To report my NDN to Social services?

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My NDN is African, so are both of her children, there's a man who goes in a few times a week and I've heard the children call him dad.
We live in a terraced house, and the walls are paper thin. We get up at around 8am most days & she is screaming already, calling the children bastards, c*nts, imbeciles, and shockingly the N word.
Last time i knocked on after the child was screaming for around 25 minutes with her screaming abuse at him, the kids are 5 & 7.
She has friends round often, i see them in the garden smoking, she never shouts while the visitors are there but any other time its full on shouting, then crying
It's dusturbing me now, shall i report and can i do it anonymously, even though she will probably know it's me.

Oh god yes, I would definitely report that. Awful.

Yes please report. If you are immediately concerned for their welfare then contact the police

I would report this.

Definitely report. She sounds vile.

Yes please do those children are relying on someone like you. I'd also try and record the audio on my phone

Yes, but what does the fact that she’s ‘African’ have to do with anything and what role does the man play?

Yes, I would report that, if it is what you say here...

Not sure why you mention that she's African, except maybe to explain the N word? Otherwise I'm a bit concerned by your motives... would you feel the same if it was a white British mother?

Yes call them.
I'm guessing you said she was African because you then said she calls her kids the N word?

If it was a white british mother doing all that except the N word then I'd report.

I'm guessing OP said African because a white parent shouting that would be even worse?

You shouldn’t really think of it as ‘reporting’.

What you are describing it is situation where a parent needs support to have more nurturing strategies for managing her children’s behaviour.

Ss will come out do a basic assessment and hopefully assign a support worker and refer to parenting classes.

They will ask school how the dcs are there.

If no other evidence comes to light it’s not enough to do more than offer that level of voluntary support.

please record it for proof. but call SS straight away and let them know your concerns. how awful.

Absolutely report

Always report if you have any concerns at all. Children are living through nightmares hoping someone will save them because they can't tell anyone. If there's no problem you've done no harm

@sarahandduck18 patenting classes? a bit of support?? No wonder these poor children who end up dead slip through the ss net when this is the approach taken, god knows what else is going on

Yes I would report and I believe they would leave your name out of it. I can't understand how people can treat children this way. Especially their own.

Report definitely. Those words are disgusting. You should always report to social services if you have a concern and you can ask to be kept annonymous. Don't give your name. And make sure to follow up with social services what they're doing to investigate.

I said shes African, to explain the use of the N word

Yes I would report this.

Tbh I would leave my name. Less chance of an anonymous call details going astray.
I have reported my ndn a few times.

sarahandduck18

You’re response is EXACTLY why we have serious case report after serious case report published with NO LESSONS LEARNT!

A bit of support FFS 🙄🙄

SS won't do anything - its "cultural"

Yes definitely phone in your concerns.

I really think you should call SS but I wouldn't be surprised if they don't get involved. I'm a teacher and over the years we have had children that we can't call home for as any contact from school would mean a beating for the child. This has been relayed to SS via our safeguarding procedures and I've never known anything come of it due to it being deemed cultural differences within parenting.
Definitely call though. You would awful if anything happened and you hadn't

Are you sure about that WatchOutForTheCar? I've seen children removed from their families to live in better circumstances and they are happier for it.

Her race is relevant. I reported a neighbour for pretty much the exact same thing, plus physical violence. She told them I was a racist. She got lots of sympathy. I got shouted at in the street by her friends.