LadyDeadpool, HelenaDove and any other posters affected by this (largely) horrid thread... You are not hideous, disgusting, vile, ugly or worthless because of your weight. Whatever it is, it doesn't define you, me or anybody else. If I'm 'bang on target' for the made-up adult 'centiles' that some posters have in their heads, so bloody what? It doesn't make me 'worth' more. I'm the same person inside that I always was but my weight doesn't contribute to what I am... only my gravitational pull on the earth and what size clothes I pluck from the rails.
Anybody - and that includes everybody who does it - anybody who chooses to demean another person for what they weigh is lacking. They're a bit (or maybe a lot?) inadequate. Any person (other than a medical specialist) who thinks that somebody's weight is 'up for discussion' and 'rating' is a bit of an idiot. Don't judge them harshly because they really can't help it. They were always like this, the various forums have just given them a platform for spouting, and so they do.
I feel very strongly about this because I have disordered eating myself, I know how easy it is to tip yourself from one end of the spectrum to the other and I know how difficult it can be to regulate your eating when you feel helpless and afraid that you'll never get to grips with it yourself. I laugh on here about my 'Wotsits' thing but it's not that funny really... replace that pointless and unnecessary snack with actual nutritious food and my lack of control could have been just the same. Those without capacity to think or put themselves in others shoes are just not going to understand that. Forgive them their stupid comments because that's almost a protected characteristic in its own right now.
This isn't a great thread, it's on AIBU for a start so the strata and calibre of posters is 'a bit different', but there are some insightful posts in and amongst the absolute dross. It's easy to focus on the negative things that people say but why bother? Their views are facile and cloaked in how women look. That's the extent of it - how women look. They're as misogynistic as any, it's sad that they're women but, there is it. They're not allies, they're not ever going to contribute meaningfully to a thread that actually matters on a subject that is pretty damn crucial for everybody really, they'll just do what they always do - make themselves feel a little bit better by lashing out with vim and vigour, on something they know little or nothing about. They're best ignored. Don't bother checking for cloven hoofs or a nearby bridge, focus on the posts from those that don't seek to diminish or demean you, me or anybody else. Not for our weight.
Lady you have EVERY right to feel pretty and you have every right to access the NHS and any other help available to you. Grab it and fight for it because those rights - to paraphrase from The Constitution, are inalienable.
TL:DR - This isn't a dress rehearsal, ignore the trolls and live your life as you want it. Grasp every bit of happiness from it that you can. 