Bloody OUTING on MN

[Sleepyslops]

AIBU to get annoyed when I read a thread which comprises of the OP whinging about something, but then stating they can't say what as it's "outing" or they state they have nc to prevent them being outed. It's like some weird, paranoid, mn tin foil hat crap.

Well said @TheOymoron

It's not the one post that outs you though. It's people trying to not build up too much of a picture of themselves on the internet.

If you say 'my DP is away dry slope skiing every Saturday and leaves me to sort out the kids' that shouldn't be outing...in isolation.

But if you gave your two pence on the uni threads about University of St Andrews and reassure someone's DC that their accommodation will be fine and you had a great time there. Then a few days later you post on the staffroom boards about what a state the cleaners left your class in. Oh and a year ago- you told someone on the property boards that Milton Keynes is a great place for families! Not to mention that on the pregnancy boards you say you're TTC DC3...

With all that- you're an MK based teacher with two kids who did their undergrad at St Andrews.

The dry slope skiing husband post might just 'out' you now....which isn't ideal if you are using MN for emotional support regarding a situation you don't want anyone IRL to know about.

Agree 100%. I'd like to explain further, but it would OUT me.
YANBU. Particularly, OUTING HOBBIES.
How outing can a hobby actually be?
I'd get this thread deleted hun

My hobby is drinking, is the too outing?

Yes! It's so annoying! I don't understand why people explicitly state they've 'nc' for a post and then continue with all of the details - still very 'outing'.

this is obvious, they dont want this thread to be linked to any other ones they have posted before?

NC for a post means that you don't want it linked to your posting history and the internet persona you're happy to be public with?

I might use this name to post about my kitten and my job and recipes- I'd probably wouldn't want an

-anything embossi

Is it wrong that I check the bedside locker of everyone I know for a penis beaker just hoping to find a fellow MNer?

what is going on with my phone?!

• anything embarrassing or extremely emotional to be linked to my main account.

Possibly because so many people are registered on Mumsnet, your next door neighbour could be reading and recognise you.

Actually, I saw the thread title and thought someone had got up a MN coach trip. 😂

I'm on a name change at the moment and have just posted a 'NC as this may out me' thread ... I didn't mention penis beakers or Pom bears though 🤣

The reason I NC and I'm wary about being 'outed' is because I have recognised 2 people on here. One was posting about an incident I was involved in and it was really awkward. Another was a neighbour who I recognised through a combination of an illness and a hobby she had.

My post is very identifying which is fine but i don't want linking to some very sensitive stuff I have posted about my childhood.

The staying your 'pin bear' credentials gets right on my tit ends though.

Oh, and BFF is on here too

My hobby is mnetting, hopefully that won’t out me !
I’ve never name changed in my time on here. to anyone who recognised me

I totally agree. The only post that I have agreed with the OP saying this could be outing was on a thread about presents for teachers and someone replied 'This could be outing but when I left a post as an RE teacher, I got a life size cardboard cut out of THE POPE signed by the whole class' I remember thinking, fair do's - you don't get many of them to the pound.

I once recognised someone on a large forum because they mentioned a small detail about their wedding. Not even someone I actually knew, a friend of my cousin's. Just from that detail I then knew she was TTC, had a fight with her mother etc etc. Hugely personal info from the tiniest little slip.

I can well understand why people are careful.

My hobby is going on outings, it makes it tricky to post at all.

I’ve been on Mumsnet for 6 months
I can state all the right references
Pom bears
Cutted up pears
Cancel the cheque
Penis beaker
Lemon drizzle cake
Mexican house thief
Because I’ve read all the classics-and some are very funny. Wanky things was the best though!
I’ve always thought that a poster who says I’ve name changed doesn’t want to be linked to previous posts.
Personally I couldn’t give a shit if I was outed, because I’d never post anything that I would mind anyone in real life knowing.
The hobby silence is really funny. 😂😂

I've been recognised before on here (different user name, obvs) but it's only happened the once, and I've been kicking around on and off for about a decade iirc. I was posting about a fairly unusual situation, but I didn't really think anything was particularly identifying - and then someone pm-ed me, and they'd spot on id'd me.

oh god, the Outing Hobbies ....it's always park running, golf or cycling

I tend to wonder why those things are called hobbies rather than sports.

I make change regularly. If you post a few things it's easy to put them together. I don't announce every namechange though.

KurriKurri - I've told you before Joyce, it's not a "man mermaid" it's a "merman".

Exactly sailorvenus. If I posted details of my DC, where I have lieved, where I live now and where I worked, anyone who knew me would be able to identify me in about 10 seconds. Which might not matter to some people, but I chose to use MN anonymously and want to keep it that way

I do agree, though, that posts that ask for advice on a situation but then refuse to give the details of that situation where they are pertinent are frustrating

There is also another side of "outing" or not as the case may be.
I read a thread by someone who was talking about her DC. I was worried because it was very similar to something I know about. The age was wrong, the family composition was wrong but it was so scarily like something I know about.
I still wonder if that was the people I know or is the situation more common than I thought.
I still don't know if this was anyone I know or just coincidence.
I don't think things are as outing as we think - but then I wonder!

Do you know, I’ve been here Donkeys and I still don’t know what the lemon drizzle cake one was about. I think I might have vaguely seen it and couldn’t be arsed reading the whole thing.

I can’t be arsed NC for anything either.