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Locked out

61 replies

Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:01

Currently trying to sleep in my car as my dm has locked me out. I only went to get cigarettes. Sat outside in tears for over five hours freezing my tits off before she finally let me in the car. Now she won't even let me in/get me some clothes so I can leave. Literally have the clothes on my back. Not even any make up or a hairbrush Sad

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MrsStrowman · 05/09/2018 23:04

Wtf? Why has she locked you out?

pangolina · 05/09/2018 23:04

Wtf! How old are you? Why has she done this?

recklessruby · 05/09/2018 23:05

Can you call a friend in a and borrow some stuff for tonight and stay over?

Costacoffeeplease · 05/09/2018 23:05

Why?

garethsouthgatesmrs · 05/09/2018 23:05

You can and should leave. Give a friend a call.

BitOutOfPractice · 05/09/2018 23:07

Oh goodness why on earth has she done that? You poor thing

3boysandabump · 05/09/2018 23:08

So she locked you out at 6pm because you went to the shop? That's not on!

curlykaren · 05/09/2018 23:08

Wow. How awful. Spend the night planning how you're going to get your own place.

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Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:08

She's abusive, and I drink to cope. I can't go out to work (self employed) as it's hit and miss whether I'm 'allowed' back in. She hates drinking so it's a vicious cycle. I hate it but it's literally like I want out of my own head sometimes Sad so although I wasn't drinking today, I wanted to get cigarettes and she just grabbed her opportunity to lock me out. I have nowhere to stay

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Original poster
Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:09

I'm 30 btw. Moved back in after splitting with my boyfriend.

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IdahoJones · 05/09/2018 23:10

Do you have money/cards inside the house?

Original poster
Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:11

No I have cards on me. Didn't have my phone but she pushed it through the letterbox so I have it now

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tinstar · 05/09/2018 23:17

You poor thing. No other relatives who could reason with her/let you stay?

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Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:19

No one. Dad is 200 miles away. No friends. And I have to pee GrinSad

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Heratnumber7 · 05/09/2018 23:21

Can you afford a hotel for the night?

Mouikey · 05/09/2018 23:25

Given the situation, the fact you have your phone and purse, I would try and find a travel lodge or similar for tonight then make your way to the Council (or estate agent if you are able to rent).

pangolina · 05/09/2018 23:25

Can you call a taxi to take you to a hotel?

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Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:27

Hotel - there isn't any availability (I'm very rural). Council tomorrow I guess

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IdahoJones · 05/09/2018 23:27

I'd be thinking of getting to an all night Tesco Extra or similar and buying a blanket / clothes, getting in the house and getting my stuff tomorrow, and finding lodgings or a house share.

I'd be wondering about asking police for help and advice, too. She can't just withhold your stuff. They might assist.

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Sparklfairy · 05/09/2018 23:31

Called police, 4 hours ago. Even though she has previous for assaulting me and theft it seems in still waiting

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Passingwords · 05/09/2018 23:32

Is there any way you can get back in? Letter box/ key in door- can you find some kind of metal like coat hanger to fish key out? If latch lock on the door, could you shoulder barge it? Modern car head rests are designed to lift out- you can use the metal ends to smash a window to get back in- if there is a one you could smash and repair/ replace later.

tinstar · 05/09/2018 23:34

How would your 'd'm feel if the neighbours knew what she was doing? I'm wondering if you could let her know that you're going to start knocking on neighbours' doors and asking if they'll take you in for the night because she's locked you out, would she be horrified enough to let you back in?

HollowTalk · 05/09/2018 23:40

Call the police again! She shouldn't be allowed to behave like that.

HollowTalk · 05/09/2018 23:41

Good idea re the neighbours.

spottybetty · 05/09/2018 23:43

So you're 30 and living at your parents'. I'd arrange to move out ASAP. Why are you still there if she's been abusive?

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