A friend, call her Anni went back to her home town for a visit. She went to the pub with an old friend, call him Dave. When the pub closed, they went back to his house to keep drinking. Dave's wife was in bed. She stayed in bed. When telling this tale Ann said she was outraged at the wife's rudeness at staying in bed. She should have, fumed Ann, got up and come to say hello. It was just rude not to, Ann insisted. I protested that she was in bed asleep, it is unreasonable to expect her to get up, make herself presentable to come and say hi. At 1am.
But everyone else agreed with Ann and were all astonished and aghast that I thought wife should have stayed in bed. 'Gosh' herworld, they said, 'I can't believe you think that. Wow.'
I'll be honest, I don't think I was being unreasonable. In fact i KNOW I wasn't. But was surprised everyone thought I was. So Mnetters, would you all seriously get out of bed and washed and dressed to be politely social to their partner's mate, who hadn't even bothered inviting them to the pub? I certainly bloody wouldn't.