To send my df a shitty text?

[smigglepiggle]

So, it's my birthday, understandably after a Bank Holiday the post is a bit skewed so cards from usual people haven't arrived yet. I have however had a text or a call from people as well.

Not heard anything from my dad at all. Not even a text. He has been on Facebook though posting random crap.

Dad is retired, near my house, will not be doing anything but sitting around watching tv and has quite clearly forgotten. He is old but has alerts set up on his phone so shouldn't forget to at least text me.

WIBU to send him a text at 10pm saying "Yes, why thank you for asking! I've had a lovely birthday."???

Really no need to start the conversation being arsey.

I would simply text...

'Ahem? Cough, cough...'

And leave it at that.

Happy birthday!

Why start a row? People forget stuff sometimes, unless there’s a huge backstory a text like that is a massive overreaction.

And I say that as someone whose Dad forgets stuff all the time!

DH has the same from his mother and sister.

His sister was even on FB that day wishing someone else a happy birthday.

They are selfish dicks though.

Happy birthday OP

Oh aye, happy birthday though!

YWNBU but you can choose how you react to hurtful situations.

And happy birthday!

Lol thanks everybody

It won't start an argument, he doesn't care enough for that 😂

Yabu. You need to mention your birthday a week beforehand to anyone you expect to remember.

@Frogscotch7 reminded him on Friday

Meh. Wouldn't get worked up about this. My dad would forget too if it wasn't for my mum. I'd say grow up a bit but it sounds too harsh!

Don’t say anything but don’t note his either.

I take it back then. Send him some actual shit.

Yabu You need to mention your birthday a week beforehand to anyone you expect to remember

Her own parent?!

It's not worth it.

Have you been drinking?

I know it's super childish but he's so thoughtless about everything that I let slide. I make excuses for how he prioritises his partner, how he misses important family events because I'd too much effort - surely he could remember one day?

@Racecardriver sadly not. Just pure childish pettiness bubbling away

He remembered my sil's last week as well.

@smigglepiggle and here I was imagining you as a super aggressive drunk with a pink cocktail (with a little umbrella in it) in hand.

Ooh that does sound good. A touch of resentful tequila wouldn't go amiss.

How old is your Dad? Mine is 92 now and I don't think he's remembered my birthday for the last 10 years at least!

He does sound thoughtless but sending snippy texts will put you in the wrong in his eyes.

Maintain the moral high ground and enjoy your cocktail/ spending time with people who do bother.

Also spend some time finding the crappiest possible card for his next birthday.

Oh fuck it's my lovely mil birthday today!

I forgot until I saw this thread, Iv never forgotten in 15 years of knowing her!

I need to call her right now!

My dad loves me dearly but would probably not be able to tell you my birthday.

Years from now would you look back and think "I'm glad i got annoyed with dad when he forgot my birthday" ?

Invite him round for pudding after tea tonight! Or go over there and eat cake with him! Get him to sing happy birthday to make it up to you!! :)

I would do it. I wouldn’t have waited this long