Can your husband cook?

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Does/can your partner/husband cook?

Mine was brought up always cleaning after himself and well able to cook a meal ( thank god ) when I met him he was actually way more into cleaning than I was, and I was the messy one.

However some of my friends have told me they leave 'oven pizza' for their dps when they go away for a night for him and the kids as 'that's all he can cook '

Myself and dh agree a grown man should be more than capable of cooking a full meal from scratch and there is no reason a grown man should only be able to do oven pizza or oven chips/chicken...

I used to be a chef so dh learned lots of extra tips and now he loves going off on his own and cooking a fulll meal from scratch , knowing all the spices to add to a certain meal/methods etc. he doesn't love/like cooking but knows it's a necessity and therefore is not lazy..

What about you?

Dh can’t cook. He is better with oven food as he follows instructions to the letter whereas I just wing it a bit. But on a day to day basis he does no cooking at all. I was surprised when we started dating. I blamed his previous long term relationship where she did it all but I have accepted it and taken on the job. Pre children he always cleaned up after which was a job I hated so it was fine. Post children not so much. But he still pulls his weight with kids/ round the house. As long as one of you isn’t sitting there while the other scurries around does it matter who does what job?

No! If I don't cook or am out, he will cook freezer food...oven chips, fish fingers etc. I usually keep a frozen pizza or ready meal around in case I'm not there. It doesn't especially bother me. I'm quite territorial over the kitchen and food...that's my domain. I do all the food shopping too, he has zero input.

I don't mind men cooking but I find it off putting when men faff about with ingredients or are overly interested in it....yes, I'm aware that sounds awful.

I find men who cook are invariably middle class.

My DP "show cooks" !!! Great roast dinners where the fam are invited to say how great he is !! Cakes for work and home for us to marvel over .. Everyday food when everyone is knackered .... nope !! .. but fair play to him, he's never once complained when he gets beans on toast .

Yeah, mine does cook, but I enjoy cooking and am a bit more creative about it than he is. So I do it more.

@formerbabe I find men that cook are invariably fully functioning adults as opposed to lazy, man children. 🙄

I wasn't aware that the ability to cook was linked to your social class 🙄

I wasn't aware that the ability to cook was linked to your social class

I thought it was common knowledge that food and class were closely linked.

Not in the way you describe.

formerbabe DH loves cooking, it’s one of his hobbies. He does it to relax after work. He’s been on cooking courses. So he’s probably one of the male cooks you dislike so much (faffing around with ingredients).
I ought to tell him to stop doing what he enjoys in case it exposes him as being ‘middle class’.

Only things on toast and by things I mean either beans or tinned spaghetti. He never cooked as a child and has never had to do it. I've always cooked, mostly because I'm always home first and also because he hates doing it. He will prep stuff though so that saves time when I get home and I just have to cook rather than prep and cook.
DS who is 6 loves cooking with me and has said he doesn't want to be like his dad when he grows up - he wants to be like me who can do everything.

My DP loves to cook and he enjoys bragging about it too. Nice to come home after a day in work and food is being cooked. Off to work today and he's prepping for our fave meal steak mushrooms peppercorn sauce chips and peas. I really only learnt to cook properly when we got together I just used to buy microwave meals and eat them.

My partner used to own a restaurant and did 20 years as a chef so I'm lucky to finally have someone to share the cooking. Apparently none of his exes could cook either!

He is a brilliant cook, he doesn't enjoy it as much as I do so I cook more than he does. His from-scratch spaghetti bolognese is 100x better than mine! But most of the cooking is done by me.

I would say that if I am out for the evening (we don't have children yet) he is more likely to eat an oven pizza or similar as he probably couldn't be bothered to cook a meal from scratch just for himself. Can't say I blame him either!

formerbabe DH loves cooking, it’s one of his hobbies. He does it to relax after work. He’s been on cooking courses. So he’s probably one of the male cooks you dislike so much (faffing around with ingredients)

Nothing wrong with that. I would find it very off putting in a man but that's just my personal preference.

I ought to tell him to stop doing what he enjoys in case it exposes him as being ‘middle class

It was an observation not a criticism.

He can, but can't be bothered. He does a mean fry-up and will cook if I can't, but it will be beans on toast or chips. He just has no interest in cooking.

I, on the other hand, love it, so quite happily cook every day. He doesn't mind clearing up, so I can make as much mess as I like and walk away from it. It's a great division of labour!

My dh is the son of two chefs.
The only cooking he does is stuff like ready-made pie with steamed veg.

He once tried to soft boil an egg: he checked if it was ready by cracking a bit of the shell away but the white was still partially runny, he put it back in the water for a bit then checked again, still runny. He put it in the microwave, it exploded.

I enjoy cooking so I don't mind, he's always complementary about my cooking. He never criticizes my choices and if I don't feel like cooking he is very happy to go to a restaurant or get a takeaway.
And he always does the washing up

I’d find a man who could only manage to feed himself something on toast or oven food extremely off putting in a man, but we’re all different I guess!

“Nothing wrong with that. I would find it very off putting in a man but that's just my personal preference.”

Formerbabe- do you have sons?

Yes- there is nothing moreoff putting in a man than incompetence and being unable to look after his family.

DH can cook, and he does an incredible steak dinner 🤤 however if I was away out for the evening he probably would just have an oven/ready meal or take out, I wouldn’t have to leave it there for him though he’d have to go get it himself!! we don’t really have things containing gluten in the house as I have coeliac disease so when I’m away he just goes all out on the gluten!

BertrandRussell

You are completely not getting my point. I have no issues with men who cook...I think everyone should be able to prepare a meal. I'm just saying on a personal level, I find men with a very keen interest in food, ingredients and cooking, especially baking not to interest me romantically. This thread was asking if our partners could cook hence my response. It's a preference.
I also find men with posh accents and men who can't drive unattractive.. doesn't mean I think having a posh voice and not having a driver's licence are inherently terrible things.

No. God knows what he ate at uni.

"Yes- there is nothing moreoff putting in a man than incompetence and being unable to look after his family."

Or indeed "being able to look after himself"

Mine can. I hate cooking and don't really do it - I just have no patience for it. We eat out when it's my turn to cook!

Yes, he can and I love what he makes. He does it rarely though, only when I'm ill, because I'm a housewife and cooking every day is my task.

I've never been with any man who cannot/won't cook. It just happened this way, I wasn't sifting anyone out because of cooking. I do think it's quite rare these days for a man not to be able to feed himself.

@NCNCNC123 my OH is also great at tidying up after me and washing the dishes, I love it !