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Original poster

Okay - so i am being precious, but someone just took my baby name! Gah!

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Stigaloid · 08/06/2007 10:10

So i know i am being precious but am still a little irked by the fact that one of the ladies from my ante-natal class has gone and taken our baby name! I know there are hundreds of people out there with the same name, but we've known for months that we are having a boy and what we are going to call him. This lady (albeit a lovely lady at that) went and had her baby early (grrr and only a 3 hours labour - how unfair is that - lucky girl ) and has proceeded to name her baby boy (which she didn't know she was having) our baby name. Not only that - but the same initials for the middle name too!

Now, i know iam being unreasonable but still - i fancied a moan and letting it all out.

Big fat raspeberries to early easy births and taking baby names. pfffffffffffffffffffffffft!

I feel a little better

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kerala · 08/06/2007 11:40

Also parents (us included) tend to get het up on second names but in RL they are pretty irrelevant!

nomdeplume · 08/06/2007 11:43

My son is called Thomas and was born waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay before yours..... YOU COPIED ME !!!

Sorry but YABU. You are hormonal and a bit bonkers atm, you will get through it, name your lovely baby, and get on with your life.

MamaG · 08/06/2007 11:43

Stig - you know YABU but you're allowed 'cos you're preggers - your DS was never going to be the only Thomas, now was he . Go ahead and call him Thomas.

(love the term Changeling btw enid~)

Blu · 08/06/2007 11:46

So, the best thing is to 'bags' the name you want not at conception, not at a scan where you (might) find out it's sex, certainly not at birth - but perhaps when you have your first period? or is that already too late to make it exclusive?

Bibis · 08/06/2007 12:46

Ooooh Chutney now there's a name I hadn't thought of but I reeeeally like it, I hope you don't mind if I 'borrow' it for the next ds do you Furrymummy?

Furrymummy · 08/06/2007 12:50

ROFL!!!!
There's always someone ;)

Bibis · 08/06/2007 12:53

It would be especially cool if I could find a Mr Cheeseman to marry, or just change my name by deed poll............

SweetyDarling · 08/06/2007 12:56

I'd be quite happy if someone liked the name i had chosen so much that they gave it to their baby.
God I'm balanced!

SweetyDarling · 08/06/2007 12:57

Unless it was a close fried or relative of course - then I'd be mightily p'd off!!

MaloryTowers · 08/06/2007 12:59

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motherinferior · 08/06/2007 13:00

I think you will probably need to move to another town, you know. Clearly that's the only way to get over it. Where there will be no Thomases at all, of course.

ELF1981 · 08/06/2007 13:00

Difficult not to get slightly upset about it, esp with pregnancy hormones buzzing!!

We struggled sooo much with names when I was pg, I liked one but DH wasn't too keen, so we settled on a few potential. Loads of friends were pg at the same time, and these names I liked got used up! One girl had a first and middle name of which were two of my shortlist names.

DH then said I could choose, so I picked the one I'd liked in the first place, and couldn't imagine her being anything different!

With this friend only being somebody you know through antenatal club, it wont be an issue to have the same name - my situation was slightly different as they were long term friends!!

katelyle · 08/06/2007 13:02

I have two much married much older brothers - and a lot of names that I liked were ruled out because they were the names of their ex wives/girlfriends!

LynetteScavo · 08/06/2007 13:05

A fried of mine and her sil had chosen the same (unusual) boys name for thier babies ,when they were pregnant at the same time. It was a race to get the babies out to claim the name!

KTeePee · 08/06/2007 13:14

One of the names I was very keen on for dd - a friend of a friend announced at a party we were both at that she was planning to call her baby that if it was a girl...and it was (and born a few months before my dd). I know I could still have used it but somewhat irrationally I didn't want people to think we were copying her....

If dd had been a boy we had chosen her first and middle names - when ds1 arrived we used the same names but the middle as the first and vice versa because it went better with dds names that way..... a friend of mine had already called her ds the same first name. I honestly couldn't think of another name I liked better, dh pointed out that the friend had moved abroad so we would hardly ever see her (in fact we have totally lost touch now..) so we decided to stick with our choice (though I'm sure my friend did think we were copying her!)

quint · 08/06/2007 13:18

I had the same thing happen to me but we went ahead and we lost contact with the other family about a year later.

Go with the name you like and don;t worry about it.

Genidef · 08/06/2007 13:20

There were three Scarlett's in my ante-natal group.

Genidef · 08/06/2007 13:21

Can't remember the last time we all met up by the way.

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 08/06/2007 13:21

LOL

You are not half as bonkers as someone I know, who fell out with a formerly good friend because she took "her" baby's name.

The irony being, that said bonkers friend is now 41 and single, and has not yet had children, and is looking increasingly unlikely to. Meanwhile, former friend's child is 10 years old and friend hasn't seen him since he was a baby.

You are so sane. Congratulate yourself!

Jenkeywoo · 08/06/2007 14:04

raspberries to easy labour but not early... as a mum of a little one 5 weeks early i know all too well the impact that even a few weeks early can have. It's not as if Thomas is an uncommon name , my best friend called her little boy this last week, just go for it anyway! he was never going to be the only Thomas and I wouldn't be surprised if when he starts school there will be a couple in his class - my dd has a very popular name and it's nice when we hear other little ones with the same name when we're out.

ChippyMinton · 08/06/2007 14:07

One of my best friends is pregnant. I already know that if it is a girl she will have same name as DD because hers is the only name her husband will contemplate. I think it's quite sweet (Baby is also due on DS1's birthday - geez, she's such a copycat )

LynetteScavo · 08/06/2007 14:16

oh, I just remembered, the same friend had her DD's name copied, first and middle name by some one she went to school with.

pooka · 08/06/2007 14:23

Ds is a Tom, not a Thomas. But I really hadn't realised quite how popular it was. Hey ho. The only boys name we could agree on and it really really suits him. Just Tom.

Original poster
Stigaloid · 08/06/2007 15:03

Jenkeywoo - hope your little one is doing okay. This one wasn't too early - born at 38 weeks so considered full term. Mum and baby doing very well so all good news to report.

Am just writing card now - how does 'it's so flattering that you have chosen to use the same name us for your beautiful little boy'......? [kidding]

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LoveAngel · 08/06/2007 16:17

Haven't read through all the replies, so sorry if I repeat...
I feel for you, but if its something pretty common there isn't much you can do but smile sweetly and bear it - you will have to deal with the fact there are other children with the same name at school eventually anyway if its not unusual (I( I rememebr there were 2 Noahs and 2 Ellas in my mum and toddler group!!). If you love the name, stick with it, though. x

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