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AIBU?

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Please tell me (kindly) if IABU...

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SailAwayWithMeHuni · 13/09/2018 21:44

DP said he was going to add engagement ring to house insurance yesterday morning.

I said ok, although I’m not sure if that’s the best thing to do as any claim for the ring will increase the premium on the house.

DP got unnecessarily angry about me putting obstacles in his way and not bothering to research what I’d said.

Calmly talking this evening about yesterday’s silly row and DP apologise and said that he shouldn’t have reacted yesterday but it’s a job which has been outstanding for too long and he just wants it sorted. He then asked why can’t I take it on and sort it.

I reply no problem I will sort it.

DP asks me when.

This question has really annoyed me and I won’t answer but I’m not sure if I’m just being unreasonable because he has got my back up about the whole thing.

So AIBU or would it annoy you too?

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butterflysugarbaby · 13/09/2018 21:46
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TheNewSchmoo · 13/09/2018 21:47

It sounds ridiculously over dramatic all round

garethsouthgatesmrs · 13/09/2018 21:47

I don't think asking when would annoy me but as I see the engagement ring as a gift to me I would expect him to insure it and i agree with you that it should be with a separate jewellery policy.

gamerchick · 13/09/2018 21:47

I really want to know how much your rings worth now Grin

fc301 · 13/09/2018 21:47

His job to get house insurance
Normal to put expensive jewellery on it
He loses it...
Now it's your job and he is nagging you when
Result for him isn't it?

PotteringAlong · 13/09/2018 21:48

YABU. He wants it sorted because you’ve got an expensive item uninsured and, if something happens to it now you’ve got no coverage. So, either you do it now or you don’t moan that your DP isn’t doing it properly when he goes to sort it.

Oysterbabe · 13/09/2018 21:48

I think YAB a bit U.
It should have been sorted virtually immediately and I'm sure he's just anxious about something very expensive being lost.

comedycentral · 13/09/2018 21:48

It sounds like he wants to protect the gift he gave you. I am wondering why it's annoyed you so much?

gamerchick · 13/09/2018 21:48

I favour seperate insurances for high value stuff here. Just sort it yourself and don't talk about it again if it's going to get prickly.

MelanieCheeks · 13/09/2018 21:49

Good grief, it's a bit of admin. Somebody just do it and move on.

Pikehau · 13/09/2018 21:50

Go to an insurance broker and ask them to find the best deal. Some Named items can go on insurance without premiums increasing. You just have to find the policy

Be aware you will need to have the ring revalued every x years for insurance to be valid- cheCk in Small print

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/09/2018 21:50

What? Why is it an issue?

Astrid2 · 13/09/2018 21:50

FFS I wouldn't 'expect' anyone to insure something that belonged to me. Even if it is a gift. It's no ones job to do. It's not exactly a difficult thing. Surely just call home insurance and get a quote?

Way over the top for a small admin job in the grand scheme of things. How will you plan a wedding if you argue over this?? Ridiculous.

Pikehau · 13/09/2018 21:51

Oh but YABU to make it in to such a big deal

Atlantea · 13/09/2018 21:52

YABU to make a big deal about it - you;re as likely to claim for it as anything else in the house, and why wouldnt you put in your house insurance?

milkysmum · 13/09/2018 21:52

Eh?? I have no idea what you are upset about to be honest!

garethsouthgatesmrs · 13/09/2018 21:53

Astrid2 my argument would be that to insure it you need to have all the paperwork including receipt and valuation. For this particular item that's his job as presumably he bought it. Anyway agree it's not argument worthy and he is only asking when because he wants it done.

paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking · 13/09/2018 21:53

I get irrationally annoyed when DH harasses me over admin. Mainly because I know he's right!

Havaina · 13/09/2018 21:53

So it was a job that he has neglected to do for far 'too long' and yet it has somehow fallen to you to sort and he is also harassing you to get it done now.

If it's so important why hasn't he sorted it already?

Are you sure you want to marry this guy?

notdaddycool · 13/09/2018 21:54

If it’s on house policy and he sorts it then it’s his job and let him get on with it. If you really want another policy get it done in the next day or two, it’s presumably worth quite a bit and not currently insured which is bonkers.

Havaina · 13/09/2018 21:54

paddling

I get irrationally annoyed when DH harasses me over admin. Mainly because I know he's right!

Your DH should do his own bloody admin.

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/09/2018 21:54

Why is he angry with you because he hasn’t done something that was his responsibility?

PixelAteMe · 13/09/2018 21:55

Why are you making such a big deal of it?

paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking · 13/09/2018 21:56

Eh? Its our admin. He's the admin King in our house. When I get asked to do a small task usually related to me (like the OP's ring) I get irrationally annoyed...usually because he's right, it needs doing and it doesn't always have to be him.

Havaina · 13/09/2018 21:58

Why are you making such a big deal of it?

It's the DH making a big deal of it, not OP.