to think driving is fucking terrifying and isn't for everyone?

[OkMaybeNot]

I'm in the middle of sorting more lessons, after having a year-long break and I'm dreading it.

I had about 20 hours in total and I really didn't feel confident by the end of them. Then I got recurring bouts vertigo and was told I couldn't drive with my symptoms (turning my head would make me almost blind with dizziness), and instead of feeling bummed that I'd have to stop until it went away I felt pure relief!

I get jittery and panicked in the drivers' seat. I'm listening to instructions but my brain just doesn't compute and I make mistakes. All the time. Every lesson. The thought of getting back in a drivers' seat makes me feel anxious and panicky.

My friend passed hers last week and I feel like such a bloody failure.

Maybe driving isn't for everyone. Maybe I'm one of those people who just can't do it.

Do people feel like this and get there in the end?

Took me 4 tests to pass and I struggled to get the hang of it. Then one day it all just clicked. Now I love driving and love the freedom it gives me.
It's one of my most useful and beneficial accomplishments to date.

I don't drive. I'm nearly 46. One of my biggest regrets is not having learned when I was young.
Now I have disabilities which affect memory, cognition and make me hugely anxious.
I've spent thousands on lessons, it never gets any easier.
I struggle with so many things not driving and because I don't look disabled it's difficult to get a seat on restrictive public transport.
I know people look down on me for driving so I never get any sympathy or offers of help!

A good friend of mine tried learning to drive last year. She took her driving theory and passed with flying colours, feeling really confident.

Then, however, she found that she absolutely loathed driving. She found it terrifying and just didn’t feel an aptitude for it.

I really admired her bravery to say, actually this isn’t for me and she did have lots of pressure from dh and parents to continue with lessons.

Absolutely nothing to feel bad about, OP. It doesn’t make you a failure at all - just maybe more self-aware and honest than many other people!

Please stick with it ..I had 101 driving lessons.
I was so crap it took me about 5 lessons before I got on a main road away from the industrial estate.
I was terrible but I managed eventually and can't imagine not being able to drive.
Good luck