety and depression which I've been having counselling for.
Anyway, a friend who I don't see all that often as she lives a fair few miles away, called me just for catch up and asked how I was doing... I explained all of the above and just said I was generally feeling a bit miserable, she said 'oh... well as long as baby is healthy that is all that matters'. This made me feel a bit, well, annoyed I suppose. Of course I am hugely grateful and feel lucky that baby is healthy and doing okay, but why ask how I am doing if that's all that matters? And it's not the first time someone has said something like this to me.
After I had my first baby I had to return to the hospital 3 days after being discharged as I developed a nasty infection after c section and wound up with sepsis and static bowel, so was in a pretty bad way. Baby came in with me as I was BF. My MIL called in a panic after being told that baby and I were back in hospital and I explained what was wrong and she said 'Oh thank God, I thought something was wrong with the baby. That's okay then'. That's it, no ' hope you get better etc' like my health didn't matter at all. I mean again I was thankful that my baby was fine but to be treated like my health didn't matter, as long as baby is okay, makes me feel completely worthless in a way.
AIBU to feel this way?