To report my NDN to Social services?

[Purplecrocsrock]

My NDN is African, so are both of her children, there's a man who goes in a few times a week and I've heard the children call him dad.
We live in a terraced house, and the walls are paper thin. We get up at around 8am most days & she is screaming already, calling the children bastards, c*nts, imbeciles, and shockingly the N word.
Last time i knocked on after the child was screaming for around 25 minutes with her screaming abuse at him, the kids are 5 & 7.
She has friends round often, i see them in the garden smoking, she never shouts while the visitors are there but any other time its full on shouting, then crying
It's dusturbing me now, shall i report and can i do it anonymously, even though she will probably know it's me.

OP, really glad you have reported it, as I am sure you found out you are able to do this anonymously, however it really helps SS if you give your name and contact details only for purposes of social worker contacting you if require further information. Your info can remain anonymous to the family

If you are able to, you might consider jotting down what you hear and what times this is happening, helps build the bigger picture.

You've done the right thing

www.nspcc.org.uk/what-you-can-do/report-abuse/

Yes I would report it but so what if she is African?

It's people like you - the ones who minimise child abuse - verbal in this case by the sounds of it - who contribute to a society in which children are further abused by their carers and worse

Fuck off it is, don't be ridiculous. Try calling 999, they will tell you what I told you.
It doesn't minimise anything.

All police have a non urgent number (as opposed to 999) definitely worth calling it and talking to the operator, they can then make a decision as to whether they feel they should attend. It sounds horrible, but alas I'm guessing ss will be dealing with far worse so how they prioritise this is anyone's guess.

@AnEPleaseBob you clearly think that @CherryChatsworth isn't really a long serving police officer then? Because she has said that they would prioritise a situation like this. Or do you think you know better than the police?

@AnEPleaseBob I dont need to call 999. Don't be silly.

It's ok to admit you haven't got a clue what you're talking about you know. You clearly haven't

And as you're clearly hard of thinking I'll be really straightforward with you.

If you hear an adult screaming at little children that they are cnts and nggers then please call 999. this would be classed as a 'threat to life or limb' OR a fear for welfare. It would be prioritised as an immediate or priority commitment for attendance

I really do. Shouting at your kids is not a 999 matter, and if you were indeed a a police officer you would know that.

f you hear an adult screaming at little children that they are cnts and nggers then please call 999. this would be classed as a 'threat to life or limb' OR a fear for welfare. It would be prioritised as an immediate or priority commitment for attendance

I won't, it wouldn't, and it would not.

Call SS and report it properly.

Shouting at your kids isn't a call for 999, you're right

Screaming that they're cnts and nggers is, especially in the circumstances the OP describes

I've got better things to do than argue with stupid this evening. I'm just gutted that there are people like you out there who minimise this shit

CherryChatsworth you are spot on. And it is minimising.

Yes, if the moment has passed and after an incident nspcc and social services are absolutely the right people to be reporting to, as op has done. But if there is a specific incident which is ongoing where there is an escalation of verbal abuse and threat then 999 is of course appropriate, that’s what it’s there for!

We live in a very “nice” area in South Norfolk and a couple of months ago there was a young couple outside arguing in the street- they had a toddler in a buggy with them and although they weren’t shouting at the child directly they were shouting very loudly at each other and everyone was very distressed. We rang 999 and when we rang they told a car was already on the way as at least 5 other people had rang about the same thing. If it was right in those circumstances- and so many other people clearly felt that was the right thing to do - it would be right in this case.

Op you’ve done the right thing. I really hope the children get some help and support. It sounds horrendous.

its not minimising, its called acting appropriately using the right channels.
If you think calling the police to tell them you've been listening through the wall to your neighbour shouting and swearing at her kids for months on end is an actual emergency that warrants 999, you are a terrible police officer and need some serious training.

AnEPleaseBob

If I were to go into the street and start shouting at someone they are a cunt and I nigger I could be arrested for a public order offence.... to be shouting it at a child.... ie. a vulnerable person... is even worse....WTF is wrong with you????

Nothing. I just understand how life and the law works.

999 is for emergencies. Do you understand? Something that has been ongoing for months is not an emergency. Shouting at your children, even calling them cunts, is NOT AN EMERGENCY AND IS NOT A MATTER FOR 999.

Adults actually have to be told this? Knowing who to call to deal with an issue is not the same thing as not caring about an issue. WTF aren't you asking what is wrong with OP, if you think its an emergency that warrants 999 and she hasn't done a thing over months of hearing it?

Why not give it up @AnEPleaseBob ? You sound just awful. Hope you don't have children if you think this sort of parenting is something to be shrugged off

I really don't. I really hope you're lying about being police because you are a judgemental fool.
Do you understand that knowing who the right people to call about a problem is not at all the same thing as not caring about a problem?