To LTB after what I found in our bed (lighthearted)

[Charlie97]

So DH works nights but has to do a bit of shopping on the way home.

He's gone into the shops and bought himself a large packet of wine gums. Obviously got it to bed to eat them all alone and the whole pack and not share.

He must've been tired and fallen asleep because I got into bed that night and wondered what on Earth I was lying on......three dropped unshared wine gums!!

So do I LTB for not sharing?
Log it with 101?
Tell him I know?
Leave it and see what develops?

Consider yourself lucky. I rolled over in bed one night to find DH's cheesey earring stuck to my back not envy!

Keep an eye out for a second phone OP-it might be a hotline to his gum dealer.

Sigh....to all you winegum haters, you need to sort yourselves out!

For the red and black lovers......sorry green top the list! That sharpness is list!

Now that he knows that you know he will be sneakier more careful next time.

You'll have to:

check his phone side of the bed for evidence at random times,

ring him when he's at the shops to check he's not making impulse purchases,

check his receipts for random sugar items that shouldn't be there,

smell his breath when he's asleep for the unmistakable smell of alcohol and sugar () - so not envy,

watch for him putting his phone face down stopping chewing suddenly whenever you enter the room,

look for him losing weight and wearing a new cologne brushing his teeth more etc. etc. etc.

It's a long, hard road to getting that trust back, OP, but we'll be there for you.

But you should not LTB, that is playing into his hands, he will be able to eat wine gums whenever he wants if you do. Stay strong, punish him by staying.

I think you need to get to the GUM clinic.

If they were black and red ones, I'd forgive him, but because they're not, definitely LTB haha

Has he got form for this behaviour? M &Ms in the garden shed or skittles in the utility room? I doubt it's the first time and I doubt it's the only variety of sweet that he's kept from you. I'd be questioning the entire relationship.

Lipstick you forgot LTB

I LOVE wine gums.. I’d shoot the B**d. Job done.

Well you have three wine gums now!

Do you know there are people that don't even know what wine gums are. The fact you've found 3 should make you happy.

OP you sound very grabby.

Log it with 101
I spat my drink. Really.

@Yikesisthatmeinthemirror but in OUR bed, I feel betrayed!!! 😔

Well you see @Charlie 'm finding it hard to have any understanding of your situation because, of course my DH deplores such snacking and would never do anything so awful. He would feed me wine guns bought from our shared family money.

Bahahaha GUM clinic!

Was reminded of this thread because my husband brought home a share size bag of wine gums then joked they were all for him.

I'm in two minds about this, on the one hand you found an unexpected snack in bed, so, bonus but my DH had a good point when he said your husband was probably feeding the wine gums to his lover. As people often do because it's so romantic.

Is it important for you to have everything shared in your relationship if so just talk to him hangong something over his shoulder or in the back of your mind wont end up in happiness but not in a meen way dont be to over sharing of everything because just like you your man may want to have somthing to himself and thats okay just as long as he gives you the same treatment if he dosent after you let it go and he catches you having your own sweet and gives you a hard time you would have to sit and talk about your relationship issues hope this helps xxx

Hahahahahaa

OP sorry but YABU - get a grip - so your DH left evidence of his solo pleasure in the matrimonial bed, this is not a slur on you, it does not mean you are lacking, nor does it mean he wants to be unfaithful.
Think of it like this, so maybe as a woman you get solo pleasure in bed from reading. But a man's different, he is much more visual, just look at those colours!

Unless of course he's neglecting your needs and spending all his time secret texting the wine-gum shop, writing odes to the wine gums, and generally paying the wine gums more attention than you. In which case LTB.

Wow.
You're a forgiving woman.
My OH is sleeping on the sofa at the moment.
He ate an entire pack of rolos. Didn't even save me the last one.
I've told him that I'm not sure we can move forward after this betrayal.

He was getting his ducks winegums in a row. You obviously disturbed him in the act.

I would check your bank statements. You may find he has been siphoning off money to feed is addiction. Look for small transactions at corner shops and petrol stations. If he has moved on to bulk buying in the supermarket he may be too far gone to save.

@MrsStrowman Don't you mean would of

Photos up ,is this all you have to who e

I had an oops! moment . What meant to say was ,if this is all you have to (whine ) about you're one of the lucky ones .

Ooh I bet he's all bunged up now too...

LTB