To feel sad about being no one's priority

[pixiie]

I have been waiting in a cafe for 30 mins for my friend to arrive. We planned this very last minute but I came straight from work. She has cancelled a number of planned visits recently. She has now just text me saying she is meeting her friends at 630 so won't have time to meet me.

My other friend was going to plan a spa weekend as I am moving away next week. She was talking about it for ages. Then she messages me saying that her other friend is going to visit her this weekend, but if i still wanted to we could do something. I feel so uncomfortable, its obvious shed rather be with her friend

For context I split up with a really dickheadish prick in January, physically and mentally abusive. One of the things that still rings in my head is him saying "youre just not a priority to me". So maybe I am being sensitive. I've never really had millions of friends, I probably have about 5 close (well what i considered close) friends. I just feel so lonely sitting here on my own again, I would do anything for my friends but I feel like tjey wouldn't notice if I died.

Aibu or more specifically over sensitive or would you be upset about the above?

You wouldn't treat her like that. Why should you let it happen to you?

Pleased to hear you haven't replied and you had a lovely day with nice friend.

Onwards and upwards!

I’ve just joined here and came across your thread. I’ve been feeling like this with my ‘friends’ and wondered how you’re doing now?

@1Waggers1

I’ve just joined here and came across your thread. I’ve been feeling like this with my ‘friends’ and wondered how you’re doing now?

You'd be better starting a new thread

Tell her she's an inconsiderate, nasty piece of shit and that you don’t need people in your life who only want you around when there's no better offer.

Tell her she can wait if she wants but you won't be waiting around for her apology as you have more important people to see and better things to do.

Zombie!

@pixiie

I have been waiting in a cafe for 30 mins for my friend to arrive. We planned this very last minute but I came straight from work. She has cancelled a number of planned visits recently. She has now just text me saying she is meeting her friends at 630 so won't have time to meet me.

My other friend was going to plan a spa weekend as I am moving away next week. She was talking about it for ages. Then she messages me saying that her other friend is going to visit her this weekend, but if i still wanted to we could do something. I feel so uncomfortable, its obvious shed rather be with her friend

For context I split up with a really dickheadish prick in January, physically and mentally abusive. One of the things that still rings in my head is him saying "youre just not a priority to me". So maybe I am being sensitive. I've never really had millions of friends, I probably have about 5 close (well what i considered close) friends. I just feel so lonely sitting here on my own again, I would do anything for my friends but I feel like tjey wouldn't notice if I died.

Aibu or more specifically over sensitive or would you be upset about the above?

You friends are dicks and you’re right to be upset , flowers OP

However it’s also true that without a partner/family you’ll never be anybody’s priority. You can expect people to keep specific promises made but their work family etc will always come first with friends just fitting in where possible.

As pp have advised some therapy and learning to enjoy your own company is a good idea. Also when you do meet people and stuff appreciate their company, give only as good as you get (or expect you’ll get) but remember that you are your own priority.