I'm a paramedic currently on maternity leave after having our dc 7 months ago. I also have a child from a previous relationship who is now 10.
My dp returned to work a week after she was born so I've don't the majority of the work myself and had to sort of force him to get involved. I understood his apprehension as she is his first child and he didn't want to hurt her or do it wrong and since I made bath and bed time his thing (at around 3 months old) he has really got involved.
I've been doing some baby led weaning with our 7 month old which she loves. Dp though hates it, says it makes him nervous (which I understand) and can we not just give her purées so she doesn't choke. My argument is that she's learning to chew (well gum) I don't give her anything too hard and that she actually quite enjoys it. It's also literally my job to know what to do if, god forbid, anything goes wrong.
He had a go at me last night when I asked why he was cutting up the food I was going to give her the next day into tiny pieces.
When he's home at the weekend he doesn't want to get involved feeding her so he doesn't see how capable she is as coping with solids.
Am I unreasonable to find it quite insulting that he 1) thinks that I would actually endanger our daughter feeding her stuff she can't cope with and 2) thinks I'm incapable of dealing with something that is actually my job to know how to deal with!