Can your husband cook?

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Does/can your partner/husband cook?

Mine was brought up always cleaning after himself and well able to cook a meal ( thank god ) when I met him he was actually way more into cleaning than I was, and I was the messy one.

However some of my friends have told me they leave 'oven pizza' for their dps when they go away for a night for him and the kids as 'that's all he can cook '

Myself and dh agree a grown man should be more than capable of cooking a full meal from scratch and there is no reason a grown man should only be able to do oven pizza or oven chips/chicken...

I used to be a chef so dh learned lots of extra tips and now he loves going off on his own and cooking a fulll meal from scratch , knowing all the spices to add to a certain meal/methods etc. he doesn't love/like cooking but knows it's a necessity and therefore is not lazy..

What about you?

"Now he only cooks if it's spag bol (although puts way too many bay leaves in which spoils it)"
Why has he done this more that once?

@Poodles1980 has he not needed to make himself food in the decades since boarding school? Ridiculous

My DP does most of the cooking. When he was growing up he was expected to help out at home and can look after himself. He can also sew. He is tidy, never leaves clothes lying around, he folds them...and, he doesn't miss the toilet when he has a wee.
It annoys him that people seem to accept men can't cook, are messy and can't help being sloppy in the loo.

No. He can make a pizza, boil pasta and do salad but nothing more complicated. He ate ready meals mostly before we met. He struggles with quick instructions and gets confused (is also dyslexic).

On the other hand i have zero interest in outside house maintenance or car maintenance so our labour is equally split. Equal division of labour in the home isn't just about everyone being able to do everything- it's about an equal split that both parties are happy with.

Maybe you're my friend.. my DH can't cook anything except toast with something.

He can put frozen food in the oven but that's it. When I go away (rarely!) I leave things in the fridge/freezer that he can bung in the oven.

Both DH and I can cook to a decent enough standard, neither of us particularly enjoys cooking though so the easier the better 🙈

My dh can cook, most certainly.

He does almost all the cooking for the family and from scratch. I can cook too but we have divided the chores such that dh is largely responsible for cooking and grocery shopping.

We both follow recipes and add to our repertoire constantly.

My DH couldn't cook for shit when I met him, he lived off takeaways and convenience foods. His family were a get it out the freezer and throw it in the oven kind of family. Then he was homeless for a while and ate whatever he could so he just never really had to cook himself. He doesn't enjoy cooking but I've taught him basics like spaghetti bolognese and fajitas and things so that he can actually cook a decent meal if I'm not around. I love cooking though so I generally do it all anyway.

Yes, because he is an adult, as a pp said. Cooking is not difficult -- this is a myth. If you can read enough to read a recipe, then you can cook.

(In fact, DH is an excellent cook, and does virtually all our cooking I bake and make certain specific dishes we both like but that's beside the point.)

Yes. My husband does all of the cooking and he is fantastic - much better than me.

Makes a terrible mess though!

Yes, he can cook well. I do the bulk of the cooking because of our schedules at the moment, but he does a lot more washing up than I do. We are different in the way we cook. I am more like to plan to make things in very particular ways, whereas he is more spontaneous and will see what he can rustle up and he’s more likely to experiment with different ingredients. He makes an incredible self-saucing chocolate dessert, great custard and crumble and amazing hot chocolate. Spotting a theme there...

I got lucky with mine.

He never really needed to cook for himself before we moved in together because he either lived with his parents or in army accommodation.

But he has discovered he likes it, and he usually cooks in the evenings as I get home later than he does most days.

No. Dp is banned from cooking.

I once came back from a night out at around midnight to both dc sat on the top of the stairs bristling with outrage at the ' mean tea' their dad had cooked. Ds actually burst into tears at the horror of it all.

He cooks for himself...........I once walked in and thought he was being sivk into a mixing bowl. But no. He was shovelling disgustingly sloppy, scrambled eggs into his gob..........I in turn almost threw up and ran off gagging.

I think i'd rather starve than eat anything he'd been near. Just no.

Yes! He makes a wonderful risotto and covers all the weekly basics too. He won't touch a roast dinner if I'm around though (but I wouldn't do a risotto if he were there). His mum was very keen to ensure he could cook and clean well. As a result I'm not allowed to do much cleaning because it's not up to standard. It's hard for me to accept but somehow I manage...

"I got lucky with mine."

No you didn't. Unless marrying an adult counts as getting lucky. Which, to be fair, reading threads like this might lead you to believe!

@BertrandRussell according to some other people yes I've got lucky it seems. Not that i genuinely think that. But seen as a lot of people seem to make excuses for men not doing their share of work then yes.

DH is the main cook in our house - I heat things, he does things from scratch. He really enjoys it, where as I do it under duress.

He does the most amazing roasts and Christmas lunch in particular.

He also does DIY, car things, gardening, laundry, cleaning (although we have a cleaner). His only flaw is untidiness with clothes and putting empty packets back in the cupboard

My Dad was the same so I've never experienced the "useless man" talked about on mumsnet!

Yes. We both cook but DH does the lions share and always does the ‘fancy’ cooking when we have people over. He is better at it than me and enjoys it more.

I truly couldn’t give a toss about what other couples do though. I don’t think it’s the end of feminism if a woman a ready meal in the fridge for her partner. Both DH & I have been known to leave food for each other in similar circumstances.

We can both cook, but dh does all of the cooking. He is more adventurous that me, and more inventive. I find cooking really stressful, and don't enjoy it. I'm happy to do nearly all of the housework, if he is happy to cook for us.

No you didn't. Unless marrying an adult counts as getting lucky. Which, to be fair, reading threads like this might lead you to believe!

I did in the sense that neither of us knew what his cooking would be like until we moved in together.

For what it's worth, my mum "can't cook won't cook" so my dad has had to do all the cooking throughout their marriage and gets no joy from it anymore. So yes, I do consider myself lucky.

DH & DS can both cook - as my father said - if you can read you can cook. DH does v good roast potatoes and good at sorting out a roast - Ds similar but also can make a v good risotto & other recipes and both of them day to day , pasta , etc every day dishes. No excuse for a DH or a DS not to be able to cook. The clearing up afterwards may be a more personal trait Oh and DS and DH are much better at baking than I am ( by which I mean cakes & puddings ) I don't have a sweet tooth so they have to make them if they want them.

Cooking is not difficult this is a myth. If you can read enough to read a recipe, then you can cook.

Cook or cook well?

I'll follow a recipe exactly, but the result will invariably be awful because that doesn't take into account needing to adjust timings or temperature based on how thick something has been cut, or how hot your pan gets, or how temperamental your particular oven is.

That all comes with practice,'. But if you have no natural aptitude in the kitchen, then that's a lot of terrible cooking and inedible meals to get through in the mean time.

I am an awful cook. I hate it, have no interest in it. I will get bursts of deciding I really ought to learn how to cook some more basic stuff, and then get utterly disheartened and bored shitless after spending ages trying to follow a recipe and ending up with something that tastes much less appetising than something I could have bought and shoved in the oven. Home made = tastes better than pre prepared is only true if your cooking isn't abysmal!

There's only DH and me though, if we'd been able to have DC then I'd have made myself learn to cook, obviously. DH can cook and so if we decide to have a proper cooked meal then he will make something and do a very nice job of it. For just the two of us, there isn't really much point in bothering most of the time though.

My yorkshires and roasties are to die for - if I say so myself :).

Cheese sauce another speciality..

But, yes, it is embarrassing that this is even a topic these days.

Mine is great but rarely does it because of his work hours. He’s also got into baking & is very good at that too.

Mine is the main cook - he loves it and is really good. Much better than me