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Original poster

To be annoyed they sold our own dress back to us?

52 replies

anotherdamnname · 04/09/2018 16:29

NC'ed as this will out me to the school group I just complained to!

Just bought a nearly new dress for DD from school uniform shop. Went to label it and found it was already labelled... DD. They sold us our own dress! AIBU to be annoyed that they don't check lost property for names and try and reunite with the owners before flogging it? Or is it our fault for not having tried harder to get it back? (DD has ADHD and loses 2-3 items a term, we're not great at keeping track)

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sorryihaventacluetoo · 04/09/2018 16:31

I wouldn't be annoyed. I'd just tell the school and ask for my money back.

Pibplob · 04/09/2018 16:31

I’d be annoyed - and asking for my money back or at least making them aware of what’s happened so they can be more vigilant.

HPLikecraft · 04/09/2018 16:36

Schools are always banging on about naming everything, but what's the point if they don't look at them when something is found?
I'd tell school, and carefully fish for the money back, rather than ask for it. But I'm a coward!

EthelThePiratesDaughter · 04/09/2018 16:38

I don't think the school should sell items which have the name of a current student in. They should have let you know they had it.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 04/09/2018 16:42

I would let them know what happened and expect a refund. It's pretty pointless getting people to name stuff if they are not going to check for names before selling it.

SaucyJack · 04/09/2018 16:42

If your school are as good as ours at making lost property available for parents to search through, then definitely YABU.

I reckon YABU anyway. You can’t expect the person selling the stuff to go through it and be able to know or remember who each kid is on every label- specially if you’ve given your child a name like Oliver or Emily.

paintinmyhairAgain · 04/09/2018 16:43

i don't get the name change thing tbh, if someone [highly unlikely] read this, then what difference does changing name achieve ? sorry missing point of thread,but it was a shitty thing for them to do even so.

LittleMissedTheSunshine · 04/09/2018 16:43

Did you try to find it when lost, or ask the school if you could look in the lost property box?

If yes, YANBU. If no, the school probably presumed it was donated, they must get lots of old uniform donated each year and it would not be reasonable to expect them to go back to every pupil whos name they read on a clothes label.

PhilomenaButterfly · 04/09/2018 16:44

How do you lose a dress at school? Confused

FranticallyPeaceful · 04/09/2018 16:45

My sons old school did this. I had three people come to me with jumpers they had bought, all three had my sons name stitched in - jumpers he had lost throughout the year, in reality school were just hoarding them away. Lots of people complained about it

weebarra · 04/09/2018 16:46

I think YABU. I run our school thrift shop and we get bags and bags of stuff. Some of it is donated and some comes from lost property, I don't know which and I'm not going to check every item coming into my possession.
Of course, if you came back with your item and told me it had been lost, I'd give you your money back! I have a DC with ADHD too so I feel your pain.

Stormzyandme · 04/09/2018 16:46

How much was it? Cheaper than a new one & you know who wore it before. Plus you saved petrol & time, going in to town.

Win-Win Grin

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anotherdamnname · 04/09/2018 16:47

I wonder if it was because the name was on the label inside the skirt bit (iyswim) rather than at the neck, so maybe they didn't spot it - still, there is no label at all at the neck, and the bottom label does have a "name" section so not totally weird to have it there!

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Stormzyandme · 04/09/2018 16:47

Plus the money goes to the school.

triple win

JellyBaby666 · 04/09/2018 16:48

Where is the lost property, are you able to look through it when you become aware your DD has lost something?

Baffling they've sold it on to you with a name in, why bother labelling then?! YANBU. Complain!

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anotherdamnname · 04/09/2018 16:49

i don't get the name change thing tbh, if someone [highly unlikely] read this, then what difference does changing name achieve ?

because if I didn't the school parents who saw this would connect me with my usual username and all my previous embarrassing posts

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anotherdamnname · 04/09/2018 16:50

How do you lose a dress at school?
She has a talent! Sometimes they come home in PE or other activity kit so would have been one of those times.

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GreenTulips · 04/09/2018 16:50

but what's the point if they don't look at them when something is found?

Do you know how many jumpers are lost every year?

There is no dedicated person responsible for children's belongings.

Most schools will let parents have a look in lost property for their child's items.

Which staff member do you think should hunt your child's clothing out?

Walkingdeadfangirl · 04/09/2018 16:53

Did you not go to lost property and look for it yourself, that is why you put labels on clothes?

Teachers have enough to do without having to sort clothes.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 04/09/2018 16:53

Which staff member do you think should hunt your child's clothing out?

As a teacher if a parent informed me their child was missing something I would either keep an eye out for it in the classroom (they often turn up when they get their pe bags out again) or go and have a quick look in the lost and found. It really only takes 5 minutes to locate something if it is named.

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anotherdamnname · 04/09/2018 16:53

Did you try to find it when lost, or ask the school if you could look in the lost property box? If yes, YANBU. If no, the school probably presumed it was donated

Quite possibly not - we have made an effort to track down some of her awol items but realistically not had a lost property rummage each time.
I don't see how they would presume something in lost property is "donated" though!

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TheWinterofOurDiscountTentsMk2 · 04/09/2018 16:56

Nope it was up to you to go to school and check lost property. If you had done that, you would have got it back. You didn't, so it was fair game to be sold and you got it back as well as donated to the school.
YABU. It's not the schools job to keep track of all of the kids stuff.

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anotherdamnname · 04/09/2018 16:59

Just to be clear, I was not expecting any teacher or anything to have gone hunting for items as some people have suggested. I just thought maybe that if they received an item in the uniform shop from lost property they would check it over for rips etc and might check the label as well...
I guess it would be a pain to then contact everyone who has lost things. It was a genuine AIBU, I did find it annoying (and cost us a tenner) but was fully prepared to be told YABU!

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TwoOddSocks · 04/09/2018 17:01

I think it's standard to expect parents to look in lost property and then to resell them at the end of the year. I think most parents at DS's school do a routine hunt through once a fortnight.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 04/09/2018 17:02

It cost you £10 Shock

In that case I would be even more cross they hadn't checked.

I would never worry about asking a teacher to double check for missing items though especially given her ASD diagnosis, most of them won't mind. Smile