5.45am and they're still up...

[looby1304]

Came back to my parents house today due to us having a family meal tomorrow. Mum was out, so stepdad and husband went to pub for a pint while I stayed in with 10 month old baby (not a problem so far). They rock in at half 1, husband comes bursting into bedroom to get his jumper so they can sit outside and carry on drinking, wakes me up. They are still there now.
Baby will be up in 20 minutes or so and I haven't been able to get back to sleep since.
I'm pretty sure I'm NBU to kick off when I take the bay downstairs shortly, am I?

pictish you see I very much disagree with you.
I have done the all nighters too. Actually I’ve done that very recently too.
But NOT when you know that the day after you have a full on family meeting/meal with lots of people AND a drive back home.
NOT when my dcs were young, let alone 10 months old. I was sleep deprived enough to not want to add another night wo sleep in the top. Interesting that the DH didn’t see that as an issue. Either they have the mostnlaud back 10 months old that has slept through the night since he was 6 weeks old or actually he is never the one to get up and isn’t sleep deprived.

Basically yes all nighters often just happens. But it is also a CHOICE to do so. It wasn’t forced on him (or you or anyone else). And making that choice has consequences.
In that particular case, I think timing was more than crap both because of the age of their last child and because of what is going to happen today.

Hav8ng said that, I wouod make a scandal either. I wouod want to be able to enjoy the day out with my family wo also dealing with a grumpy H. But I wouldn’t let him off the hook. And I would have very strong words after.

I'd be thrilled they get on to be honest. Just cash in at a later stage - like two weekend's time when you're going away with the girls (or getting a nice hotel for the nice on your own so you can sleep!)

Sorry it was I would NOT make a scandal either (so I can enjoy MY day with my family)

OP I think you're handling this in exactly the right way.

And I admire you for it, because I would struggle ... my simmering resentment would probably last until well into the following week.

Hermione - meh.

Why do people have to get all arsey and cross BEFORE the husband hasn't pulled his weight?

He might surprise the OP and be ok and do his fair share of looking after the baby. IF he doesn't then the OP can kick off.

He had a night chatting with his stepdad. Big fucking deal.

I love how all the haters are more mad with OPs DP than she is!

I think it's lovely that he gets on so well with your stepdad OP. Sounds like you have a great family set up. Enjoy your meal and fingers crossed his hangover isn't too bad.

News Flash : "Grown Man Stays up till 6am, and the Planet didn't implode"

Meh. As long as he's up for the meal and pulling his weight, no big deal.

New Years Eve 1999, I stayed up till 8am and the baby was up for 8.30am. It was a long day, but everyone survived.

How’s everything now looby. Did everyone enjoy their meal?

Did they all survive?

Whenever my dh is hungover l laugh at him., tell him it's self inflicted and to crack on.... no sympathy from me. He is a grown man and should be able to think these things through himself.

Sounds like a scream ! Hope he pulled his weight and got on with the day. Hope you get your own back soon though and have a bloody good night out !

huskylover NYE 1999 ! That was a great night !

Ah FGS leave them be. I am sure many of us have pulled a very late night/all nighter once or twice.

Great to see they get on well.

When I read some posts of permanently pissed partners/husbands rocking home at all hours and being verbally or physically abusive as a result, well this is, as others have said "banking for the future" for OP!

They will be the ones with sore head, bleary eyes and no energy. That is their reward.

I think its great your H gets on with your stepdad enough to stay up to 6 in the morning drinking with him. Beats our fuck awful borefests at my ILs where everyone is desperate to go to bed to avoid them. Or at my Mums where she won't let anyone stay up and enjoy themselves because she doesn't.

I love a talking all nighter with family. It's bloody fantastic and very regrettable the next day. I usually snooze until 10 whilst my oh gets up at 7 with kids and then I'm okay for the rest of the day.
And vice versa.
I won't make my OH feel guilty. It's become quite norm within the family that we all do it once in a while when we get together. The next day usually consists of games and tv then early night before heading home the next day

It’s not the best situation but at the same time OP, you’ve said he’s usually a good husband/father and does his fair share. It’s nice that they get on well enough to stay up all night chatting, I personally love that my family and husband get on so well.

Also, how would he be if it was the other way round? I know my husband would be absolutely fine with everything so I cut him some slack with similar things :).

Hope you had a lovely meal together!