Surely this is no different from being sat in A&E with a broken arm, you definitely need treatment from A&E however if someone came in an hour after you who has had a stroke they will be treated first.
If the person with a broken arm had been heavily steeped in a environment that reinforced
- reinforced a "I am the umbilicus of the universe" mindset
- overtly and covertly encouraged manipulation to capitulation strategies with suicide as the dangled threat. To the point where the person actually came to believe they could die by their own hand any minute and they had little to no control over the when/why. Potentially to the point where they may even feel internal pressure to make attempts (including accidentally successful ones) in order to better fit the picture that is painted of members of the group.
- reinforced a belief they were a member of the most hard done by, most oppressed , most needy, most deserving patient group ever
... then to them their broken arm would genuinely feel like the real crisis, when compared to another person's "mild drama" of a stroke.
It was a terrible thing to say. It is an even worse thing to believe. But these people stropping over cancer patients getting fast tracked past them in the queue did not get this way on their own, or overnight. Within a cult-like structure, using cult-like techniques, their own vulnerabilities made them easy pickings. I don't think they are awful people. More they have been trained to behave, think and express themselves like awful people. This isolated them. Leaving them ever more dependent on the people who are selling them a lack of perspective (and a huge side serving of "self centred) as a virtue they should practise often, as publically as possible.
The really awful people are the ones operating the structure that turns people, who did not get the best cards when dealt their life hand, into egomaniacal overgrown toddlers, and then releases them on the public as the foot soldiers and cannon fodder of their movement.
There is a handful of charities in particular that I think make Kids Company look like really small potatoes in terms of rot at the top, with large scale human collateral damage among the rank and file.
Collateral damage that doesn't even know they have been emotionally and mentally bombed. With who they were, who they could have been (sex/gender aside, just in terms of character traits) having been altered into something much less attractive, ethical and able to have a balanced perspective.
These people are going to be rejected and pushed away their whole lives with this as their expressed outlook. They will think it is because they are trans. They won't ever realise it is because they have been helped into becoming truly unlikable humans.
When I say I feel sorry for them, it's not a passive aggressive dig. I genuinely do. Not least because it is such a waste of human potential. And it is not a happy thought that they will bear the long term cost of repelling so many people in the long term. All while being unable to change that, because they will likely continue to attribute people pulling away due to "transphobia". Leaving them blind to the reality that the solution to their increasing isolation is, and was, always in their own hands. And fuck all to do with the "raising awareness and thumping T
*s" that is their knee-jerk response to rejection.
We are going to look back at this time and berate ourselves for the damage we have wrought on so many young people that many of them will have to live with for their entire lifetime. Not just because of what they has been done to their bodies, but also what has been done to their character as they developed. Some habits never get broken, they just become a part of who we are, and we have to live with the fall out of that.
The person absolutely has to take responsibility for what they said and why they said it. But that person likely did not evolve into this state in a vaccum. And it will be impossible stop more joining that "sweet Jesus, I can't believe somebody typed that with a straight face" team if we focus exclusively on the individual rather than the structures, with the power and the plump resources, dedicated to the creation of this character wrecking phenomenon.
As if transition from childhood to adulthood wasn't hard enough without the creation of this burgeoning and devastating trip wire to add to the mix.
