To lie and say I don't have the money?

[Biscottis]

So a bit of backstory, i live with my ex we separated 6 months ago. He’s moving out in December. We’ve agreed to go half on all the bills, but here’s my problem, the last 2-3 weeks I’ve been topping up the gas/elec because he doesn’t have any money. He spends all his money on his new girlfriend, clothes, eating out etc. She lives close to us and literally comes to our house and waits for him outside nearly everyday, that’s how I know he’s with her most of the time.

The last few days he’s been hinting that he hasn’t got any money, and telling me how broke he is etc. The gas needs to be topped up again soon, and I know I have to do it since I’m the only one with money.

I’m really tempted to tell him that i don’t have any money aswell, and that will force him to borrow money to top up the gas? Or is that childish?

I’m just tired of working and saving up money, whilst he just spends it like water and doesn’t worry about anything and just leaves me to deal with it all.

Why hasn't he moved out yet? Can you get rid of him sooner? Stop paying for all of it.

Definitely say you have no money. I wouldn't even consider this a lie. You don't have money to subsidise him and his girlfriend. Cheeky twat. Don't pay a penny more than you agreed to.

Why does it have to be December? Why can't he go now? Or tell him that you'll have to get a lodger in if he wont pay his share.

Tell him you don't have the money to cover him. He sounds like an irresponsible idiot who you're better off without. If you keep covering him then he'll keep being irresponsible.

Why can't he leave before December or you for that matter?

Of course YANBU. It's not your job to subsidise him.

“Sorry ex, I’ve bern topping up the g&e for the last 2/3 weeks so I’ve already put in an extra £xx, I can’t afford anymore so you’ll have to find the money for your half”.

End of discussion

Are you kidding? CF. Just tell him you're broke from subsidising him and girlfriend so whats he going to do about it. Blimey.

Follow him outside, tell him in front of gf he needs to leave his bill money before he goes out......

I hope you've got a record of how much extra you've spent .... just stop doing it. He's hardly going to pay you back, is he? Chuck him out and get a lodger in if it's legal. Or tell the lettings agent ..

He's taking the piss. Tell him to stop spending money and sell something. He has no intention of paying you back.

No way! Tell him you're short yourself from previously topping it up when he didn't.

If it's a meter, then unfortunately refusing to top it up will lead to you having no gas. If you can't get rid of him sooner, you may just have to suck it up for another couple of months.

He is CF. Why is he still there?? Pack his bags and tell him to pay what he owes you for the previous bills on the way out.

Are you staying in the house? Is he moving out and you are moving a lodger in? Or are you both leaving in December (end of tenancy)?

You need him to move out now. He can move in with his new mug girlfriend .

Don't pay it...
Bet he soon tops it up...
Also beg a bath from a friend if needs be, bet they will let you just to see him squirm.

when its pay day cant you get his share off him in advance instead of asking on an as and when basis.

If your gas and electric costs £100 a month take £50 on pay day.

Don't wait until the gas is running out. Tell him today that it's goign to need topping up and you are broke, so it's going to be his turn.

Why do you have to wait until December?

Dont pay it. I bet he has money to take his new girlfriend out doesn't he.

I would go childish all the way and not pay it until he caves or tell him if he cant afford the gas he has to move out as you can only afford to pay for yourself not subsidising his share while he gets to use it.

It's not a lie! You don't have the money to pay his share of your joint bills.

He's acting like a brat. You've broken up. You're only responsible for yourself.

Have to agree with everyone who's said there must be an alternative to having to live with him till the end of the year. He sounds awful.

Are you kidding? CF. Just tell him you're broke from subsidising him and girlfriend so whats he going to do about it.

^ THIS. Speak up!

I can see why he's your ex. Get him to move out sooner.

I'm sorry, why are you putting up with this? Serious question

Exactly what Longwayoff said.

Woman up and tell him to fuck off.

Is he paying rent? How do you know he's paying his share?

If he unavoidably cannot move out any sooner tell him he has to pay in half bills plus 5% contingency on his payday each week/month. In advance. Plan for gas and electric to go up as we hit Autumn. If he pays in a surplus it can go towards his child's needs.

He's effectively a lodger now so it's your rules or he's out.

Can you live without electricity and gas for a few days (friends nearby - go swimming and use their facilities for hair washing etc) with the money you're not putting on for him? Obviously not letting him know that's what you're doing. You'll have to sit at home with a Daily Mail sad face (TM) when he gets back.

If you're mid suffolk I'll do your laundry for this week too.

or DH's suggestion - can you put a minimum amount on and go out so that it runs out when he'll be at home and you're not. Put on £1 at a time for yourself to use.