To not accept neighbours packages...

[totallycluelessmama]

So my neighbour who I've never met or even seen has started putting on her packages that they should be delivered to me incase she is not home.

AIBU to not accept them it? Does that make me a shit neighbour?

Of course if we had met and she had asked it would be a different story but what pisses me off is that I have a baby who keeps getting woken up when the door rings unexpectedly.

I took something in for her today and feel like leaving it outside her door. 🤔

How odd!! How does get the packages from you if you've not met? Do you leave them outside for her? In which case the delivery company could do that?

Erm because the op isn’t accepting them. That’s kinda the point of the OP

What happens when she picks them up?

I don't see anything wrong with leaving her a notenote simply saying it's disturbing the baby...but yes, how does she retrieve them??

Just stick a note on your door saying “new baby asleep will only be accepting parcels for this address for NOT knock for other properties”

I never accept parcels anymore as they dont collect them so I now just say no.

problem is if you sign for it then leave it outside it might go walkies then you are liable.
tell her it's not always practical to accept parcels, if you don't say anything how does she know it annoys you ?

for NOT = do NOT

Nope, not unreasonable at all. I won’t tske packages for one NDN because he’s an extremely unpleasant man and I’d rather gouge out my own eyes than help him out. I’ll take them for any other neighbour, but they’re all lovely and I know them.

I think it's normal to accept packages for neighbours but in your case your neighbour has been really cheeky as you do not know each other and you have't been asked.

I would judge my decision on the reaction you get when your neighbour knocks your door to collect their package i.e if they're really grateful and a bit apologetic they hadn't asked you I would let it go. If they acted like they just expected you to do this and were not very grateful I would not accept any future deliveries.

YANBU. Just refuse to accept them. The delivery driver will either try another neighbour or take the parcel away again.

Incidentally, it's possible that the neighbour hasn't actually requested it. It could be just the delivery driver deciding to try a neighbour.

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat so if the OP has never accepted a delivery why would neighbour carry on ?

So OP is this the first package you've ever accepted?

@80sMum OP says she seen information stating they should deliver to her house. I would agree that they would normally try neighbours but OP is saying it's a specific instruction by her neighbour.

Agree with 80sMum, just refuse to accept them. We had someone two doors down do this, they'd twigged that I work from home two days a week. I took the first parcel but it took 4 days for them to come and collect it. I just refuse to take them in now. The poor DPD driver was getting really upset last week because I refused to take it. I felt for him but I'm not a post office.

I used to accept them for one neighbour but we'd be stuck with them for ages because she wouldn't collect for ages and would rarely answer her door.

Once she told me that she had told them to leave parcels with her other neighbour so I took that as my cue and don't accept them any more.

Hope you’re never out and expect her to take in yours...

Maybe the neighbour just thinks she’s been unlucky and not received one when the op has been home. My neighbours do the same but I used to take them in. We asked them to do one thing regarding fly-tipping at the back alley and they wouldn’t do it so I’ve vowed not to take any more of their many many parcels in.

I wouldn't have a problem with it. Where I live neighbours do favours for each other. Maybe I am lucky to still live in a nice caring community whereas you are not.
If my baby was being woken though I'd put a note on the door when she was sleeping asking to not be disturbed.
Surely there are not vast amounts of parcels and surely your baby isn't sleeping everytime.
You could see it as an opportunity to get to know your neighbour and having someone to ask for mutual favours back.

I've only just moved in! It's a little difficult to try and mingle when juggling newborn and unpacking.

I do agree it's a nice way to get to know each-other but surely you wouldn't put down my door number just incase you aren't in if you haven't met me.

It's the first package I've taken in but what really shocked me is that she's put us down as per delivery instructions. My husband said two others came the other day whilst I was in the shower/out at the shops.

And yes my baby won't always be sleeping but it's a pisstake when the knocking is unexpected. We live in a flat FYI and the doorbell system is so so loud and annoying 😬

I might just try to see if I can silence it...

Put a note up when baby is sleeping that you will NOT take parcels.

Oh, I'd disable to entry bell when your baby is sleeping.

ITs because you have just moved in. These instructions were for the previous owner who she probably had met-she’s probably forgotten she did it.

I imagine she put the last tenant down and now the last tenant has changed and it hasn’t changed

Maybe she had an agreement with the previous occupants and hasn't realised they've moved?

Maybe she got on well with the previous occupants and simply hasn’t changed delivery instructions. When she collects you just need to have a word and say its not going to be possible regularly.