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Mother and baby parking

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crispysausagerolls · 10/09/2018 14:33

Went to the supermarket today with my baby and really could’ve used the mother and baby space to get my car seat in and out etc (especially hard as I have a 2 door car). Just as I arrived a woman without a baby pulled into the mother and baby spot, without a baby. My mother asked her what she was doing and she said she was waiting for a child. 2 mins later a middle aged woman came out of the supermarket and got into the car and she started to drive off. So she had lied. I said thanks to her in a sarcastic way as i was struggling to get my baby out in a tight space (very passive aggressive of me I know but DS hates the car and had been screaming and I was so irritated by not having the space) and she started spouting off about being heavily pregnant and blah blah blah. Which was all completely irrevelant (if even true) because she didn’t get out of the bloody car anyway!

AIBU to think the mother and baby space isn’t somewhere to just wait for a mate to come and join you in the car? People genuinely need the extra space provided by them!

OP posts:
Claw001 · 11/09/2018 09:47

Where would non disabled people park if all spaces were disabled spaces?

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 09:49

Yes make all the regular dpaces wider or make them all disabled or P&C, meaning all the spaces in a car park should be disabled or P&C not one or the other. Like I said some people are desperate to pick out the slightest thing to start an argument.

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 09:53

@Claw001

Disabled or P&C not one or the other, it's really not that difficult to comprehend. If I said they should all be P&C and disabled there would be someone on saying, that doesn't make sense, that wouldn't work. So I thought I was simplifying enough in what I said. Obviously not.

Claw001 · 11/09/2018 10:09

I’m still not understanding!

Make all the spaces disabled is what you appear to be saying?

Or alternatively make all the spaces p&c?

Is that right?

TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2 · 11/09/2018 10:10

No she means make all spaces only for disabled people or parents and children. Like that would be of any use to anyone!

Claw001 · 11/09/2018 10:14

That’s how I understood it!

Hence my question if all spaces are disabled where would non disabled park?

Alternatively if all P&C where would disabled people park?

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:15

@TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2

Why would it not be of any use, basically everyone on here has said that anyone is allowed to use P&C spaces and they do, the disabled spaces will still be there for people with bb. So who would that not be of use to? Or just widen spaces for everyone to use (except disabled spaces, they would remain the same as they are)

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:16

@Claw001

Hmm i get the feeling you do understand you are just being purposely obtuse 😂, I hope that's the case anyway.

TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2 · 11/09/2018 10:17

If you can't see it I'm not going to bother explaining it to you! Just keep thinking....

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:19

Ok to really simplify for the people who claim they don't get it.

A car park would just have designated disabled spaces for people with bb only and the rest of the spaces that are not disabled would be P&C, which anyone could use, so perhaps not call them P&C anymore just veggie spaces to make life easier for everyone.

Now if that's not clear enough I might aswell give up because I'm not sure how else to explain it 😂

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:22

@TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2

I think you are still not understanding, see PP.
The only problem with that idea is that the car park wouldn't be able to fit in as many spaces, which isn't really that much of a problem because people would just accept that as the way it is

Claw001 · 11/09/2018 10:23

Maybe I haven’t had enough coffee yet!

If all spaces were disabled, non disabled people could not park there.

If all spaces were P&C, anyone could park there, none reserved for disabled people.

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:24

*not veggie spaces, bigger spaces. Phone is smashed so not typing properly.

Claw001 · 11/09/2018 10:26

Now it makes sense! You mean make all spaces which are not disabled, into P&C!

Lexilooo · 11/09/2018 10:28

I parked in a P&C space the otherday. I don't have children, I arrived alone, had anyone seen me they might have felt justified in having a go. But I really needed that space, mainly for the extra door room but also due to proximity to the lifts.

I was picking up my mum who is wheelchair bound but not entitled to a blue badge. She needs the space to get her chair between the cars and to open the door really wide so she can transfer. I need space to get the chair in the car too and as the chair is heavy to push I don't want to be at the far end of the carpark.

I'm not sorry.

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:30

Yes go get a coffee, I did not say that either all the spaces shpuld be disabled or all the spaces shpuld be P&C. I said, there will still be as many disabled space that only bb holders can use (no one else can use them) the rest of the spaces that are not disabled (You know like the rest of the spaces in the car park, just the dame as there are other spaces in car park currently that are not reserved for bb holders) shpuld be widened or just made into P&C spaces for anyone to use. It would make everything easier for everyone as parents with children would get a space, if all the disabled spaces and P&C spaces were all occupied it would mean people with bb would never find themselves having to squeeze into a regular sized space, and people who needed extra space but weren't entitled to a bb wouldn't have to worry, they could park in any space and have the extra room they needed to get out the car.

TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2 · 11/09/2018 10:32

Actually you did say that. I don;t think you meant to but you were so unclear that you were appearing to say something quite different to what you meant. And then were pretty rude about people not understanding your badly written misleading posts.

And its still inane even after you "clarified".

Sirzy · 11/09/2018 10:32

So basically all wider spaces and then a large amount designated as blue badge. I think you mentioning p and c for the rest confused matters more than you realised!

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:33

@Lexilooo

My idea would solve that problem. Obviously no car park will ever do this because they want to cram as many spaces in as possible to fit as many people in as possible.

Claw001 · 11/09/2018 10:35

More coffee in hand! Grin

You were saying turn all regular spaces into disabled spaces, which is what confused me, as it obviously would not work!

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:36

@TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2

No you were being purposely difficult. Why is it inane?

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 10:41

@Claw001

No not turn all spaces into disabled spaces. Where would I park when I'm out 95% of the time and don't need a disabled space? 😂
Disabled spaces stay as they are and would still be for bb holders only. The other spaces however should be widened. I was only saying the rest of the spaces (not disabled) should be P&C for the sake of this particular thread. If all the spaces were wider they could do away with calling them P&C and then there wouldn't be, I think 3 or 4 threads on MN just now about P&C and disabled spaces.

Frazzledkate · 11/09/2018 10:50

Wow, this thread is bleak.

Claw001 · 11/09/2018 10:50

Yes it’s clear now! Previous wording was confusing to the need more caffeine amongst us! Just widen all regular spaces!

Great idea! Now just to convince supermarkets!

MamaHechtick · 11/09/2018 10:51

Having a disability since birth, and at first the old orange badge, now a blue badge, and having had two enormous DC to get in and out of cars, I've found it's really best to not get so annoyed about these people parking. It's just a space, I struggle to manage without one but I do it, and now we've turned it into a joke that when we have to park in a ordinary bay that I'm taking an able bodied childless persons space.

Life is literally too short.