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To not accept neighbours packages...

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totallycluelessmama · 08/09/2018 15:10

So my neighbour who I've never met or even seen has started putting on her packages that they should be delivered to me incase she is not home.

AIBU to not accept them it? Does that make me a shit neighbour?

Of course if we had met and she had asked it would be a different story but what pisses me off is that I have a baby who keeps getting woken up when the door rings unexpectedly.

I took something in for her today and feel like leaving it outside her door. 🤔

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Dollymixture22 · 08/09/2018 18:39

I have asked amazon not to leave packages at my next door neighbours - yet they still do!

We have a slightly tense relationship, and I hate it when this happens. I apologise profusely.

Maybe pop a note on your door saying you are unable to accept packages for neighbouring addresses?

LanguidLobster · 08/09/2018 18:40

Oh - she sounds like a weirdo.

Did you tell her about baby?

CripsSandwiches · 08/09/2018 18:40

Are you sure she's actually specified you as the person to leave it with? I always put deliver to a safe place (no one can see said place from the road and it's a safe village) but often stuff will get delivered to the neighbour anyway (I always apologise).

If she has definitely specified you she may just think that's what neighbours do - I've never had an issue with taking in parcels and nor have my neighbours. We never had a specific agreement. I would just politely explain to her (when she collects the parcel) that it's not convenient as it wakes your baby. No reasonable person would mind you saying that.

RabbitsAreTasty · 08/09/2018 18:40

What did you reply?

Dollymixture22 · 08/09/2018 18:41

Sorry - I should have said buzzer not door. And pop a note through her door explaining. It’s not convenient. Then turn them all away!!

LeftRightCentre · 08/09/2018 18:42

In that case, don't take her packages anymore. Disable the entry if your baby is sleeping and put a sign up asking them not to chap the door as baby is sleeping. If they still do, refuse and tell them they need to change their instructions as you never gave permission to take them in. I'd send your husband over to tell her you will not be taking your packages as you were not asked and are not running a postal service. We once bought a house from a man who'd inherited it from his mother. Post kept coming, for him, so we wrote 'Return to Sender, Not at This Address' and he had the cheek to come over and say he thought he'd keep sending his post there so he could come in and have a peek at what we were doing to 'his' house every now and again. I told him I was not a secretary and it was our house now, we purchased it and that I'd keep rejecting the post. FFS, if you want to keep a house then don't fucking sell it.

CripsSandwiches · 08/09/2018 18:43

She opened the door, looked at me and grabbed the package. She said didn't even say thanks and asked when did it come... wtf?I asked if she had put us down for delivery incase she weren't in and she said yes as she knows I have a baby so I must be in, and that "it makes sense to".

OK missed your update that is incredibly rude and down right odd. In that case I would refuse packages for her in the future. Don't answer the door when you're not expecting anyone or a parcel for yourself.

BlueJava · 08/09/2018 18:44

But OP if you've only just moved in perhaps the previous occupant of your flat had an agreement with her that they would take them in? Surely it's better to have a word with her in case she hasn't clicked that her parcels are getting redirected to someone she doesn't know.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 08/09/2018 18:45

Maybe your neighbour is the inspiration for Milton Jones' joke:

"I ordered a book from Amazon called 'How to have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with your neigbours'. Unfortunately, I was out when the delivery person brought it...."

sillypenguins · 08/09/2018 18:48

Did you tell her you wouldn't be accepting anymore?

Seems crazy

TheCakeCrusader · 08/09/2018 19:02

Yes, she is a CF! She was rude when you dropped off her parcel and had assumed that you’d always be in just because you had a baby.

Either disable the bell as you mentioned or just not take parcels in for her. I am usually happy to take in parcels for the neighbours when it’s appreciated but I wouldn’t do so if a neighbour acted rudely towards me.

JustDanceAddict · 08/09/2018 19:05

I will only take in for immediate ndn neighbours who we know.

RabbitsAreTasty · 08/09/2018 19:05

With that level of CF, I would refuse all parcels without telling her I was about to do so, thus giving her maximum inconvenience.

spudlet7 · 08/09/2018 19:38

What a CF!!! What did you say in response?!

Louiselouie0890 · 08/09/2018 20:03

I found this so annoying too. Neighbours clocked on I was a SAHM and I was taking in packages everyday. Said no more in the end

FaFoutis · 08/09/2018 20:08

Just refuse when the delivery person asks.
I enjoy refusing neighbours' parcels because it's like telling the neighbours to fuck off but without the confrontation.

NelleB · 08/09/2018 21:05

We have a very awkward delivery woman since she lost a parcel of ours and claimed it was delivered. We leave our porch window open and she still refused to pop the stuff through it and delivers to all and sundry in our cul-de-sac. We have spoken to Hermes on numerous occasions as I feel so rude expecting people to take parcels for us who we’ve never spoken to!

stoneriverpuddle · 08/09/2018 21:10

The CF do not take in a parcel for her again! Unless your expecting visitors or a delivery yourself turn the intercom off when your little one is sleeping.

Frlrlrubert · 08/09/2018 21:15

Just seen the update, total CF.

Disable the intercom when not expecting visitors and refuse her parcels from now on.

kaytee87 · 08/09/2018 21:18

If you've only just moved in then I'd assume the old owners/tenants had an arrangement and she's forgotten to change it.
Just pop next door and ask her to change her delivery instructions

kaytee87 · 08/09/2018 21:19

Sorry for some reason the thread wasn't updating on the app.

So what did she say when you asked her to change her delivery instructions?

crazycatgal · 08/09/2018 21:20

Did you not tell her that it wasn't suitable when you dropped the parcel round?

Maelstrop · 08/09/2018 21:21

Massive cheeky fucker. Did you tell her you won’t be taking any more packages for her?

Itsacakebaby · 08/09/2018 21:28

I think it's a real cheek. YANBU.
Have no problem taking in parcels for one NDN as they are lovely but the other side I have now decided not to (although in the past have done). The thing that really irritated me was that when I would see her outside in the street she would not acknowledge me and look down/away . DH had the same treatment. I thought well if you want me to do you a favour you could at least have the courtesy to say Hi. May sound petty but it's just rude and riled me.🙁

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totallycluelessmama · 09/09/2018 11:56

Sorry got busy last night with baby and obvs with all thats happening!

I told her that me being home with the baby doesn't mean I'm her postbox! Perhaps if she would have asked, I may have considered it.

She said " Should have thought about it before having a baby"

WTF WTF WTF WTF WTF WTF WTF

SHE IS CRAZY.

Anyway, I told her I won't be taking any parcels for her anymore and will be disabling my doorbell.

Fast forward to 10pm, she popped up and buzzed my door as if to say "F U"

What a cheeky fucker git!

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