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To think that this isn’t appropriate work wear?

105 replies

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 13/09/2018 18:49

Fishnet stockings, with suspenders showing 3” below the hem of a miniskirt?

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TigerDrankAllTheWaterInTheTap · 13/09/2018 18:51

I suppose it depends on the place of work, but unless it's a pole dancing club or a brothel, no, I don't think it is suitable.

FrogFairy · 13/09/2018 18:51

Depends on the job. Fine for lap dancing or similar job. In an office, not so much.

ConsiderHerWaysAndOthers · 13/09/2018 18:53

My friend used to work in an Agent Provactor shop (when they first started, before they were sold) and totally would have worn something like that to work. You really have to tell us what type of workplace this is but I’m going to take a punt and say not suitable attire.

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 13/09/2018 18:54

For clinical staff in a mental health hospital.

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YouTheCat · 13/09/2018 18:55

Nope. Not appropriate or practical.

Lazypoolday · 13/09/2018 18:55

That's beyond weird. I can't imagine anyone thinking that is appropriate work wear tbh

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 13/09/2018 19:02

So... why not?
I spoke to the staff member (I was senior to her) and pointed out it wasn’t professional. She asked why. My answer was that it could be distracting to disinhibited patients, and wasn’t practical as she may inadvertently reveal areas of her anatomy.
Having read other threads here about school uniform I’m wondering if this ties in with the “victim blaming” culture too, or if there are exceptions where it really is inappropriate to wear clothing that highlights sexual attractiveness.

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Mabelface · 13/09/2018 19:05

You'd not be impressed if a bloke turned up in budgie smugglers and a string vest. It's not professional. Do you have a dress code?

ConsiderHerWaysAndOthers · 13/09/2018 19:07

I don’t have experience of a clinical setting but is there not some sort of workplace dress code this goes against?! I also don’t think you’re being a prude or victim blaming to say that visible suspenders aren’t appropriate workwear. Rightly or wrongly there’s a certain way of dressing that is considered professional, turning up in a football kit for instance doesn’t have any sexual connotations but for most workplaces would be equally as inappropriate.

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 13/09/2018 19:09

The only written code is no sportswear, jeans or trainers.

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Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 13/09/2018 19:10

But you’re right, I’d have definitely spoken to the man too!

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TigerDrankAllTheWaterInTheTap · 13/09/2018 19:23

It's not a professional way of dressing and the staff member's sex is irrelevant to that.

However, depending on the clients she might come into contact with, she could also be putting herself and other staff and service users at risk, couldn't she? I know this veers close to victim blaming, but if she is working with people with a history of violence and/or sexual offending it's a matter of safeguarding to dress around such people in a way that puts professional boundaries in place. No slogans, no low cut or excessively tight clothing, nothing transparent. I recall from seeing a dress code for people working in a secure unit that there are often also safety concerns around wearing jewellery, scarves, ties, high heels - anything that could be grabbed by a service user or would impede the staff member getting away quickly. But that's probably not applicable to staff working in a different type of mental health service.

AynRandTheObjectivist · 13/09/2018 19:27

It's fine if you're working in a lab where a sweet transvestite is making a man with blonde hair and a tan.

MatildaTheCat · 13/09/2018 19:31

Your workplace dress code needs updating and she should have been sent home to change IMO. Totally and utterly unprofessional and likely to bring the profession into disrepute.

Jimmers · 13/09/2018 19:31

Usually I’d say people can wear what they like & shouldn’t be judged, but even I have limits!
A suspender belt is classed as underwear surely? With the clue being in the name...UNDERwear

mansplain111 · 13/09/2018 19:33

ayn wins the Internet for today

Celticlassie · 13/09/2018 19:33

It's fine if you're working in a lab where a sweet transvestite is making a man with blonde hair and a tan

Grin
Oldraver · 13/09/2018 19:34

If they can't see why it is inappropriate are they cut out for the job ?

howardmoonseyebrow · 13/09/2018 19:35

What Tigerdrank said. I can’t imagine why this woman thought this was appropriate work wear?!

Bluntness100 · 13/09/2018 19:35

Lol, who knew you'd have to redo your policy to state no stocking tops and suspenders on display.

Are you sure she's capable of doing the job? I'd think someone who went into a professional environment like that maybe was in need to some help.

puzzledlady · 13/09/2018 19:35

Something similar to this happened in my office recently. A PA to a very senior manager turned up in a barely there dress - she bent to take something from a drawer and I saw her arse, she was using a g-string. I didn’t know where to look 👀 🤦🏻‍♀️

SleepingBooty · 13/09/2018 19:35

🤣 Ayn

1CantPickAName · 13/09/2018 19:35

Fishnets are not acceptable in a work environment, unless it’s a strip club. If you could see that she was wearing suspenders then her skirt was too short. No victim blaming here, just an attention seeker. She should be assessed for her suitability to work in the environmental

TattyCat · 13/09/2018 19:37

Bloody ridiculous and I'd have 'suspended' her!!

Ha, ha, sorry Grin

Spudlet · 13/09/2018 19:37

Surely it would stop her from being able to meet some of the physical demands of the job? What if someone falls, for example - how will she get them up without giving everyone an eyeful?

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