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To ask how to stop DH leaving coins everywhere?

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Gyoza · 29/08/2018 03:26

DH has annoying habit of leaving tiny piles of loose change from emptying out his pockets all over the place, Im fed up of scraping coppers into a jam jar which then sits round for eternity looking crap before I have to separate them all out into bags to pay in or find a charity bucket.

any tips on how to stop him from doing it in the first place? It’s a dust magnet and worried about risk of Baby finding a pile once he’s older and putting them in his mouth!

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AlmaGeddon · 29/08/2018 07:25

Don't you have a Coinstar in your Tesco - feed the money in and out comes a voucher, or it goes to charity whichever you choose.
It's my money if I have to deal with it.

serbska · 29/08/2018 07:26

Ask him to put them straight into the coin jar himself if he doesn’t want to carry change

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Gyoza · 29/08/2018 07:41

Coin trays it is. Just remembered I’ve got a MASSIVE plastic tub that pretzels came in that I was saving for DS’s toys. I’m going to put it under his desk and start emptying them into it until it becomes a massive unwieldy weight that either falls through the floor or he can add it up and take me out with the money that hasn’t gone out of circulation.

I did sit and bag up all the different ones in jars before baby came along to pay into bank but have no time now, I don’t think our bank has one of those machines but I like the idea of using the supermarket self service just don’t fancy lugging around a load of metal in my purse everytime I nip to shops!

I just don’t understand where it all comes from?!

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whereiwanttobe · 29/08/2018 08:10

I opened a Metro Bank savings account for my grandson. My partner's loose change goes in a bowl and every six weeks or so we go with my grandson to pay it in via their coin machine (everything under £1 - the £1 and £2 coins are saved for car parking). My grandson gets the full value of the coins paid in to his account; it teaches him about saving regularly; Metro give regular child savers a cash boost and his balance is growing very nicely. I don't work for Metro by the way 😊

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Gyoza · 29/08/2018 08:13

@whereiwanttobe that’s a great idea, just checked and nearest metro bank is about 400miles away, dammit!

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JynxaSmoochum · 29/08/2018 08:26

DH moults coins from his pockets. We have two coin jars, one for useful coins where excesses get loaded off and for topping up for carparks etc. There other one is for 5s, 2s and 1s that won't go in most machines. They go to coin star when it gets full. I know there's a large percentage taken, but for low denomination coins that are a PITA to use up and get value from, I don't mind. It costs about a fiver to get to the nearest bank anyway as all the suburban ones have gone.

LoisCommonDenominator84 · 29/08/2018 08:30

My husband also leaves multiple piles of loose change in a selection of currencies dotted around the house. Usually I just take them and use it for buskers, small purchases etc although I have been known to throw the coppers straight in the bin in a strop. I don’t know why we still bother with them.

Love the metro bank idea, will look into it!

Sleepyblueocean · 29/08/2018 08:34

We have a row of plastic jars with lids, one each for coppers, 5p etc. He puts them in these because he likes the sorting aspect. They just got dumped everywhere when it was mixed jars.

MongerTruffle · 29/08/2018 08:36

Most banks will have a coin machine.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 29/08/2018 08:39

When DD was resident she collected loose change, first for her, then for DGS. I find the worst ones are 5ps. The last time the washing machine jammed I found 17 of the little bastards in the pump.

Believeitornot · 29/08/2018 08:40

What did he do before you came along?

Why does it bother you so and why are you tidying up after him.... I would just collect the money, keep it, job done. If he puts it in one place, it still needs sorting - so the fundamental issue hasn’t changed.

serbska · 29/08/2018 08:42

Most banks will have a coin machine.

Not so!

Quite hard to find mixed coin machines in banks,

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Gyoza · 29/08/2018 08:43

To everyone asking why I’m tidying up after him.. I’m not! That’s why there’s piles of bloody coins everywhere!

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Whatsthispain · 29/08/2018 08:45

Yes get the coin counter money box. We then take it to coinstar. Now the dc are older, they get to keep what they find.

Believeitornot · 29/08/2018 08:46

You said you collect them all and count them up....!?

BrutusMcDogface · 29/08/2018 08:47

Why are you scurrying around picking up after him?

Stop it. Surely he would have to pick them up when he does his share of the cleaning?

This is so sneering and derogatory. It makes me feel uncomfortable not least because my dp doesn't have a "share of the cleaning"... but "scurrying around?" Not nice.

Op- I also keep the big coins for myself and put the little ones in a collection tin. He knows where the coins end up, and doesn't care. He usually also puts them in the same place.

Kewqueue · 29/08/2018 08:50

Most banks will have a coin machine.

I have never seen a coin machine in a bank.

IncrediblySturdyPyjamas · 29/08/2018 08:51

This is so sneering and derogatory. It makes me feel uncomfortable not least because my dp doesn't have a "share of the cleaning"... but "scurrying around?" Not nice.

OP said 'Im fed up of scraping coppers into a jam jar which then sits round for eternity looking crap before I have to separate them all out into bags to pay in or find a charity bucket.'

Scraping coppers into a jam jar is pretty much scurrying around after him. It makes me think of him leaving loose change for the maid.

Believeitornot · 29/08/2018 08:55

It makes me feel uncomfortable not least because my dp doesn't have a "share of the cleaning

Well the issue would be that your dp should have his fair share then.... maybe it makes you feel uncomfortable because you realise you’re being taken advantage of.

BrutusMcDogface · 29/08/2018 08:58

Yes you're absolutely right, Believe.

I suppose the op did describe "scurrying around".

Ah. Ignore me.

kaldefotter · 29/08/2018 08:59

HSBC branches also have coin machines.

It’s crazy to use the Coinstar machines - they take 10% of your own money. The person who got £250 at a Coinstar machine also gifted about £27 to the machine owners, but would have kept that if they’d gone to a bank instead.

Believeitornot · 29/08/2018 08:59

Brutus, hopefully you can tell your dp that he needs take in his fair share... my dh doesn’t do enough, but he knows that and tries.

BrutusMcDogface · 29/08/2018 09:00

Our coin collecting tin is ours, though, and not just his, which I guess is the difference. We use the money towards holiday spending money once a year!

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Gyoza · 29/08/2018 09:00

When I get fed up of them I have previously scraped them into a jam jar and counted them up to point out to him how much he leaves around and so I could stick it in the bank. Not because I am a subservient wifey but because I actually wanted to do that one day. FFS, I came on here for a bit of lighthearted advice on how to discourage an annoying habit, not to be judged for occasionally tidying up someone else’s stuff...

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OzymandiasFanClub · 29/08/2018 09:00

Men don't have purses or handbags. I'm sure this is why many of them are disorganised.

I would just collect the coins into a large container and have a giant sort out once a year. Say November, and add the proceeds to your Christmas spending. Or to buy yourself a present- if you have done all the work of collecting, sorting and converting.
Many supermarkets have the coin sorting machine.