Can your husband cook?

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Does/can your partner/husband cook?

Mine was brought up always cleaning after himself and well able to cook a meal ( thank god ) when I met him he was actually way more into cleaning than I was, and I was the messy one.

However some of my friends have told me they leave 'oven pizza' for their dps when they go away for a night for him and the kids as 'that's all he can cook '

Myself and dh agree a grown man should be more than capable of cooking a full meal from scratch and there is no reason a grown man should only be able to do oven pizza or oven chips/chicken...

I used to be a chef so dh learned lots of extra tips and now he loves going off on his own and cooking a fulll meal from scratch , knowing all the spices to add to a certain meal/methods etc. he doesn't love/like cooking but knows it's a necessity and therefore is not lazy..

What about you?

DH cooks at least as much as I do, and always if we're having a roast. He is in charge of feeding us / DS on the two days I work, and gets quite excited about preparing himself a giant tuna salad when I go out without him. My dad, brother and BIL are also enthusiastic cooks, and I intend that DS will be a decent cook when he's big enough. I just don't understand men who are pandered to in this way looking at you FIL

God yes - he’s way better than me. His Sunday roasts are legendary amongst our friends

Yep, he can cook and enjoys it. When I walked in from work the other day dinner was ready on the hob and he'd just finished deep cleaning the oven .

Mine couldn’t when we got married. I taught him how and now we share cooking equally.
Next I am teaching him how to clean 🙄

"I do wonder if some of these women like being needed, as if having to sort out food for him means that he wouldn't survive without her, therefore won't ever leave her?!"

I think this is true in some cases. Some of my friends often complain about their partners not being able to use a washing machine or cook, but they carry on doing everything for them anyway because "he can't"

I think the important corollary question is 'Can your DS cook?'

DSD (20) has a boyfriend who finds making a sandwich taxing. She's good at kicking him up the arse though (metaphorically).

Mine is very good at heating things. He’s a whiz with M&S, and if we’ve a party he’s in charge of oven temp and timings- that detail stuff isn’t my forte. I only learned to cook in the last two years, so I’ve outstripped him now.
To be fair he had a bad experience the first time he followed a recipie and it’s spooked him, but he does a good Jamie Oliver spag bol from scratch.
Both of us are afraid of roasts and are hoping dc do home ec or we can ask dgm’s to sort them out.

He does a great cooked breakfast, and that’s it. He can heat things.

I do most cooking. He does most admin though. I’d much rather cook a curry than do the bills.

My husband always cooks the roast. He can cook anything really but he's rubbish at looking in the cupboard and deciding or making something from whatever's left at the end of the week. I reckon it's cos he dropped out of uni lol.

He does insist on making everything in a frying pan though with way to much oil! He often does cooled stuff for breakfast at weekends too,

What he can't do is find the bin at the same time as cooking. So if, for example, he peels an onion, that onion peel will stay on the chopping board until the kitchen is cleaned up (by me!!) whereas I clear and load the dishwasher as I go.

Having said that if I go away (rarely) I do try to get some freezer food in as when youre working full time and looking after kids by yourself it's hard work so why not make it easy?! If I didn't he'd probably order takeaway tbh!

I do the same if he's away. Or I use the slow cooker as I did today!

DH can cook and does so most nights at the moment whilst I’m breastfeeding and putting DD to bed. It’s great coming down to a cooked meal, but cooking is usually my thing and I look forward to picking it back up again. I still plan what we’re having and DH executes - he’s excellent at following a recipe (better than me as he’s very patient and thorough) but not great at improvising a meal. He clears up as he goes too.

DH is an appalling cook. Mid 40s and cannot make even the simplest of meals.

I do think it’s a shame - my dad and brother are both brilliant cooks so I’m used to men cooking.

But, it’s not a massive issue. He does 99% of the housework as I’m lazy and crap at cleaning!

Mine is the chef in our house. I despise cooking. He cooks, so I wash up.

DH does most of the cooking in our house. I like to bake, which I often do on weekends, but he does almost all of the day to day cooking.

Mine can cook. He was 30 and living on his own when we met so used to functioning as an independent adult.

He was raised by a single mum and from what he said, she taught him essential skills like cooking and laundry from about age 11, starting with scramble eggs.

Yep he cooks dinner every night

DH can cook in that he can make edible food, he is more than capable of looking after himself when I'm away regularly for work and doesn't default to oven pizzas or takeaway, but I don't like his cooking, he has a tendency to overcook things or does weird things like puts honey in spaghetti Bolognese, and has no discernible palate, food is fuel to him mostly. He's also not interested in cooking so most of the time I cook and he cleans up, but we split all household tasks fifty fifty, there's just some we each do more of and generally not the typical gender bias, he's a whizz with the hoover/dusting etc and I tend to do the gardening for example.

Yes he can cook , he's better than me , not that either of us are actually that good , although we do eat fairly decently Currently trying to learn together as our DS is weaning.

Yes! He does it when he has chance. He almost always cooks on the weekend but I do most of it throughout the week.

My ex could cook v well. The trouble was he expected me to do the same.
I’m a full time working mum. When I get in after work & school run, I need food on the table quickly, maybe home made chilli or chicken stir fry before homework. He made cooking a stressful misery, nothing was ever good enough.

It was no good, he had to go! . It’s food ffs, not an art installation. Now we can relax and eat normally. MasterChef is banned in our house

Yes but under protest. Before we had kids and were both working full time I used to make him take turns. Now he only cooks if it's spag bol (although puts way too many bay leaves in which spoils it) or pasta pesto. He can follow a recipe just fine but literally cannot adjust/adapt anything so gets easily flustered if required too. Also puts things on way too large a hob ring so they overboil furiously instead of a nice simmer. Gousto was a game changer though. Really really simple instructions. We never buy the boxes, just use the online recipes.

Yes and what is it today, mine cooked the roast (chicken!) today too! Normally I do it cause he has chronic pain and fatigue but I’m on night shift so was napping in the afternoon. It nearly killed him to do it but he loves cooking and I miss his meals. He did about a quarter of the cooking when children were younger (and he was well).

My husband is a fabulous cook and enjoys cooking. He is able to pull meal ideas out of his head and they always taste great.

Yes, very well. Better than me if truth be told. Although I'm good at following recipes. My mother's brother and father (my grandfather) are/were also great cooks as were my grandfather's brothers. My great grandmother taught all her children to cook, regardless if they were male or female. My teenage son and my father in law are also.

Yes, DH can cook pretty well, although god knows how! I recently realised how bad he is at hanging stuff on the line to dry - his mum did everything at home when he was young (although no real excuse as he moved out 11 years ago!) so I do feel like he is missing some skills!

I prefer my style of cooking generally and I have a more interesting repotoire I think but we certainly wouldn’t starve if I couldn’t do it.

Yes he can. He can do a roast, makes really good Vietnamese Pho, etc. However, I really like to cook, and I'm pretty good at it, and he's not fussed, so generally the cooking falls to me.